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I am 7 months post sleeve and feel like I am losing control. I see some bad habits coming back, over eating, more carbs, not being able to resist certain foods I have resisted for the past 7 plus months. When I reached 6 months, I was allowed so much more then I was the first 6 months, Pasta, rice, bread, and I did not feel as able to control the no part of those foods as I did before. Just wondering how you guys stay on track when the door opens up for these added foods. I try to tell myself nothing tastes as good as skinny/healthy feels, but it is hard. Need some tough love and good criticism. Thanks in advance.

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You say that at six months you were "allowed so much more"...

You weren't forced to have more...

Why not go back to the way things were in the first six months...

Obviously you're not ready to make the change...

The mental game is just as important as the physical...

Go back, get your head right and move on only when YOU are ready...

Of course, I don't know nuthin' about nuthin'...

But it might be worth a crack...

Good luck @@sbg224

Keep us posted...

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Two things come to mind. First, keep (or start) tracking your food. It will help you manage your overall food intake. Second, if you are able start exercising. For me exercising helps me avoid my trigger foods by making me feel like I accomplished something and reducing my stress. You can figure this out...look how far you've come!

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I agree with 4me4them that keeping a food journal (ideally including calorie counting) is very helpful as a tool to keep you aware of what you are eating.

The second major thing I have found is to try not to buy anything that is too tempting for you to eat, just don't have stuff like that in the house at all if possible - much easier to have willpower in the store than in the kitchen. Of course the workability of that may be affected by other family members living with you.

Finally, try to find healthy, reasonably light things that you *can* enjoy, and keep those there for you to snack on or enjoy with meals.

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For what it's worth, 7 months seems to be a tough transition time. I recall I had some similar issues as did a few others here. Don't beat yourself up. You recognize it is an issue and that is the most important. One meal / one bite at a time. Try to put it in a food tracker before you eat it so you can see what the nutrients look like and once you see that and adjust accordingly, only put that exact thing on your plate. You will be fine. You have come a long way. This is just a bump in the road.

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Just because those foods were "allowed" on your plan doesn't mean you have to eat them. We have the same surgeon so we have the same plan. Yes, after 6 months the plan gave us "permission" to reintroduce foods such as bread, rice and Pasta. I never did. I'm 22 month post surgery and haven't had a piece of bread, a grain of rice or a bite of pasta. Those foods are definitely "trigger" foods for me and I decided early on that to be successful they could not be part of my life. Will I never eat pasta again? No, but it will be in situations where it's worth it. I like to travel and if I go back to Italy, you better believe I'll eat pasta. France? Bread, Brie and pastry. But do I need a sandwich? Nah. Spaghetti from the local chain Italian restaurant? Nope. If you know these foods are trigger foods for you, DON'T EAT THEM. If you have to fool yourself by telling yourself they're not allowed on your plan, do it. Don't let food have control over you, take control over food. If it's "bad" for you personally stay away. You've done so well it would be such a shame to throw away all your hard work for pasta, rice and bread when you can live perfectly well without it. Good luck!

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