So, let me first say happy Mother's Day to all of the moms on here. Secondly, I want to let you all know that I'm currently 161 lbs... which is 11 lbs away from my goal weight of 150 lbs.

?????????????? round of applause for that being that this is month 5 for me.

Tjirdky, let's discuss the topic at hand. Anyone who has followed me know that my journey with my husband has been bad . Well , it's reached an all time low. We were asleep 3 nights ago and the phone kept vibrating. I told him to answer and he wouldn't. Well we have 2 kids that are outside of the home right now so I said let me make sure it's not the kids texting him. But my gut told me this is gonna be bad. But I checked anyway. This is what I saw " You left your rubber in my bed and my baby found it""" with lil joking emoticons. OMG... my heart dropped to my toes. I felt he was cheating but didn't know for sure. Let me also put this out there. My husband had not slept with me in 3 1/2 weeks at the time. So I knew something wasn't right. I had been praying to God for a revelation in this marriage be it whatever way, good or bad because my spirit knew I wasn't being treated right and I knew he was messing around. Heck I had just caught him maybe 1 month before that trying to hookup on Facebook. So, needless to say I told him I want a divorce and this was it. No more will I be the hurt wife who is trying to sacrifice herself for her husband, nope. Already have been consulting legal counsel because it's over. Now, he swears he is gonna do right and wants his family. I told him he had 21 years to do right and if he wanted his family his penis oils have stayed in is pants.

Ohhhhhh.... here's the agonizing part for me. This is the same woman he had an affair with on me 13 years ago. Same dirty tramp. I'm like oh no that means this never ended. Which he swears it was only one time. Yep I believe that like I believe in Santa Claus. I cried for 2 days straight. Then I said forget this , on Mother's Day I put on a backless sundress ( in my new size 8 yassss) went out shopping ,had a great time with friends and felt like I was coming into my new, happier peaceful self. I am still very hurt but I thank God for revealing his evil because I don't want an std or aids because he is a hoer.

This surgery has truly changed my life. The old me would have cried and just took him bk and dealt with the pain. But not the new confident, strong Diana that this surgery helped to bring to surface. I posted before that I knew we were gonna divorce , just didn't think it was gonna be like this but it is what it is. There is someone out there who will cherish me and love me for the jewel that I am.

Thsnk you guys for all your support throughout the months. You have truly become my family.?

3 hours ago, ElleBJ said:

He is such an a*****e! You are just slaying life Queen! f**k him and the other woman! She knew you was married & still slept with him. On to new & better things!

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Yes she is a true tramp....lol. And I told him you have this up for that . Shame on you as I laughed hysterically. I am moving forward and looking forward to better n bigger things in life. 78 lbs gone and add 190( his weight) I am doing darn good???

8 hours ago, CaSteph said:

I shared this quote from Bertrice Berry, one of my favorite quotes: "When you walk with purpose you collide with destiny" you got this!

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I love that. It is so true on so many levels in life. Thank you for that.

15 hours ago, ColleenErin1974 said:

You look FABULOUS! My divorce was finalized in January. I tell everyone that I lost 220 pounds since he left!
You are beautiful and strong! God bless you!

Thank you girl... I am getting paperwork together now. Because no way in hell will he ever be in my life as a mate.

I'm so sorry. I'm remarried 17 years now. It may seem hard at first (he was a long time cheater and abusive) but I soon realized how freeing it was. You can do this and you deserve to be loved and treated like you are the only one on this planet that matters.

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Best revenge is living well. God Bless and much congrats on your weight loss journey! You are coming into the best time of your life. Changes bring good things and someone is about to be blessed with your presence. Be thankful that your husband did you wrong because it's going to bring you to the best time of your life! Don't forget to thank him for not realizing your worth, it will bring you to someone who will think the sun rises,and sets all for you. Stand tall and never settle for less than what you are worth.

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32 minutes ago, K_aane said:

Best revenge is living well. God Bless and much congrats on your weight loss journey! You are coming into the best time of your life. Changes bring good things and someone is about to be blessed with your presence. Be thankful that your husband did you wrong because it's going to bring you to the best time of your life! Don't forget to thank him for not realizing your worth, it will bring you to someone who will think the sun rises,and sets all for you. Stand tall and never settle for less than what you are worth.

