I can't believe this is happening today. After I swore to myself last June when I recieved the sleeve, it was a secret. I have had so much success with it and finally opened up to my sister in law this weekend.

She reacted exactly the way I knew she would. Judge judge judge!

Ugh....

All the typical stuff

"You didn't want to go to the gym"

"Easy way out"

As she said things like how could you not tell me?

Then she gossiped about it to friends and family member over the last 4 days!!!!!!!

Today she tells me she assumed it was ok to tell people.... And that if I wanted it a secret I shouldn't have told her!

I have no idea what to do next.... I am so embarrassed!!!!!

Trust no one seriously

I've told most every one I know and other than a few people have gotten positive feed back. I did get some family members who were worried that I wouldn't be able to enjoy eating with family again at Thanksgiving or at reunions. They were wrong.

When people ask "what is your secret" I tell them "I don't have one!" After a year, I really don't feel the need to review my weight loss history with everyone. I am so ready to move forward to a new city, job and life.

Edited August 29, 201510 yr by LadyK44

Another reason for me to keep my trap shut! At least now you know what a snake your SIL is. Don't worry about her. Do you. Live your life!

i am so glad my inlaws are not like this. they work in health care so they know how to keep a secret and let me tell people on my own

Sounds like a classic case of envy.

I'm not planning on telling anyone at all. I can always tell later if I choose but once you tell you can't take it back!

By the way, any suggestions on a reason I'm out of the office for a week? Not a vacation - taking one of those at Christmas.

When people ask "what is your secret" I tell them "I don't have one!" After a year, I really don't feel the need to review my weight loss history with everyone. I am so ready to move forward to a new city, job and life.

I like that! I could say, "I finally just started eating less and exercising like I always knew but never did."

I've been telling some people who don't need to know that I hernia repair (which I did). It's been easier to tell folks after the fact for me though. Because then they can't really make judgements. I've already had the surgery! Most people I thought would not be supportive have been very supportive. It's been odd.

I only tell people who could use the surgery themselves. Everyone else get's "moved more, ate less" when they ask, how did you lose weight, which is true.

But for new year's eve I posted this on FB

And then on Jan 1 posted this

Just a reminder some years you can accomplish your goals

I guess the OP never updated the thread with how things resolved.

That is tough when your own family doesn't support your efforts to get healthy.

I only tell people who could use the surgery themselves. Everyone else get's "moved more, ate less" when they ask, how did you lose weight, which is true.

But for new year's eve I posted this on FB

And then on Jan 1 posted this

Just a reminder some years you can accomplish your goals

Powerful progress !!!!!

She reacted exactly the way I knew she would. Judge judge judge!

The good news is that you have confirmed what you have long known: That your sister-in-law is a jerk. Her dismay at not havng been told from the beginning is not because of familial concern for your well-beng, but for the gossip value. A decent person would not say, "....you shouldn't have told me," but rather "I should have asked first." Now you know not to confide in her again.

The bad news is that you have confirmed what you have long known: That she would "Judge judge judge!" You had a hand in this, but now you know not to confide in her again. Think of who else you might want to share with and know will be happy for you and respect your wishes.

Since you'd kept the surgery a secret, what have you told people when they've asked about your weight loss? When people who, like you, chose to keep secrets but didn't know how to handle questions, I've recommended the truth: "I changed the way I eat and I started to exercise."

Laurie

Edited October 16, 201510 yr by WLSResources/ClothingExch

I tell whoever I want to tell and if they tell someone else oh well. I don't care what people think. It's my life. I know that I have struggled for years with yo yo dieting. I did everything with no success, so it's time for me to succeed. Let them say what they want. Your sister in law may be scared that you'll look much better than her. Jealousy isn't pretty.