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My husband left me three days before surgery which I had on February 12th and it was extremely hard and painful to cope being in the hospital with no husband on my side to support me!!! Would love any feedback from anyone especially if you gone through this painful experience....I'm battling Anxiety and Depression :(

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I'm sorry you're going through this. What a jerk. I have a feeling that, in the end, you're better off without him.

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I am so sorry. Sending hugs.

Now is the time to focus on your health and recovery.

Marshall all of your resources to focus on you and your recovery. Do you have family and friends close by? Do you have a therapist?

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You aren't the only one to whom this has happened - there was a thread just a couple weeks ago about this same thing.

I can't imagine how abandoned you feel. I have to wonder just how supportive he would have been if he could do something like this. Do you have other family and friends around you?

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Thanks everyone for replying....I'm mother of five childrens, unfortunately my mother passed away 4 months ago due to complications of diabetes....and I only have my childrens as my family, I'm seeing a therapist this Friday! I also take medication for Anxiety!! I have siblings but all live far away from me!! I'm reaching out to get some help!! Once again thanks everyone!! :)

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The good news is, you are now free to focus on YOU and your recovery. You also don't have to worry about him eating pizza and double cheeseburgers in front of you during your liquid phases! But seriously, I do think meeting with some sort of councilor or therapist would be beneficial. It will help you deal with and process the split from your husband as well as food!

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Stay strong! Your going to loss weight, look and feel amazing! Then your husband is going to be so jealous! He doesn't deserve you of he hurts you. I hope you have other family to help. See a counselor to conquer your depression. I had to see one. It works. Stay strong gorgeous!

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Sorry to hear what you are going through Sweetdiaz, keep your head up and stay strong. You are blessed to have 4 wonderful children by your side. Sending you prayers for healing and wellness. :)

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I know of someone who can help you better than anyone in this world, His name is Jesus ...prince of peace

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