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OMG ,this sent chills in my body. Thank you so much. I love that you said to "thank him for not realizing my worth because it will bring me to someone who will think the sun rises and sets all for me ". Yaaaassss, I receive that message and I am looking forward to my new king whenever Hod placed him in my life.

You are welcome:). Sometimes people get stuck focusing on what didn't happen because they stuck not realizing that the bad things can be the road that brings you to even greater blessings. Trust God knows what is best for you. You know it,already in your heart that is why you are closing the door to this man. You know you are worth better. I believe in a higher standard that I set for myself. I don't stoop to your level, you come up to mine and I don't settle. Some people would day that makes me a b***h, I disagree, it makes me a strong and confident woman who knows her worth. Know what you want and expect in your next relationship and know that it will come to you.
I am happily married 38yrs to my best friend. We tell many people, your best relationships start with yourself.

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4 minutes ago, K_aane said:

You are welcome:). Sometimes people get stuck focusing on what didn't happen because they stuck not realizing that the bad things can be the road that brings you to even greater blessings. Trust God knows what is best for you. You know it,already in your heart that is why you are closing the door to this man. You know you are worth better. I believe in a higher standard that I set for myself. I don't stoop to your level, you come up to mine and I don't settle. Some people would day that makes me a b***h, I disagree, it makes me a strong and confident woman who knows her worth. Know what you want and expect in your next relationship and know that it will come to you.
I am happily married 38yrs to my best friend. We tell many people, your best relationships start with yourself.

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You are so right. Now, at 39, I'm starting to live Diana again and feel beautiful and empowered and I wouldn't trade it for the world . Thank you.

4 minutes ago, K_aane said:

You are welcome:). Sometimes people get stuck focusing on what didn't happen because they stuck not realizing that the bad things can be the road that brings you to even greater blessings. Trust God knows what is best for you. You know it,already in your heart that is why you are closing the door to this man. You know you are worth better. I believe in a higher standard that I set for myself. I don't stoop to your level, you come up to mine and I don't settle. Some people would day that makes me a b***h, I disagree, it makes me a strong and confident woman who knows her worth. Know what you want and expect in your next relationship and know that it will come to you.
I am happily married 38yrs to my best friend. We tell many people, your best relationships start with yourself.

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You are so right. Now, at 39, I'm starting to live Diana again and feel beautiful and empowered and I wouldn't trade it for the world . Thank you.

4 minutes ago, K_aane said:

You are welcome:). Sometimes people get stuck focusing on what didn't happen because they stuck not realizing that the bad things can be the road that brings you to even greater blessings. Trust God knows what is best for you. You know it,already in your heart that is why you are closing the door to this man. You know you are worth better. I believe in a higher standard that I set for myself. I don't stoop to your level, you come up to mine and I don't settle. Some people would day that makes me a b***h, I disagree, it makes me a strong and confident woman who knows her worth. Know what you want and expect in your next relationship and know that it will come to you.
I am happily married 38yrs to my best friend. We tell many people, your best relationships start with yourself.

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You are so right. Now, at 39, I'm starting to live Diana again and feel beautiful and empowered and I wouldn't trade it for the world . Thank you.

You go girl. And if you hit,a rough patch, you look me up. I will inspire you and ruffle up those beautiful feathers and get you strutting again!


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I am so sorry to have read this. It is a shame that it had to happen like this. You seem to be a pretty strong woman and you will find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. I am sending you prayers and the best wishes that I possibly can.

Stay strong.

How are you today Dknal2 feeling any better

30 minutes ago, Redmaxx said:

I am so sorry to have read this. It is a shame that it had to happen like this. You seem to be a pretty strong woman and you will find someone who will treat you like you deserve to be treated. I am sending you prayers and the best wishes that I possibly can.

Stay strong.

Thank you for your prayers, I appreciate it. I'm just trying to rebuild in myself what has been broken for so long. God is a healer of all things including broken hearts and spirits and I trust in him to keep me thru the good and the bad. I'm loving myself right now not just because my body looks good ( not boasting or anything ) just saying I'm loving coming in to myself and accepting me.

11 minutes ago, bigjoe1234 said:

How are you today Dknal2 feeling any better

Yes , thanks for checking on me. I had a wonderful mom day and post mom day. I am going to be just fine. God has me and I am praying my way through this. Pic of me at park. I look important , lol

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