Hey Everyone,

I haven't posted here in some time. I'm still dealing with the loss of my husband. It has been almost 6 months. When he was diagnosed in January I was almost at goal but now I've gained 40 pounds back. OH LORD.. I'm so ashamed but I swear. I don't eat a lot but I take in a lot of liquid calories and I can't seem to stop. Three cups of coffee every morning made with my Keurig which I use milk in each cup. I do use skim milk but I would think that each cup of coffee has around 250 calories. Milk, creamer, etc. I drink a shake for Breakfast, and lunch, then I eat a meal around 5 pm. I don't have trouble with food. I never eat fast foods at all. But the stupid coffee!!! GOD HELP ME! Frappes... THE DEVIL! Also, fudgesicles. Now these fudgesicles have 80 calories... but when you can't stop eating them...... ugh. I know what I need to do but I can't do it. I need control. I have been walking everyday. Doesn't do anything to keep the weight from coming back. I've gained 22 of these pounds since I buried my husband in June. It just keeps coming and I can't stop it. I'm so out of control. I'm going to gain it ALL back!!! I never thought I would be back here. I was 300HW, LW 168, CW 212. Going right back to food for comfort as I've always done. I miss my husband so much!! I know he wouldn't want this for me. Taking care of him for 6 months and seeing him suffer so much. I know I need counseling as well or something but this weight gain... it just keeps coming everyday. I still don't get how I'm gaining so fast. I would have to take in 3500 calories over the 1200 I need a day to live and maintain. AM I really taking in 4700 a day!???? NOOOOOOO!! I don't get it. Help... I need some sample menus from you all at goal... some advice... some diets you are doing. Just give me a plan to go by. I can't remember how I ate before.

Thank you!!! The pics attached are me at my lowest, six months ago, and now.

Edited November 30, 201411 yr by Lisa's Hope

I will try those. Where do you purchase the Click or Chike? Thanks for your encouragement.

I purchase mine on Amazon, but I believe I've read of others purchasing at Vitamin Shoppe or various bariatric products websites.

So sorry for your loss. I can't even imagine how hard that is.

I'm almost 2 years post RNY- so whole others have had great advice, I'd just like to offer a couple of thoughts.

Don't try to eliminate coffee. Instead of what you're drinking have a hot or cold skinny latte. It's got the coffee and skim milk. You can add Splenda or truvia or even some sugar free syrup. I love them.

Try adding some Fiber. It really helps. A yummy Breakfast for the breakfast disinclined is a chobani 100 Greek yogurt-- the coconut pineapple is great--- add a tablespoon of sliced almonds. Yum fiber and low carb high Protein. It's often my go to evening snack.

You've got this and you will be good. Be kind to yourself.

Hey Everyone,

I haven't posted here in some time. I'm still dealing with the loss of my husband. It has been almost 6 months. When he was diagnosed in January I was almost at goal but now I've gained 40 pounds back. OH LORD.. I'm so ashamed but I swear. I don't eat a lot but I take in a lot of liquid calories and I can't seem to stop. Three cups of coffee every morning made with my Keurig which I use milk in each cup. I do use skim milk but I would think that each cup of coffee has around 250 calories. Milk, creamer, etc. I drink a shake for breakfast, and lunch, then I eat a meal around 5 pm. I don't have trouble with food. I never eat fast foods at all. But the stupid coffee!!! GOD HELP ME! Frappes... THE DEVIL! Also, fudgesicles. Now these fudgesicles have 80 calories... but when you can't stop eating them...... ugh. I know what I need to do but I can't do it. I need control. I have been walking everyday. Doesn't do anything to keep the weight from coming back. I've gained 22 of these pounds since I buried my husband in June. It just keeps coming and I can't stop it. I'm so out of control. I'm going to gain it ALL back!!! I never thought I would be back here. I was 300HW, LW 168, CW 212. Going right back to food for comfort as I've always done. I miss my husband so much!! I know he wouldn't want this for me. Taking care of him for 6 months and seeing him suffer so much. I know I need counseling as well or something but this weight gain... it just keeps coming everyday. I still don't get how I'm gaining so fast. I would have to take in 3500 calories over the 1200 I need a day to live and maintain. AM I really taking in 4700 a day!???? NOOOOOOO!! I don't get it. Help... I need some sample menus from you all at goal... some advice... some diets you are doing. Just give me a plan to go by. I can't remember how I ate before.

Thank you!!! The pics attached are me at my lowest, six months ago, and now.

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Im going through the same exact thing I have gain 47 pld since March of this year dont no how to get back on track I feel like a complete failure I lost my job in February and havent been the same every since my son got diagnosed with seizure scared the hell out of me im a emotional eater and just want to get back on track what can I do please help me you guys im so ready to turn this thing back around. I HAVE gerd and a alcohol problems.???????????? sorry for ya lost.

Im going through the same exact thing I have gain 47 pld since March of this year dont no how to get back on track I feel like a complete failure I lost my job in February and havent been the same every since my son got diagnosed with seizure scared the hell out of me im a emotional eater and just want to get back on track what can I do please help me you guys im so ready to turn this thing back around. I HAVE gerd and a alcohol problems. sorry for ya lost.

