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So, not sure how to handle it when people ask me why?

hdw85

By hdw85, in Gastric Bypass Surgery Forums

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hdw85    48

hdw85
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So I am about 5 months post op, I've lost 67lbs.. well I went to a spaghetti benefit dinner for a friends mom today. I wanted to go and show my support and make my donation, but couldn't eat the spaghetti. What was awkward was after I sat down, and the people around me noticed I wasn't eating, even though some people were already done.. so it's not like I was the only one not eating.. anyways.. like 4 people asked me why aren't you eating? I just said oh I'm okay.. and they just sort of looked at me.. I don't feel like I should have to tell every acquaintance my story and why I'm not eating spaghetti and cake? Idk what else to say in a situation like that..

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HolliPsalms91    10

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I'd say that you are trying to get healthy so you can't eat spaghetti but came to show your support anyway. That is a great thing to do and I'd hope they are more concerned with the cause than your plate:) keep it simple and act nonchalant. If you don't make it a big deal neither should they

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Treadmillwalker    486

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I ate before I came, but wanted to attend and show my support and offer my donation.

Had lapband surgery 10/12/16

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My4Brownies    283

My4Brownies
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Great responses.. I need that for the upcoming holidays????

Sleeved November 9th

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Travelher    915

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I say I am eating low carb...which is true

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Travelher    915

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I did have someone ask why I'm not drinking wine though...I told them I have acid reflux. Which is also true.

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Vinasu    621

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I also say that I'm eating low carb. No one has ever questioned further.

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Lema    236

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They probably think you have developed an eating disorder. Let them think whatever they want. When you reach a healthy weight and work on maintaining it, they would know that they were making wrong assumptions.

People in general just need new topics to entertain themselves by. You do your own thing and focus on your health. It used to irritate me so much when people at work would comment on what I am or not I am not eating. I am a grown up and I was over weight. Leave me alone.

It's even worse with our culture because putting food in someone else's plate is not a crazy thing to do and that is what they do. They just fill your plate with stuff and expect you to politely finish it up and thank them. Grrrrrr!

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#BirdDog    604

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"I saw someone sneeze in the spaghetti, it ruined my appetite." - that'd probably stop all the questions :)

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ppressey24    254

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#dogbird, that is a great idea. Let that sit with them as they just finished pigging out, theyll be the ones that wanna go and throw up....lol

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Oh sorry, i got thr name wrong, i meant #birddog.....lol

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Mindy78    372

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I just say it's not on my diet but I wanted to support event. As we had a Soup dinner at a sister church. I had Soup no sandwich drink or desert. Most take that answer. As far as eating less also my diet is I eat less

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twhy48    7

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I'm a big fan of "I ate before I came, or I had a huge lunch"

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Odie    249

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I always say I'm dieting and the doctor gave me a healthy diet so I ate before I came!!

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