Looking for a buddy who understands regain.

[smilinred 4]

Hi I am 12 years out of having my Roux-en-Y surgery. Things were great for 3 years then it went downhill fast and I've regained a lot of my weight back. Please don't lecture me on what I did wrong and how I was stupid and wasted this opportunity! You aren't in my shoes and haven't gone through what I have been in the last 12 years.And I already have been telling myself how I messed up.and am ready to turn it back around and re climb the hill and win at losing it. And if you are less than 5 years out and haven't experienced any real regain and have dealt with the following : depression, stress and deaths please don't lecture me. Even if you mean well, please don't.

I know I can do this, I just need to get started. I am here to get some support to get back on track.

[BooBee66 104]

With God prayer determination and Hard work you can do I'm 1 year out and throughout out my my Adult life have dealt with many illness deaths and struggling I'm praying for you!

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[readytolose727 55]

The past is the past, just move forward from this point on. You can do this, all things are possible through God. Keep the faith all things will work out.

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[celticNgel 144]

Hey smiling! I'm 27 years past my stomach stapling gained all my weight back and now I'm going for an RNY. You're not alone, you're not even in a room with a few people, you're in a room with a whole hell of a lot of people! You hang in there girl and remember you can't ever start over too many times. You got this! God bless you and yours.

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[Berry78 4,259]

Congrats on deciding to jump back on the wagon!

[Wyo1013 3]

Oh gosh me too. I’m almost 9 years post-op from my RNY. Lost a total of 110 pounds. Kept it all off for several years but then gained back 60. I’ve lost 10 on my own but coming here for encouragement and support to lose at least 40 more.

[sissy prosser 1]

I had a Rough en Y bypass in November of 1999. I lost all of my weight but since have gained back 42lbs. Like most of the post Im seeing I have been through some very tough times. However I am the happiest in my personal life Ive ever been. I started looking at the weight loss programs all my friends are on and I thought to myself why am I trying to do what they are since they have never had this surgery. Since my surgery I had zero post op support of follow up. My hair was falling out and my teeth are not good. I cannot chew very well since Ive lost teeth. I dont want any more side effects or symptoms. I have to relearn and get some support now. Please dont judge me. I serve in ministry and I trust Jesus If I dont take care of myself and reset my pouch I will not be healthy to serve in ministry or care for my family. Please give advice on what you have done to get back on track?

[sissy prosser 1]

Oh gosh me too. I’m almost 9 years post-op from my RNY. Lost a total of 110 pounds. Kept it all off for several years but then gained back 60. I’ve lost 10 on my own but coming here for encouragement and support to lose at least 40 more.

Have you been able to get the help and support yet. How did you reset your pouch?

[Berry78 4,259]

6 hours ago, sissy prosser said:

Since my surgery I had zero post op support of follow up. My hair was falling out and my teeth are not good. I cannot chew very well since Ive lost teeth.

Ok, first thing is to address your medical needs. Do you have a family doctor and insurance? If not, can you get them? You need annual bloodwork, for life.

The bloodwork shows what vitamins/minerals you are low on. hair and teeth falling out point to Iron and Calcium, but you are likely short on a lot of things if you haven't been taking Vitamins religiously.

Every bypass patient needs a Multivitamin and calcium citrate. Most also need B-12 and Iron.

[pamastrologer 0]

I am 16 years out, had a revision that didn’t work. I went through all the motions as those whose surgeries were successful. Mine wasn’t. A dr there told me that I would only lose 40 lbs. He had no idea of the sacrifices I made. Instead of a revision, which took a waiting period of 14 months, I did not get it done. I regained weight after complications of another surgery. We regain weight for many reasons. So, I felt like the only one who left the hospital empty handed and sad. No one is stupid for trying to be healthier. I was so upset at this “another failure” that I decided to “reset” my mind instead of thinking about the stress of regain and revision. My driving force is what motivated me. These textbook doctors and nutritionists don’t know what’s in our head. They see you for 5 minutes, get their $300-$400, and I’m left to deal with this myself. Even my family doesn’t help very well. I decided that since the drs can’t help me, I’ll be damned if I’m going to fail myself. I’m going through the motions as if I’m a brand new patient, regardless of my hunger or very painful legs. I’m going to prove that jerk dr who told me that I would only lose 40 pounds. What an idiot. I lost weight before, regained and they can’t fix it. Well, I’ll start all over, no matter what it takes. If I binge on diet chewing gum to get through the food urge, fine. It is what it is. I know what I could have done better the first time around. We have another chance because I do not believe in failure, no matter what the circumstances are. Plus, I’m probably older than you, so now I’m told more bs about age. I’m going to prove them wrong, and I’ve already done searches like MyFitnessPal.com. We can’t do anything about the past, but we can control our future. I hope this helps you in some way. - Pam