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Okay, most y'all know I lost my mom. 3 weeks today. I have had the equivalent of 3 small meals in that timeframe. I'm literally getting through the day on coffee and a cheese stick or Peanut Butter or cottage cheese. I'm drinking fruit2o.

Today I worked myself into the ground taking out my grief on the yard...tearing it for all mom's perennials. What should I do? I boiled eggs like a week and a half ago. Tonight I finally mashed the little sobs up and made egg salad. Got about a cup down but it hurt my stomach.

I don't know what to do! I don't drive, can't get to my surgeon etc. can't ask my grieving Dad. Ugh. HELP???

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Okay, most y'all know I lost my mom. 3 weeks today. I have had the equivalent of 3 small meals in that timeframe. I'm literally getting through the day on coffee and a cheese stick or Peanut Butter or cottage cheese. I'm drinking fruit2o.

Today I worked myself into the ground taking out my grief on the yard...tearing it for all mom's perennials. What should I do? I boiled eggs like a week and a half ago. Tonight I finally mashed the little sobs up and made egg salad. Got about a cup down but it hurt my stomach.

I don't know what to do! I don't drive, can't get to my surgeon etc. can't

ask my grieving Dad. Ugh. HELP???

Try calling your surgeons office. They may be able to give advice over the phone. I had a band in 2004. Applesauce and thin oatmeal seemed to sit well when nothing else did. I am sorry for your loss and I pray things get easier soon.

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I know the feeling Tri having a teaspoon of extra virgin olive oil before a meal it will help the food slide easier and eat slower.

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I'm so sorry for your loss! I know it's hard to eat, but starving yourself will not help, just as stuffing yourself wouldn't have helped in the old days. Since you have no desire to eat, can you at least try to drink Protein shakes? Maybe if you have 3 or 4 of them a day, just like during the pre- and post-op weeks, you can still get some nutrition while you struggle with your grief. And as other have said, call your doctor to make sure you'll be okay. When we lost my Dad, my Mom had trouble coping for a long time until she went to a few bereavement sessions offered by our local hospice. Somehow they really helped her deal with her emotions and she was able to start functioning again. Of course her grief didn't go away, but it was a big step for her. We wish you all the best and offer our support during this very difficult time.

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