Hello everyone. I'm writing this to get something off my chest. I am going to have my gastric sleeve surgery done in two days in New Jersey.

I chose this topic because it is one that I have had the displeasure of dealing with for the past few years. I gain weight around my belly and I must seem to look pregnant to people. It may seem trivial but I really really really look forward to the day where I no longer look pregnant and people stop asking me whether I'm pregnant. They have asked me at work, at stores, at funerals, at nightclubs! Even children have asked me why I'm so fat and whether I'm having a baby. It is so overbearing at times❗️❗️❗️two people have rubbed my stomach and congratulated me. It is so frustrating!

Thank you all for listening and feel free to comment.

Edited July 27, 201511 yr by my_new_lifetime

I'm pre op, haven't had surgery yet. I'm so sorry this has happened to you. I've been asked before too by children. Some people just don't have any common sense not to ask people that question unless they know for sure. I cannot believe people rub a person's belly, pregnant or not. What an invasion of personal space. If anyone does that to me, I'm going to rub their belly back. How awkward.

I like that idea. I'll rub their belly back. Hopefully I'll lose enough weight so that I will never be asked that question unless I'm really pregnant.

When I was pregnant, I got tired of intrusive people. When someone (particularly a stranger) asked when I was due, I would say, a little loudly, "I'M NOT PREGNANT, I'M FAT!"

Yah, I can be a pain sometimes.

I get the same thing hate it smh ugh what part of New Jersey are you from ? I'm in northern new jersey

ive been asked this question before. the first time was when i was 12 by another classmate to make fun of me. but now most of the time when people haven't seen me in a while i have to do the dance of no not pregnant just fat its annoying but once i lose the weight i don't want to do the dance of no not sick just losing weight

I too am pre-op, I once had a dementia patient rub my belly and ask when the twins are due. I couldn't really get angry with her considering she had dementia

Yes I have that happen all the time. Even before kids I was asked that so I can't wait to get my sleeve....I would say even when I would lose weight I still had somewhat of a belly so I hear your frustration.