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Lise2021    15

Lise2021
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Anybody got that family member thats still giving you advice on how to lose weight after surgery and what they and other people are doing; and then buys the Protein shakes you have as a "meal replacement" for themselves, but doesn't change a thing about their diet. Also, they don't usually cook, but now all of a sudden your kitchen has become an all you can eat buffet. *rolling eyes!

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Malin    470

Malin
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They're bringing in food? ??? to your kitchen? oh heck no

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By "family member" do you mean a member of your own household?

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I have an older sister who lives a few blocks from me. I visited her yesterday and it always frustrates me how unrealistic she is. I told her i weighed in at 205 yesterday at my post op appointment. Im so close to being out of the 2s. She asks me why don't i go back to liquids because i don't seem to be losing fast enough or something along those lines. Then she started going in about how all these people on her job are into intermittent fasting right now and if i thought of doing that. I told her this isn't a "diet". Yeah i have to be careful about what i eat but i changed the size of my stomach to get away from fad and crash diets. Im finally starting to get a healthier mindset around food and she just keeps dragging me into the deep end. I have a long history of eating disorders. It's very easy for me to rationalize not eating for long stretches and to feel guilty for eating anything. Im slowly turning that around. My family has a very unhealthy relationship with food. And it just irks me when i see her and she wants to talk weight and try to give me tips. She always seems disappointed with my rate of loss but she is still just as big as she's always been. I have been trying to tell her for years that crash dieting doesn't work long term but i don't think it's clicked.

She knows she needs to get her act together but things just can't seem to click for her. Im just going to do what I've been doing. I can't let her negativity effect my life and health. She can see-saw in weight all she wants but im tired of it. I need to get healthy mentally and physically and i have to find the best path for me. She'll get it one day i hope. Sorry this was so long but it's been irritating me for a while.

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Lise2021    15

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They're bringing in food???? to your kitchen? oh heck no

I live with my family so this is what I have to deal with, but it annoys me more so than bothers me.

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By "family member" do you mean a member of your own household?

Yup

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Lise2021    15

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I have an older sister who lives a few blocks from me. I visited her yesterday and it always frustrates me how unrealistic she is. I told her i weighed in at 205 yesterday at my post op appointment. Im so close to being out of the 2s. She asks me why don't i go back to liquids because i don't seem to be losing fast enough or something along those lines. Then she started going in about how all these people on her job are into intermittent fasting right now and if i thought of doing that. I told her this isn't a "diet". Yeah i have to be careful about what i eat but i changed the size of my stomach to get away from fad and crash diets. Im finally starting to get a healthier mindset around food and she just keeps dragging me into the deep end. I have a long history of eating disorders. It's very easy for me to rationalize not eating for long stretches and to feel guilty for eating anything. Im slowly turning that around. My family has a very unhealthy relationship with food. And it just irks me when i see her and she wants to talk weight and try to give me tips. She always seems disappointed with my rate of loss but she is still just as big as she's always been. I have been trying to tell her for years that crash dieting doesn't work long term but i don't think it's clicked.

She knows she needs to get her act together but things just can't seem to click for her. Im just going to do what I've been doing. I can't let her negativity effect my life and health. She can see-saw in weight all she wants but im tired of it. I need to get healthy mentally and physically and i have to find the best path for me. She'll get it one day i hope. Sorry this was so long but it's been irritating me for a while.

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No problem honey! Rant all day if you will, cause this is what this post is for me. Like they'll offer me food knowing damn well I can't eat that. They need to get they life, cause I got mine. I don't understand why people disagree with what you're doing, but then in reality they're doing and wanting the same thing just differently.

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Torriluv87    300

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I have an older sister who lives a few blocks from me. I visited her yesterday and it always frustrates me how unrealistic she is. I told her i weighed in at 205 yesterday at my post op appointment. Im so close to being out of the 2s. She asks me why don't i go back to liquids because i don't seem to be losing fast enough or something along those lines. Then she started going in about how all these people on her job are into intermittent fasting right now and if i thought of doing that. I told her this isn't a "diet". Yeah i have to be careful about what i eat but i changed the size of my stomach to get away from fad and crash diets. Im finally starting to get a healthier mindset around food and she just keeps dragging me into the deep end. I have a long history of eating disorders. It's very easy for me to rationalize not eating for long stretches and to feel guilty for eating anything. Im slowly turning that around. My family has a very unhealthy relationship with food. And it just irks me when i see her and she wants to talk weight and try to give me tips. She always seems disappointed with my rate of loss but she is still just as big as she's always been. I have been trying to tell her for years that crash dieting doesn't work long term but i don't think it's clicked.

