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kittykatlover    50

kittykatlover
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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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marnie86meg    1

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Some people are just igorant and rude. I use to worry about what people would think about my decision for WLS. I know in my heart that this is for me. I can't wait for the surgery. Hopefully it will be in September or October. Tried all kinds of diets and unfortunately no success. Good luck with your journey...

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ProudGrammy    8,322

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Don't they realize it is a tool , you still have to eat better

@@kittykatlover

No, many don't believe/understand that :blink:

i hear my family saying things like,

"oh, you don't have to do anything special now with eating"

you had surgery - you have a small stomach - you have it easy

what, are you kidding me!!!? :o

(i don't say that)

i used to "defend" myself and the surgery

tell them that's not the way things work!!

never was a reason to speak up like that,

don't do anymore

many people choose not to tell OP about surgery

one reason would be your friends response

good luck with upcoming surgery

kathy

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Starlitlove08    2

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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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I used to think that to. I had been told for years that I needed it and I wasn't ready to take such a permanent syep yet when I didn't feel like I had exhausted all other options first. It just means they aren't ready to take that step. I always knew surgery would be difficult, that's why I put it off.

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Starlitlove08    2

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I used to think that to. I had been told for years that I needed it and I wasn't ready to take such a permanent syep yet when I didn't feel like I had exhausted all other options first. It just means they aren't ready to take that step. I always knew surgery would be difficult, that's why I put it off.

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ocgirl15    667

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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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Your success might convince her to take her doctors recommendation seriously! Hope she sees the light and gets healthy. But this is about you right? Congrats on your decision!

So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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Your success might convince her to take her doctors recommendation seriously! Hope she sees the light and gets healthy. But this is about you right? Congrats on your decision!

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Panda Chai    14

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Because there are too many idiots out there, and I would consider myself a private person, I chose only to tell my immediate family. I told my coworkers that I would be out 2 weeks having Gall Bladder surgery. That way no one has to form an opinion.....The surgery is a catalyst but it is in no way the easy way out. Its a life changing decision that will ultimately give you a longer life and a healthier one.

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liposuction68    178

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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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My answer to them immediately after that kind of answer " I know i can do it by eating get right and exercising" is and will always be "You go Girl I know you can do it" and leave it at that.. ;) ;) ;)

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FabFatFish    13

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Gah! I use to get responses like that too. The last one was, "I really think you are selling yourself short. You can do this without surgery." Responses like that minimize your struggle and journey. I don't talk about it anymore with people who are not my immediate family or best friends. It's a small group of 6 people on this planet.

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fatgirlsvelte    217

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I have told two people at work—and have requested absolute privacy which they have honored. Should it get around though, I know comments like this will come out.

Don't defend. This is a TOUGH decision we make, and if someone says "they could do it," then they need to follow through. Reactions like that are a mirror of their own trepidation. Rock on lady.

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gary5862    208

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The only person I've told is my wife. She is the only one that needs to know.

I tell my coworkers what my diet is it they ask how I'm losing weight and they think I'm just crazy.

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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I thought for a long time I could do it myself because I would always have success for a while with low carbing. The thing that people who haven't had WLS don't know is that post WLS it is a lot easier to stick to a healthy eating plan because of the lack of hunger and mental/physical disconnect. WLS isn't the easy way out, you still need will power, but if it makes it a lot easier to resist. I would have never imagined a life without feeling hungry and having head hunger rule my life. People just don't get it.

And everyone thinks they are going to be in that magical 5 % that lose weight on their own and keep it off.

I have an associate who told me their Dr told them to consider WLS because their weight keeps fluctuating. They said they didn't want to give up carbs and would rather be fat. You can't help some people.

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KristenLe    5,979

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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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When she's still obese and you're not - just say "how's that diet working for you?"! Hehehe.

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kayse    25

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So I bit the bullet today and told someone I work with about having bariatric surgery. She mentioned to me her doctors have recommended it to her. The next thing out of her mouth really shocked me. She said she knows she can do it by eating get right and exercising. Do people really think that having bariatric surgery is a miracle and you wake up the next day skinny. Don't they realize it us a tool in the journey and you still have to eat better and exercise.

Just had to vent...

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I have only told a few friends. Once you tell co workers it opens up a whole world of unsolicited advice that doesn't need space in your head.

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kittykatlover    50

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Thank you everyone. The only reason I told her was because she is my Director and I wanted her to be aware of what was going on. I have been taking quite a bit of time off lately and don't want it to jeopardize my job. I did ask her not to day anything to anyone and I believe she will hold up on that.

Glad I am doing this. Reading everyone's stories have been inspiring.

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