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Who is choosing to keep surgery a secret?

I don't plan on telling a soul. Not even my mom except maybe to say I'm going to Mexico for the weekend and to check up on me. Any vets who went the same route? How did you deal with questions? Any pre-op folks deciding to keep it to themselves?

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I don't plan on telling a soul. Not even my mom except maybe to say I'm going to Mexico for the weekend and to check up on me. Any vets who went the same route? How did you deal with questions? Any pre-op folks deciding to keep it to themselves?

My husband is the only one who knows I'm considering the sleeve and he will be the only one.

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It's quite scary to hear people say "not telling a soul" if people in your lives can't support a desicion you are making to better yourself, surround yourself with better people. A MAJOR part of succeeding with this journey is a support system.

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It's quite scary to hear people say "not telling a soul" if people in your lives can't support a desicion you are making to better yourself, surround yourself with better people. A MAJOR part of succeeding with this journey is a support system.

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I am on a forum with several wls patients. I don't have to make my family or friends my support system.

I really prefer to keep this as a secret, I don't know why!? so just my immediate family and 2 of my close friends know about my surgery and i told to any one else that i am on a strict diet which is true!

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I haven't told many people. Only immediate family knows plus one nay sayer. I realized I didn't want to field the "oh you're just going the easy route" comment. That's just ignorance. Besides, I know what I want and what I'm doing and am not looking for approval.

I apologize in advance for negative people who will hurt your feelings. I know what it's like to feel like you are finally doing something good for yourself and being shot down by others.

Best of Luck!!!

Only my children and husband know. Haven't even told my brother or sister. Not even my closest friend. This is personal to me right now, eventually I'll tell my siblings and friend what I've done but right now, no.

Good question! I have told close friends, my kids, and just one person at work. I have to tell my principal I am going to be out for surgery but feel I don't have to say for what because of privacy laws. When too many people know you are under a microscope, checking in you, seeing if you succeed or fail much like regular dieting.

I'm retiring in June so I don't have to explain except that I am dieting. I'm not going to act like I finally found the miracle diet. I will tell people I am close with and trust what I did when they see the results. I want positivity not negativity in my life.

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Ive told all my close friends and my immediate family, there is no sense in hidding it, they know i exercise and they know I diet, I guess I am just lucky nobody told me any BS

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My husband and my two grown children know. I

Also told a friend and her husband as she had surgery right after thanksgiving. I do have a hernia and am getting my band out. I told work that much.

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