So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.

?????????????? round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.

Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.

Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.

This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.

Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.?

I swear, when you're stopped in a road, indecisive as to which path to take, it can be such a relief to get a push in the right direction.

It may seem strange, but I recommend sending that other woman flowers. She has done you a very good deed.

7 minutes ago, Berry78 said:

I swear, when you're stopped in a road, indecisive as to which path to take, it can be such a relief to get a push in the right direction.

It may seem strange, but I recommend sending that other woman flowers. She has done you a very good deed.

OMG... my thoughts exactly. I told him n her , I thank you both for giving me the strength to do what I have been battling with for years. I'm done and free and cute and my waist is snatched.... Boy bye✌?.

Some people don't know what they have until it's gone. You can do a bad all by yourself!

You know he is cheating. I'm glad you are moving on- do not allow him to treat you that way and stay.

1 hour ago, Deactivatedfatgal said:

Some people don't know what they have until it's gone. You can do a bad all by yourself!

I totally agree... n now he is begging but it's too late.

27 minutes ago, sammy246 said:

You know he is cheating. I'm glad you are moving on- do not allow him to treat you that way and stay.

Thank you ma... I'm trying to be happy n stress free. Can't do that with him in my life anymore.

26 minutes ago, Dknal2 said:

I totally agree... n now he is begging but it's too late.

I know how you are feeling. Been through almost same situation, then he wanted to call me crying and blah blah but I'm like you were not crying when you made a fb behind my back & was creeping. Life is so much sweeter without the lies and cheating

Been working these abs doing the ab challenge I posted about maybe 4 -5 weeks ago. They are not that cut yet but I have trimmed a small bit of fat from my abdomen. I'm ready for a two piece I believe. Lol.

7 minutes ago, Deactivatedfatgal said:

I know how you are feeling. Been through almost same situation, then he wanted to call me crying and blah blah but I'm like you were not crying when you made a fb behind my back & was creeping. Life is so much sweeter without the lies and cheating

Yep he is crying n begging n he will pay all bills and blah, blah but nope not doing this again. Those are the same crappy reasons I let you come bk before but I'm done with that crap. You weren't sorry when u laid down for the second affair with her so don't be sorry now.

Hon. I'm happy for you right now. It's time to move on. God always turns what was meant for evil for His glory. You are/will be walking in His glory. That moment needed to happen so He can start your new life. Hang in there hon, I believe the moment you are officially divorced, a weight will be lifted. That's a good thing. ? Bless you hon!

And great job on your loss too! Looking very good!!!

Your doing the right thing because he has proven it will never stop !

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Any before and after surgery pictures

I'm glad you are getting out of this crappy marriage. The text message made the end a lot faster so I would be grateful for it. It seems like you were willing to go on with the emotional abuse for a long time.

If you look good and don't have any kids, men are all on you. You will have a new man before you know it. If you want one.

3 minutes ago, OutsideMatchInside said:

I'm glad you are getting out of this crappy marriage. The text message made the end a lot faster so I would be grateful for it. It seems like you were willing to go on with the emotional abuse for a long time.

If you look good and don't have any kids, men are all on you. You will have a new man before you know it. If you want one.

Thank you . I do have 3 kids .... 2 are out of the house and I have a senior in high school this upcoming year. I'm not looking for a man but if I'm blessed with a good one.. I'm all in.