Oh, the lying!

[Jen35 283]

Sorry @@Cape Crooner, I didn't read the whole thread. I feel your pain - now that you've told them one thing I would probably stick to the same story rather than admit to lying to them as well. That was one of my fears down the road going that route. Sorry you're in this situation.

I'm not judging you at all - or saying you're ashamed of the surgery. Just giving my experience and why I made the choice I made. I felt ashamed of the surgery when I was going through the approval process - more of an overall feeling that I failed at losing the weight myself and what would others think of me. So telling the truth up front was cathartic for me in that regard. But many people choose not to tell and that's okay too - it's your body and your medical history. It's really none of anyone else's business unless you want it to be.

[Valentina 2,642]

Maybe it's just time for a, "Come to Jesus" bar-b-q. Invite everyone and then tell everyone. Be sincere about your reasons for telling "this or that", instead of "all of the facts''.

Do it once and have done with it.

On this day, MY opinion.

Good luck on whatever your choice may be.

Prayers going up for you.

[4MRB4PHOTO 3,899]

There is no right or wrong answer to whether someone should mention they had WLS or not.

I told people the truth, in fact I had people tell me they respected my honesty and some people spoke to me about my WLS because they have an obese loved one who they have health concerns about.

Should everyone be this open? The answer is no. People need to do what they feel is right for them.

We should respect everyone's opinion on this and not criticize them for their personal choice to tell or not to tell differs from ours.

Edited April 22, 2016 by 4MRB4PHOTO