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I have lost almost 90 pounds and I am thrilled with the way I look, the issue is I think I am going crazy. I am yelling and angry all the time. I have no patience with people, especially my husband and daughter. I have so much rage inside of me and I never was like this before the weight lose. I was the jolly, happy person, or was I?

I think I mask a lot of my feeling through food, but now that I am not eating is the real me shining through? I hope not, because I do not like the new me inside, but love the person I see on the outside. I need help and do not know if this is normal or just me? Any advice would be appreciated.

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Congratulations on your weight loss! If anger is the way you're responding you have to figure out what thoughts you're thinking to make yourself angry and allowing you to treat people badly. It's the thoughts you're thinking that is making you angry. Change your thoughts and change your behaviour. Possibly you feel like you're missing out, possibly you feel you deserve better and it's making you resentful which is fuelling your anger. Losing weight is not synonymous with being angry. From my personal experience I have slightly less patience cause I'm not stuffing my feelings but I always ask myself what would be the most loving response. It's not always easy but worth it.


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As you lose weight, the chemicals and hormones that were stored in your fat cells are being released into your body. These will pass through your kidneys and are expelled in your urine. But they can generate a flush of hormones during the weight loss phase. They should simmer down once you transition into maintenance. It is important to meet your daily Fluid requirements, because it take fluids to flush these hormones from your system.

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I am 9 mos. out from gastric bypass, and I could have written this myself. I've lost the same amount of weight and been having the same issues. It's horrible. Very good advice from blondie66. I will be putting forth the effort to change my thought patterns and see if it helps. Not an easy thing to do, but completely makes sense. Please keep us posted if you find anything else that works for you, and know that you're not alone.

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I hope you're feeling better now. I was looking for threads in the forum on this subject because I've lost almost 100 lbs and I feel like I'm going crazy. Maybe it's hormones. A few weeks ago I felt like I wanted to have sex with anyone and everyone and a week later felt like I didn't want to be around anyone. A few days later reflecting on this rapid change in emotions and moods I got extremely weepy and became dehydrated from crying so much. I felt like I was absolutely crazy and luckily my friend talked me down. I was weepy and also beating up on myself and feeling helpless for my future as a sane person. My therapist wants me to talk to the surgeon's nurse about hormonal changes and see if maybe I need a referral to someone for treatment of the hormonal effects. I literally have no idea what's going to happen to make me either mad or very sad and crying on any given day. Lord help me!


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