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8 hours ago, Redo2017 said:


Ok. This debate has now become a criticism of my personal choices. The reason behind this thread was not to inquire as to whether I should tell coworkers about my surgery: I carefully made the decision long ago not to divulge that information, as I made the decision not to tell them about other medical issues that I have. They have absolutely no right to that information. As a matter of fact, the laws in our country are set up to protect individuals from sharing their private medical information with their employers. To suggest that I have "risked my reputation and integrity" by exercising this legally protected right is contrary to the law, ungrounded in fact, and frankly, quite insulting. My initial inquiry sought advice on how to handle questions about my eating habits. I appreciate all of the advice I have gotten on THAT topic, but if disagreements between posters is going to make me a target for personal criticism, I'd prefer not to have the advice that comes along with it.

I am not criticizing your choices at all. I don't think you should have to disclose your choices to your boss or your co-workers and if you worked some place with better protections, or if we had better protections in general in the US you wouldn't be in this position.

You told a cover story to get time off and now you have to stick to it. Adding more layers to it, makes it more complicated and more likely that you will be detected.

I completely understand why you said hernia not VSG but your boss and co-workers might not be as understanding, at least you don't think they would be or you would have told them in the beginning. No one should be in a situation where they have to be dishonest about taking a proactive stance on their health.

Good luck OP.

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I am not criticizing your choices at all. I don't think you should have to disclose your choices to your boss or your co-workers and if you worked some place with better protections, or if we had better protections in general in the US you wouldn't be in this position.
You told a cover story to get time off and now you have to stick to it. Adding more layers to it, makes it more complicated and more likely that you will be detected.
I completely understand why you said hernia not VSG but your boss and co-workers might not be as understanding, at least you don't think they would be or you would have told them in the beginning. No one should be in a situation where they have to be dishonest about taking a proactive stance on their health.
Good luck OP.

Thanks for clarifying. I appreciate the support.


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