I ran into someone that I haven't seen in over a year. And she was like girl I didn't even recognize you not being fat! I was like really? All I can do to not be ugly. Yes I was fat, yes I've lost 115 lbs. get over it! Lol.

I would be like aww you were ugly and you still are but I guess not everyone changes.

This is strictly because I don't like people and people have made me that way :-)

I am happy and always welcoming of new friends, but I will burn an aszhole.

Edited January 2, 201511 yr by CharlotteWebb

I just got sleeved Monday, so no weight loss yet. My best friend and I had discussed the surgery before-hand, as we both wanted to get sleeved. Her insurance requires 3 months with a dietician, mine didn't, so needles to say I got mine first. After I came home from the hospital, she called to bs about other things then finally said "oh didn't you have surgery? How are you feeling? " as I was telling her she interrupted and said, "yeah, I don't think I'm doing it, I can lose the weight on my own, I don't want to cheat my way to weightloss!" What a sucker punch to the gut! I only said to her you do what you please, and continued the conversation... smh

Oh....in about 6-9 months, this is gonna be SOOO worth it. I can't wait for the update.

Yesterday she was eating and was like "oh I know you'd die for some of this pernil right now!" I said "nope, I'm not even hungry anymore! Haven't craved a thing since Monday," as she sat there eating 2 huge plates of food and downing it with soda. It was actually a bit disgusting to watch!

@@Big_Mama - Sorry you experienced that, Nice to see you handed it with class. It sounds like your friends fears got the better of her and she chickened out. Her insult sounds like fear talking. Her loss, not yours.

Yesterday she was eating and was like "oh I know you'd die for some of this pernil right now!" I said "nope, I'm not even hungry anymore! Haven't craved a thing since Monday," as she sat there eating 2 huge plates of food and downing it with soda. It was actually a bit disgusting to watch!

But hey! At least she's not cheating her way to a healthy weight. .

@@Big_Mama - Jeez! It's not like you won't be able to ever eat pork again. It's just that when you do, you'll eat a sensible portion and be completely satisfied with it.

You know!!! As I mentioned, I haven't been hungry, but I soooo miss chewing! Lol I think it's a mental thing right now!

I just got sleeved Monday, so no weight loss yet. My best friend and I had discussed the surgery before-hand, as we both wanted to get sleeved. Her insurance requires 3 months with a dietician, mine didn't, so needles to say I got mine first. After I came home from the hospital, she called to bs about other things then finally said "oh didn't you have surgery? How are you feeling? " as I was telling her she interrupted and said, "yeah, I don't think I'm doing it, I can lose the weight on my own, I don't want to cheat my way to weightloss!" What a sucker punch to the gut! I only said to her you do what you please, and continued the conversation... smh

YOU know, that she's still in denial, YOU know that she is more likely to fail than to succeed. I guess your freindship between one another is really being tested, YOU are not going to keep people who don't support you in your life. Is your freindship important to her? As you move forward in your journey she will either let you go or try to keep up. The choice is hers, you have already decided where you want to go.

You know what Big Mama, the easiest way to cheat is by doing it yourself. This is the problem with jenny Craig, Weight Watchers, Atkins, whatever. People do lose weight but they also gain it back and can cheat because they have nothing stopping them from overeating when they get full. You have the upper hand because you have taken the step to do something, your friend hasn't . And you'll see where she winds up because of it too.

We've been friends for 17 years. I would hope this wouldn't end our friendship, but I really didn't appreciate her snarky comments.

We've been friends for 17 years. I would hope this wouldn't end our friendship, but I really didn't appreciate her snarky comments.

It won't if YOU don't let it. She is most likely going to be quite bitchy, as evidenced by her comments, but that will fade. She will get used to the idea that you had the surgery and she didn't and she will get past the jealousy of your new body during her struggles.

Love her, encourage her, and go about business as usual to the best of your ability. If she gets too much to bear, then it's time to cut her loose. I think you can save it if you work hard not to be offended by her.

The scenario where a member of the opposite sex notices me for the first time since I've lost weight...that presents a dilemma in my mind.

In a perfect, blind world, people would fall in love with others based solely on personality and other virtues. But, in reality, appearance matters. Whether in the dating world or career world. Can you really blame the other person for not being attracted to the "fatter" you? It really isn't fair. Do you ever go to a bar or night club, pick out a particularly unattractive person, and think "wow they must have a great personality?" No. By nature, your eyes move towards what ever is considered attractive by society.

I'm not saying that people that are overweight are less worthy, but are at an automatic disadvantage. Sometimes an insurmountable disadvantage. We are genetically hardwired to be attracted to health and vitality...survival of the species and all. Even overweight, would you stop and goggle at an obvious drug addict? What is the difference between refusing to date a smoker, and refusing to date someone that is "fat?" You find yourself more attractive with weight loss, why take the new attention as an insult? It is recognition for a job well done!

I haven't been faced with this scenario, so I don't know how I would react...and I have a tendency to play devil's advocate. I think I'm prettier now, and quite frankly a better more vivacious person now, and I don't feel insulted when others corroborate that. You can argue semantics, just remember some people have good intentions but little tact.

The best for me was " wow you look great, where you always this short?"

The best for me was " wow you look great, were you always this short?"

I got one today. My good friend is stunning was/is a dancer has had 3 boob jobs two nose jobs and two Brazilian butt lifts. She's in her mid 20s and has a perfect six pack LOL. She said. "Wow your already loosing boobage. We may get a deal if we both go in for work at the same time."

Umm thanks... Umm I think.????????