She knows she needs to get her act together but things just can't seem to click for her. Im just going to do what I've been doing. I can't let her negativity effect my life and health. She can see-saw in weight all she wants but im tired of it. I need to get healthy mentally and physically and i have to find the best path for me. She'll get it one day i hope. Sorry this was so long but it's been irritating me for a while.

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No problem honey! Rant all day if you will, cause this is what this post is for me. Like they'll offer me food knowing damn well I can't eat that. They need to get they life, cause I got mine. I don't understand why people disagree with what you're doing, but then in reality they're doing and wanting the same thing just differently.

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Omg right?! She keeps trying to tell me how i should lose weight. I think she's trying to live vicariously through me because she was in the process of getting lap bad years ago but pulled out. She says it's because her husband didn't want her to at the last minute but i think she just got scared. So she and our oldest sister have been trying to push me into this surgery for years. I wasnt ready then, i felt like it wouldn't have been entirely my decision. I wish I'd have done it back then but im glad i waited. I feel more mentally prepared now than before.

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Lise2021    15

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I have an older sister who lives a few blocks from me. I visited her yesterday and it always frustrates me how unrealistic she is. I told her i weighed in at 205 yesterday at my post op appointment. Im so close to being out of the 2s. She asks me why don't i go back to liquids because i don't seem to be losing fast enough or something along those lines. Then she started going in about how all these people on her job are into intermittent fasting right now and if i thought of doing that. I told her this isn't a "diet". Yeah i have to be careful about what i eat but i changed the size of my stomach to get away from fad and crash diets. Im finally starting to get a healthier mindset around food and she just keeps dragging me into the deep end. I have a long history of eating disorders. It's very easy for me to rationalize not eating for long stretches and to feel guilty for eating anything. Im slowly turning that around. My family has a very unhealthy relationship with food. And it just irks me when i see her and she wants to talk weight and try to give me tips. She always seems disappointed with my rate of loss but she is still just as big as she's always been. I have been trying to tell her for years that crash dieting doesn't work long term but i don't think it's clicked.

She knows she needs to get her act together but things just can't seem to click for her. Im just going to do what I've been doing. I can't let her negativity effect my life and health. She can see-saw in weight all she wants but im tired of it. I need to get healthy mentally and physically and i have to find the best path for me. She'll get it one day i hope. Sorry this was so long but it's been irritating me for a while.

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No problem honey! Rant all day if you will, cause this is what this post is for me. Like they'll offer me food knowing damn well I can't eat that. They need to get they life, cause I got mine. I don't understand why people disagree with what you're doing, but then in reality they're doing and wanting the same thing just differently.

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Omg right?! She keeps trying to tell me how i should lose weight. I think she's trying to live vicariously through me because she was in the process of getting lap bad years ago but pulled out. She says it's because her husband didn't want her to at the last minute but i think she just got scared. So she and our oldest sister have been trying to push me into this surgery for years. I wasnt ready then, i felt like it wouldn't have been entirely my decision. I wish I'd have done it back then but im glad i waited. I feel more mentally prepared now than before.

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That's family for you. I guess we can use it as prep for the outsiders.

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I moved back in with my parents after my divorce. My mom asks me daily if I lost any weight and she totally cannot understand the concept of a stall. I just finished my first stall which lasted for 2.5 weeks. The entire time she made suggestions daily, maybe I'm eating too much, maybe I need to take a Water pill, maybe I need to call the doctor and tell him I've stopped losing, maybe I need to exercise more. The list goes on and on. Here I was trying to " embrace the stall" and she was making me nuts about it. I started telling her now mom Google this and research before you give me suggestions about something you know nothing about. Boggled my mind though, she just couldn't get it through her head that I actually wasn't doing anything wrong.

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