Sorry you are going through this too. I have very bad gerd and esophageal spasms. I don't drink alcohol but the sugary coffee is just as bad. It has been very easy to gain this back. I've kept off 85 pounds but still i'm so scared. I know I'm the only one that can turn it around. Just I've never had weight come back this fast before and I don't eat which people don't believe even the drs... but liquid calories are just as bad. Maybe both of us can get back on track in the new year. I never thought I would be back here.

Lisa--

Since you asked for suggestions of meal plans, I'll give you mine. The best advice my dietician ever gave me is "Food is not entertainment"--I had been complaining that my meals were boring. She told me to look around at all the thin people I know and ask them what they eat and if they eat the same things all the time. I asked my mom and sister-in-law, and both said that they do eat the same things all the time. So think back to things you found easy to grab and eat way back when. Yogurt, cotttage cheese, Protein Bars, any Protein you can think of as appetizing and start there. Hydrate.

Breakfast: yogurt, a Quest bar, nuts and a fruit

Coffee: I like mine with half and half. I log the calories and let it go. It is my treat

Snack: Fruit

Lunch: Veggie/chicken Soup, tomato soup, salad with cottage cheese, wrap with turkey and provolone

Snack: string cheese, yogurt, nuts

Dinner: Repeat lunch options. Also have chicken frequently.

When I venture away from these options, I am eating my emotions, stress, and fatigue. So I try to keep the menu pretty boring. It is not entertainment. I track everything in MFP to keep myself sane. (and honest!)

I am so very sorry for your loss and I hope you find some comfort and peace. I know you can do this--you've found the strength to get out of bed every day since you lost your husband, you are obviously incredibly strong and will overcome this challenge!

Edited December 23, 201411 yr by Teachamy

Sorry you are going through this too. I have very bad gerd and esophageal spasms. I don't drink alcohol but the sugary coffee is just as bad. It has been very easy to gain this back. I've kept off 85 pounds but still i'm so scared. I know I'm the only one that can turn it around. Just I've never had weight come back this fast before and I don't eat which people don't believe even the drs... but liquid calories are just as bad. Maybe both of us can get back on track in the new year. I never thought I would be back here.

Yes I understand so much its so sad and the way I try to look it as if we gain it and lose quickly if we just get our mines together we can both get back ont track and get this weight off once and for all. I only had 3 drinks in 3 days which may don't sound good but I suffer from alcoholism and really try and cant believed how hard it is to stop I just wanna get my life and get what I gain off and plus 30 2 35 plds origanally this is gonna be hard. Its doesnt help that my groin is fracture but Im letting nothing stop me I mean nothing I gotta get healthy again... hope me and u can do something and set some goals for every month till our goal weights and yes the sugary drinks does and I too n love coffee as well..

Lisa, wondering how you are doing. Holidays can be very hard.

Lisa, wondering how you are doing. Holidays can be very hard.

Hi Jane,

Thank you so much for checking on me. The holidays were very hard. Lots of tears. Tomorrow will be 1 year my husband was diagnosed. Then 7 months on the 8th of Jan. I just got back from visiting his grave. Ugh.. so hard. I'm making progress.... just baby steps though. I still haven't lost any weight. I go back to the Dr. on the 7th so I'm having my blood work. I'm on meds for hypothyroidism because I was hyper and had my thyroid ablated (killed) with radiation in 2007. That is when I gained the last 50 pounds was 3 months after that. So that put me at my highest weight of 300 give or take a pound. I'm holding steady now between 211 and 214 but can't lose. I'm very scared I will gain it all back. I remember how I felt at 170. I felt so thin. Now I'm fat again. :/

I hope all had wonderful Christmas and New Year! I pray so hard that this year will be better. I can't bring myself to even take off my wedding rings. I hope to be moving back to my home state of Georgia only to North Georgia this time. My daughter won't come with me ... so the only child I have is not going to be in my life. Things can't be worse with our relationship.. Dear Lord.. I pray He leads me and I get some clarity of why things happen this way.

God Bless!!

Here is to hoping 2015 will be better. For us recent widows. It cannot get much worse I think. Unless we lose our health. Or kids. That is all that could sink me further

Last year was the worst in my life. Still crying daily. A song. A note found. Send me over the edge. Trying to go with the new year theme. 8 months gone Monday. Sigh

I still hear him. Do you think you hear him ever. Upon awakening---at night

Ok. 2015.

Since last year was lower than whale shit. Please be better.

Awww my hearts goes out to all of you I can only amazing how hard it is for u guys in have have lost 7 but that compare to the 50 Ive gain just wanna be that 190 again and hopes to be my 165 at last this year I m not taking no for a answer zi have really bad gerd taking prolsec and pepcid for dat and my left leg went out they ruled it as a groin pulled also I was in da er 3 times this week to be diagnosed brochitis on top of my asthma im just a wreck on top of that 3am this morning i got the biggest chest pains n couldnt even move dr said take tylenol. I WILL NOT LET ME SICKNESSES KEEP ME DOWN I WILL CONTINUE TO FIGHT AND BE STRONG. everybdoy plz be strong and keep yall head up things will get better All in god timing????????