And ate four pieces of Valentines Day candy. And I am pissed. My stomach hurts and I wish I didn't do it. I am pmsing like a monster and I just really wanted them. I enjoyed every bite, but I am angry with myself now. But I'm over it and it won't happen again. My question is... I get that no one is perfect and we will make mistakes and slip up occasionally. How do you deal? Accept it and move on? Do I allow myself ONE piece of candy when the urge gets insane (for me, that only when I am pmsing) so I don't go crazy?

I was sleeved 12/21/16

Are you pre or post op?

I'd just accept it and move on. Like you said no one is perfect!!

Ugh, I always forget that... sorry. I was sleeved 12/21/16.

I was having a rough day yesterday with Valentines. I wanted chocolate. I settled for chocolate fairlife milk. It was amazing and high in protein

When I went to my 3 week postop appointment and spoke to the psychologist, she was afraid I was being too much of a perfectionist with my diet. She said to take a 90/10 approach. Eat on plan at least 90% of the time. But allow yourself to indulge occasionally when it's really important to you and do it in a small way (i.e. small slice of birthday cake on your kid's birthday, ice cream cone on a hot day, etc). I think a few pieces of candy falls into that category especially if you really, really wanted it.

I like that approach! Thanks!

I also like that approach, BUT it is easy to lose track. What about making the exceptions on major holidays, birthdays, and anniversaries. That way they can be planned for and looked forward to

I like that approach too, lol. Yeah, I could see it becoming an issue if I allow it too often

Once in a great while when I have an uncontrollable sweet tooth I eat sugar free russel stouffers turtles. They are delicious. You cannot tell the are sugar free at all. Again, it's only every once in a while because they have a few carbs. But they take away the sweet tooth! Also, HALO protein icecream is a life saver! They have like 17 flavors. I suggest everyone try the birthday cake one and the s'mores one. Oh and mint chocolate chip is to die for also!


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If I want something, I have a small amount. If you force yourself to NEVER have anything unheathy ever again I feel it's setting yourself up for failure in the long run. My nutritionists agrees that if you want something, just have it. It only becomes an issue when ALL you are eating is bad things. I like to treat myself with ghiradelli mini dark chocolate squares. They are only 36 calories a square but the definitely take care of my sweet tooth. I carry one with me at all times so if I am out I don't break down and buy something worse.

I found that at dairy queen they have a sugar free dilly bar and im only 3 weeks opt and they are so good

You enjoyed it, it's over, let it go! I like the 9/10 approach. I do something similar, but never heard it in those terms. If I didn't allow myself a bit of treat, I'd binge and start a dangerous guilt cycle which would just lead to more binging.

I've also noticed that if I have a strong craving and I try to sub it with something healthy, I end up giving in later anyways. Then I've eaten twice as much. I give in when it's a strong craving, ignore the small cravings, learn to identify head hunger vs actual hunger, and I've been able to stay on track for the long run.

My surgical team told me that my sleeve would work if I could be compliant 85% of the time. Knowing that nothing is actually forbidden (according to my plan-- but there are things I don't think I'll ever eat or drink again; carbonated anything and rice, for instance-- also French fries ) psychologically liberates me and I don't have the guilt issues. I actually adhere to my plan about 95% of the time.

Like others said, what is done is done, so there isn't much you can do about it now. But, I would encourage to think about why this happened, and what you can do to keep these kind of things from happening in the future. Establishing a healthy relationship with food and changing habits is essential to success in this journey. There are a great many people out there who lost weight during the honeymoon period and gained every bit of it back (and more in some cases) because they never changed their relationship with food.

Good luck.

23 hours ago, Merm12210 said:

And ate four pieces of Valentines Day candy. And I am pissed. My stomach hurts and I wish I didn't do it. I am pmsing like a monster and I just really wanted them. I enjoyed every bite, but I am angry with myself now. But I'm over it and it won't happen again. My question is... I get that no one is perfect and we will make mistakes and slip up occasionally. How do you deal? Accept it and move on? Do I allow myself ONE piece of candy when the urge gets insane (for me, that only when I am pmsing) so I don't go crazy?

I was sleeved 12/21/16

You're right in thinking that we ALL have these moments...you have to have a plan for what to do when the urge hits. I've found that activity nearly erases any cravings I have, plus when my head says 'hey, eat that!!', I go for Water first. That often does away with the craving.

The other thing....don't expose yourself to the things that lead you off-plan. As soon as I started eyeing the bowl of candy at Christmas, I put it in a ziplock and sent it to my husband's office. I've stopped buying crackers. Not one single solitary sweet baked good has entered this house since I had my surgery. Candy, crackers and muffins/scones are my kryptonite, so they're not allowed to sit around my kitchen.

Good luck!