So I've been overweight since I was a child, and lets just say I'm not used to guys looking at me - at least without thinking that it was just because I was overweight or they were disgusted. But now I feel like a lot of guys are looking at me in the gym and I have no clue if its because I'm attractive, I have sweat marks on my clothes (gross but it is the gym... lol), or whatever reason I come up with (such as my butt is too big) .

I get that a lot of my problem is with my self image, but how do I know if its because they find me attractive, or for a whole other reason. I'm just very inexperienced with male attention and how to react to it Guys, what is your input on this? Ladies, have you dealt with this before? Any advice is appreciated!

And its not like I'm wearing anything revealing, at least not in my opinion.

@@jane13

Relaaaax...

Nobody is forcing you..

Now stop 'mentioning' me on multiple threads...

People will talk...

And I'll definitely get confused...

Remember - I'm pretty, not smrt...

And I'll definitely get confused...

Remember - I'm pretty, not smrt...

bahahahaha and bossy.............

@@Christinamo7

If you all did as you were told the first time I'd not seem so bossy...

It's all a journey and I'll just have to work on that part I guess. I'm still super shy too so I have a hard time making eye contact with guys

Me too! If I ever get married, it will be a miracle, because I'm way too intimidated to flirt.

It's all a journey and I'll just have to work on that part I guess. I'm still super shy too so I have a hard time making eye contact with guys

Me too! If I ever get married, it will be a miracle, because I'm way too intimidated to flirt.

Oh, I don't think you will suffer single life too long. Just flash that smile from your avatar and the men will come running.

@@Chrystee I wish we shared the same gym!!!!!

Haha.. Ok! I have a feeling you'd give me a serious workout.

you better believe I sure would! Then I'd follow up with a hot shower, candlelight dinner and a massage! I guarantee the next day at work we would both be smiling!

I'm old. I don't get "checked out" much anymore.

I guarantee you're getting checked out

I'm old. I don't get "checked out" much anymore.

I guarantee you're getting checked out

Gonna gave to call BS on that Babbs. I saw your picture recently; you're getting checked out all the time whether you know it or not.

Edited April 26, 201610 yr by BigViffer

I'm old. I don't get "checked out" much anymore.

I guarantee you're getting checked out

If you are a man or a woman, someone is checking you out. LOL

I wanted to do some progress pic updates if anyone is interested!

Also, I've definitely gained a lot of confidence about working out at the gym since I last posted! I've actually been hit on there too lol unless I'm reading too much into guys "helping" me take the 45 lbs plates off the bench press ????

But there is something wrong with me! I had a very attractive guy offer to spot me if I needed it and my reply?! Okay, thanks... ???? and I went on to say I just needed lighter weights. Smh

In my defense, I was struggling with my military presses because all of the lighter weights were being used, so I looked (and felt) ridiculous trying to do so much weight lol

But it made me realize I have no game. And now I'm wondering if I'll ever work up the confidence to talk to him again (he usually works out with another guy so it's a little more intimidating to approach him)

Also, in that last picture, I was told I look angry lol I guess that's just my "resting gym face"

Really I was just trying not to be obvious about taking a picture lol

@@Steph0625 You look fantastic!!! Congrats!!! Step up your game - work on those flirting skills!

@@Steph0625 You look fantastic!!! Congrats!!! Step up your game - work on those flirting skills!

Thank you! And I'm working on it lol

@@Steph0625

Love the progress photos! Get ripped girly!

Oh yes, guy's are checking you out. I hope you are using the eye candy as motivation. Bring on your inner flirt.

Thanks @@jenn1 I'm seeing some progress in my muscle definition finally!

I definitely use that eye candy as motivation ???? I'm just working on the flirting part haha

Edited August 12, 201610 yr by Steph0625