I've been spending a lot of time in Rants & Raves since I joined LBT, partly because it's fun, but also because for the most part it's very GLBT friendly. Unless I haven't looked in the right place, I don't think there's a support thread for us, so I decided to start one!

A little about me. I'm Eddie & I'm a 42-year-old Gay man. I have a partner of just over nine years (henceforth referred to as DH), a 17-year-old son and 16-year-old daughter. DH and I are stupid. Don't believe me, just ask our kids. DH has hypothyroidism and had not been able to lose any weight after his thyroid "went nuts" several years ago. I've just been overweight all my life. He was banded on 2/21/07 and I'm getting mine next Wednesday (5/16). I can't wait!

Anyway, I would love to hear from all the GLBT folks out there. Hopefully this can be a place for us to freely discuss our unique issues and get support we may not be able to get elsewhere.

Thanks you two!

So far no complaints bandwise...allthough I'm still doinds liquids

This sholder pain could really use to go away any day now. I don't even bother using my left arm any more because if the pain strikes hard I end up dropping whatever I was holding...and I'm not a fan of getting woken up during sleep.

Besides that, I've basically been dealing with the emotional stuff, realising that this really will be a life change, and that I can't rely on food for comfort anymore.

But I mean, it was gunna be this, or I would have kept gaining weight, getting more depressed, and then who knows...

My mom has been getting alot of late night calls...I'll be glad to go home soon!

welcome ConSafo ! My shoulder pain was the worst of it all - but that's just about gone now after a month. Chin up !

Dawn I wish your brother the best of luck with everything. I am gay & the dad to a beautiful 3 & 1/2 year old little boy. His mother & I did everything at home with a specimen jar & a siringe. It worked twice - first pregancy ended in miscarrage but the 2nd ended with a wonderful little boy. It took 12 months before it was successful...then 9 months later .. Cooper !

He stays with my partner & I every weekend... and when his mother is away for work... currently she's away all week. I pick him up from daycare every day & we also have our holidays together. Last Christmas it was Fiji.

We all have a great relationship that works well.

So best wishes to him & you !

Eddie,

glad everything is on the mend for you & Sean !

Yesterday I also got some food stuck...but I just had a mouthful of water to wash it down...it hurt & that helped straight away.

Tonight I chewed everything much more.

You'll have to tell me all about your fill as soon as it's done - since you are getting it so far in front of me.

I think i am able to eat everything then i get pain & have to slow down. So looking forward to the fill.

Have a good week everyone.

XX

Dawn.... your surgery date is the same date as my first fill.

Best wishes & good luck with everything

X

I think it's interesting and great how we all make our families. My partner at the time, and I looked at using a known doner, but the men we asked had different expectations than us. So we went to the bank. The first time worked but we miscarried. Try #19, at $500 a try, finally took! Zoe was born in 2001!

My ex and I raise her 50/50. She stays at one house M/T/F/S/S the other W/Th one week then we rotate. We talk everything through, she has the same style bed at both houses. It's really quite nice.

Next year we are all taking her to Disney. We being both moms and our girlfriends. I think we need to borrow a kid to keep Zoe company too.

She starts Kindergarten in the fall, so I should be regaling you all with those tales.

Happy Tuesday my banded buddies.

ConSafo-Welcome. You'll do great!

Hey guys banded today feel great! The worst pain was the IV and blood thinning shot in leg but now i feel fine! I know im numbed up on meds so im feeling good right now. Thanks for all your support!:clap2:

Hi Jill:

Thanks for the reply. I did send you two PM's one yesterday and today. Not sure if you received them or not. The did not show up in my out box like the other ones have. I hope all is well in Columbus.

Chris

Pre Band

Chris

I'm assuming you're talking to me--the Columbus mention and all.

If not, oops. I didn't get any PMs lately. They must be messing with this site. So many things change on here. Like now I've constantly need to log on, it's no longer automatic.

All is groovey in Columbus.

Juli

Hey All,

I need some advice. I want to whisk my girl away in august. Any suggestions as to where we should go???? I want to go to toronto canada...or aculcapoco, or anywhere. we want to leave on thursday, and return on on Monday. we want to go to where we've never been before. We are in Palm Springs, CA. Any ideas?

PS...$ is no object. just need ideas

Kity, money no option...PARIS!!

Okay, on a more realistic note

Toronto would be nice, but it's getting hot here(i'm in TO) and will be boiling in august.

Are you into natury things in a very beautiful and relaxing enviroment? If so, Tofino on Vacouver Island(BC, lol). As a Vancouver native I think that's the most beautiful place I've ever seen in my life(well, besides parts of Europe). There's this really really REALLY nice hotel there(Tofino Accommodation | Prime Tofino Whale Watching | Wickaninnish Inn that's what it really looks like!). And the town is the cuttest thing ever, surrounded by old growth trees and little coffee shops to tuck away in. It's pretty easy to get to, fly to Vancouver or Seattle and then hop on another flight right into Tofino

I LOVE Toronto! And something tells me it won't be any hotter there than Palm Springs!

I hope everyone here is doing well. I had my post-op exam with the doc today and he said everything looked good. He did reprimand me for swimming on Sunday, but siad that I could still walk every day. Maybe I'm a little too eager to get the exercise going...other than that, everything is going well. My throat is mostly healed and I'm just trying to get through the full liquids to the mushie stage...I can't wait until I can have some mushies

Oh Juli - this is Chris who used to live in Cincy and Columbus. I hve tried to send you two PM but that did not work so I sent it to your Yahoo address. I hope to here from you soon.

I have enjoyed all your post and keep up the good work. Iam straight but do like to learn more about the other side. My wife and I have date a date with the WLS doctor in St. Louis and also will do his on stop shopping in regards to physical, diet work, and psy. I have also talked with are Benfits people who have talked to United Health Care and it is covered and they are getting me the requiremtns for this. I will post here when I get it. Thanks again for letting be part of this group. I also have my sleep study tommrow night.

Chris :clap2:

Pre Band

St. Louis

Hey everyone, with summer rolling around, Pride usually does too!

Has anyone got any exciting plans??

It's pride in Toronto right now, and I'm bummed I wont get to go to Pride Parade on sunday...my mom booked my flight for thursday not monday!!

Woot Woot PRIDE

I'm flying into Chicago on Friday for PRIDE with my honey and her pals. She lives in MI, but is from Chicago. They've got the weekend planned! Stuff to do all day Saturday, breakfast on Sunday and then on to watch the parade.

I'm so STOKED!!!! I had to go and buy new clothes for the weekend, you know, because a girl needs to look her best and everything I had was too big!

Family,

I really wasn't going to post this here, but Chris61, the straight man sent me an inappropriate email off line. He wasn't so much crass, as he was icky with a, "lesbians are hot" tone.

This is for everyone's FYI.

I did send him a note saying not interested and for him to go away. Okay, so maybe it was worded a little more snidely than that. But you get the idea.

Thanks