I don't plan on telling a soul. Not even my mom except maybe to say I'm going to Mexico for the weekend and to check up on me. Any vets who went the same route? How did you deal with questions? Any pre-op folks deciding to keep it to themselves?

Only my husband, kids and 1 non judgmental friend knows. I told my mom that I have a hiatal hernia and have to have surgery ( that part is true) I'll never hear the end of it if she knows I'm having WLS

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Thank you! I am just so used to disappointing myself. But I am working hard to get over myself so I don't sabotage my progress.

Please don't expect to fail because you will. Expect to lose weight, feel better, and get healthy and you will. It takes work on our part, but it is the best thing I've done for me. You can be successful!

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I thought I was the only one who keept secret, just my 3 BBf knew, my close fam but nit coworkers or friends so when I got it done ppl were amazed how HOT I was lol...even not everybody knows thatvI got my sleev they think I just lost weight doing diets..not everyone has to know I think this is so private and its ok to keep it to yourself!!!

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The whole world knows - bit difficult not to as have never lost weight & sustained it - I have had nothing but support & admiration (that was a shocker) so far & anyone who wants to comment negatively, bring it on, been fielding unwanted tirades of abuse all my life so 'whatever' ????

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I didn't tell everyone, but did confide in my mom,brother, kids, and some close friends. When I explained my reasons behind my decision (several co-morbidity conditions), even my naysayers backed off and were supportive. Had my surgery two days ago, and at this point have had no problems with nausea. Quite sore today, but that is mostly from incision sites. Good luck to all!

I am. I've told only the people who need to know! Not my mom or family. I didn't want to leave room for negativity!!! Good luck to everyone

Only my husband and my sister know. I wasn't going to tell my sister but I did because we don't keep secrets like that. I live out of state so my plan is to tell everyone I started a strict program ( I did) + hitting the gym hard starting Jan 1. I likely wont see my family until April-June. I could be knocking on my goal weight by then so I know I'll have a lot of explaining to do.

I'm only telling my husband and if I didn't need a driver to and from the hospital, I wouldn't have told him. He is cool with me having the surgery (sleeve). This is a very personal mission to me and there's only room for one person in the saddle.

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I told a friend tonight so much for keeping it a secret. They were surprisingly supportive. I still wish I hadn't said anything with my big mouth lmao

Just had mine today. Only my kids and husband know. A few others have heard I am having surgery and I told them it was minor tried to change the subject.

I am worried about what people will say but trying not to care. It's not the easy way out! It's about doing what healthiest for me. It's not as if I haven't done everything I could to lose weight before turning to this. I did have moderate success (20 lbs) when I was killing my self at boot camps. Still no where what I needed and my body was just falling apart. You can only push your body so far when your 42. Wish we didn't have to feel like it needed to be kept secret.

Almost 2 years out, and I still keep it a secret except for family. Telling my dad was a big mistake though, all he ever wants to talk about is my surgery or some aspect of it. I took him to a game I got tickets for with a group of coworkers and he started talking about how much I could eat since surgery in front of everyone! But it turns out, no one really cares, or they become spiteful . I am pretty sure most my work friends think I am a drug addict due to being gaunt and thin.

I'm so excited I can't keep it a secret. People will know anyway when I start dropping pounds.

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I told my husband of course...my 2 best friends and 1 co worker I consider a friends...didn't want anyone stressing me out...

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I will only be telling My husband, my dad, & a very close friend, (she was so excited for me she told 2 good friends of hers before she knew I was keeping it a secret). I don't know if I will tell my mom, she can be judgmental. None of my in-laws will ever know. No one else will probably ever know, including my very good friend. She is totally against WLS & has never known a fat day in her life.

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I've been overweight most of my life. Every one in my family is skinny, with a few being 20-30lbs overweight. A few years ago I was going to have the surgery done in the states (I'm in Canada) and my mum took a month off of work before I even had a surgery date booked. She was DISTURBINGLY excited.

I'm not telling anyone because my weight loss alone will be 'exciting' to my family and friends. I don't want to draw attention to myself, just because I happen to be the only fat person in my family. I don't want my entire family at the hospital, smiling at me, cheering me on, and being excited for me. As supportive as all that sounds, what I really feel when they encourage me to have wls is this 'we've been disgusted with the way that you've looked all these years, and we can't WAIT until you're FINALLY as skinny as us'

Soooo, yeah. I plan on staying away from my family for a while after I have the surgery. Thank god I'm a student, so I can blame my weight loss on a hectic schedule, eating 'right', and using the gym at school. I was in a car accident in January, so someone might realize that working out with a knee injury like mine is nearly impossible, but they'll be so 'happy' with my weight loss, I think they'll suspend their thought process on the subject.

I am worried that I'll need someone to take care of me the first few weeks out of the hospital though. What do you guys think? Should I tell at least 1 person? Will I need someone to take care of me, or is it ok to do this on my own?