So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.

?????????????? round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.

Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.

Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.

This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.

Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.?

Damn ... You look so good.. this just made me tear up, how dare he.. the things we allow when we think this is it because of size, and low confidence.. I pray I can one day After my surgery to have the same courage. Your beautiful and strong.. and he know now this is it.. his comfortable world and secure setting is gone. He is pretty bold to not guard his phone knowing he doing wrong like most sneaky men do.

22 minutes ago, Gulleba said:

First off, you look amazing.
Second, you're so strong! So glad you're standing up for yourself, and getting rid of a person that treats you like this.

A beautiful, smart woman will always do good for herself. Go girl

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Thank you so much. Somebody will want to cherish this diamond ?. I'm moving forward.

14 minutes ago, chynadoll619 said:

Damn ... You look so good.. this just made me tear up, how dare he.. the things we allow when we think this is it because of size, and low confidence.. I pray I can one day After my surgery to have the same courage. Your beautiful and strong.. and he know now this is it.. his comfortable world and secure setting is gone. He is pretty bold to not guard his phone knowing he doing wrong like most sneaky men do.

Yep he is stupid on all accords. But it's okay I am moving forward with my life. God blessed me by giving me the information I needed to see. I'm good. Thank you for compliment as well.

17 minutes ago, chynadoll619 said:

Damn ... You look so good.. this just made me tear up, how dare he.. the things we allow when we think this is it because of size, and low confidence.. I pray I can one day After my surgery to have the same courage. Your beautiful and strong.. and he know now this is it.. his comfortable world and secure setting is gone. He is pretty bold to not guard his phone knowing he doing wrong like most sneaky men do.

Girl, I pray your strength in God and if you need a buddy , send me private message and we can link up. I have dealt with so much mental anguish over the last 23 years until it's ridiculous and now I'm like it's time for me to do me. I'm So happy right now but I wish I wud have done this sooner but it's never too late to learn a lesson.

42 minutes ago, JenSev said:

Your results are amazing! His loss!!

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Thank you and fed his loss

2 hours ago, Sosewsue61 said:

You got this Diana! You will still be hurt and be angry for awhile but you will also have peace. You will be able to breathe soon. Go get a massage, girl and some pampering. You look darn good!

Thank you so much. I am hurt by this n the fact that he is still lying but hey. I am moving on n thank God that I still have my sanity and every day is a bit easier.

Been working these abs doing the ab challenge I posted about maybe 4 -5 weeks ago. They are not that cut yet but I have trimmed a small bit of fat from my abdomen. I'm ready for a two piece I believe. Lol.

Can't wait until I can start to exercise

Congratulations. You're a real woman and you look amazing. Doesn't it drive you nuts hearing the same things from these losers every time **** hits the fan? Like here's an eye roll and a stfu lol. Stay strong and don't allow yourself to become bitter. You've opened up a door for positivity, keep that with you always. You'll be okay girl

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You're a beautiful queen who doesn't have to take **** from nobody. You have your revenge bod and a good head on your shoulders. Continue to slay girl because you're killing it.

34 minutes ago, Moon Princess said:

You're a beautiful queen who doesn't have to take **** from nobody. You have your revenge bod and a good head on your shoulders. Continue to slay girl because you're killing it.

Yassss girl. I'm trying to slay in every aspect of my life. But he is gonna suffer for doing me like this and then the girl text me today that they had been messing around for years and sent me all kinds of text and I was like well he is your sweetie so have a good one????

You look FABULOUS! My divorce was finalized in January. I tell everyone that I lost 220 pounds since he left!
You are beautiful and strong! God bless you!

I shared this quote from Bertrice Berry, one of my favorite quotes: "When you walk with purpose you collide with destiny" you got this!

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He is such an a*****e! You are just slaying life Queen! f**k him and the other woman! She knew you was married & still slept with him. On to new & better things!

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"I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around."

That prayer right there works everytime I swear... No matter the issue. I'm glad you got your freedom honey! Good on you!

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2 hours ago, WiseBeauty said:

"I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around."

That prayer right there works everytime I swear... No matter the issue. I'm glad you got your freedom honey! Good on you!

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What did David say" He was young and is now old and in all his years he has never seen the righteous forsaken not his seed begging for bread" God is awesome and I'm so happy now. I feel a huge sense of relief and there is no way I will let him back in my life ever. Thank you for your support.