So I've been overweight since I was a child, and lets just say I'm not used to guys looking at me - at least without thinking that it was just because I was overweight or they were disgusted. But now I feel like a lot of guys are looking at me in the gym and I have no clue if its because I'm attractive, I have sweat marks on my clothes (gross but it is the gym... lol), or whatever reason I come up with (such as my butt is too big) .

I get that a lot of my problem is with my self image, but how do I know if its because they find me attractive, or for a whole other reason. I'm just very inexperienced with male attention and how to react to it Guys, what is your input on this? Ladies, have you dealt with this before? Any advice is appreciated!

And its not like I'm wearing anything revealing, at least not in my opinion.

@@KindaFamiliar

You have been checked out and stalked by me. Start curling dumbbells while you text. We can consider it the gym

@@Steph0625

Oh what I'd give to have a weird woman acting creepy..

I'd wife her in a heartbeat...

@@jenn1

Awwwwwwwww...

You're so sweet...

And creepy...

But sweet...

And creepy...

Are you implying that is a negative or a positive? FYI, I don't have a single friend that has ever said he prefers a flat/small butt.

...or whatever reason I come up with (such as my butt is too big) .

I can see why you are being checked out/stalked in the gym @@Steph0625 id be guilty of checking you out too! you too @@jenn1! beautiful ladies catch eyes wherever they go! after all we deal with to get to this point in our journey we all deserve to be checked out and hit on but not by creepy mccreeperson lol. just go in the gym and do your thing! keep smiling knowing you are being checked out and enjoy it! you deserve it!

So...

Why aren't I getting hit on at the gym??

Everyone else is!!!

Women are probably way less aggressive at the gym, but I can assure you, I am checking out most guys at the gym. LOL

I think I'm still a few pounds away from the checked out/hit on stage...

So for now I'll have to settle for the attentions of the crazies in here...

And I'm ok with that...

@@Chrystee I wish we shared the same gym!!!!!

Are you implying that is a negative or a positive? FYI, I don't have a single friend that has ever said he prefers a flat/small butt.

...or whatever reason I come up with (such as my butt is too big) .

Well I've always had a large butt and it used to be not very attractive (to me at least) lol and it seems so disproportionate to the rest of me now. I'm not a guy so I don't know what they find attractive or not. I'd rather have a big butt than none at all so I guess I consider it a positive thing!

Well, if you're in yoga pants and have caught guys looking, then I think you have your answer. If you're still concerned, feel free to message me pictures in tight pants, I have no problem giving feedback. jk

Well I've always had a large butt and it used to be not very attractive (to me at least) lol and it seems so disproportionate to the rest of me now. I'm not a guy so I don't know what they find attractive or not. I'd rather have a big butt than none at all so I guess I consider it a positive thing!

@@Chrystee I wish we shared the same gym!!!!!

Haha.. Ok! I have a feeling you'd give me a serious workout.

@@Chrystee I wish we shared the same gym!!!!!

Haha.. Ok! I have a feeling you'd give me a serious workout.

you better believe I sure would! Then I'd follow up with a hot shower, candlelight dinner and a massage! I guarantee the next day at work we would both be smiling!

Haha good to know about the yoga pants! The mystery is solved!

So...

Why aren't I getting hit on at the gym??

Everyone else is!!!

There are three types that hit on me. Men, Silver Sneakers, and recent divorcees.

It's always flattering, but it's not always what you are wanting!

@@BigViffer

While I'm not a fussy man, I do draw the line at men...

I'm not one for the doodle-touching..

Not that there's anything wrong with that...

@@KindaFamiliar doodle touching????

eewwww