I've been spending a lot of time in Rants & Raves since I joined LBT, partly because it's fun, but also because for the most part it's very GLBT friendly. Unless I haven't looked in the right place, I don't think there's a support thread for us, so I decided to start one!

A little about me. I'm Eddie & I'm a 42-year-old Gay man. I have a partner of just over nine years (henceforth referred to as DH), a 17-year-old son and 16-year-old daughter. DH and I are stupid. Don't believe me, just ask our kids. DH has hypothyroidism and had not been able to lose any weight after his thyroid "went nuts" several years ago. I've just been overweight all my life. He was banded on 2/21/07 and I'm getting mine next Wednesday (5/16). I can't wait!

Anyway, I would love to hear from all the GLBT folks out there. Hopefully this can be a place for us to freely discuss our unique issues and get support we may not be able to get elsewhere.

Sweetie, you know your man better than any of us. It doesn't sound like the situation warrants your apology over his, but my point was that sometimes it's better to reach out and keep the peace. I don't think you should call him and apologize for something he did, but call him and let him know you love him. Even though you are angry.

The thing is, it's not really his fault or my fault. It just spun out of control because I was so upset. I'm still pissed (just in general, not at him) but I just want some peace at this point. Problem is, I don't know how to back out of it without feeling like a doormat. Any suggestions?

Hi Eddie, first, thanks for the info on the hungries and fills, really helped! I can't pretend to give advise on the peace and war going on with your hubby, I just had my own blow out with my wife! that's why I didn't come back sooner. Been real tense around here, but I know from yrs of this that it will get back to normal and things will be all happy again. It's a process! But you need to let it go the doormat thing go. I'm the "sean " of our marrage, I get the calls about work and must take them, It's really hard to balance life sometimes , for me it's an over kill of responsibility and probably poor boundry issues, but it pays the bills!!! we get over it ! We've been together since 94, had a few rough spots, but last October, went to P Town and got hitched for real for life!! It's a good thing! Let me know how the fill went. hope I can keep up with you all, this is a fast moving thread!

Cheri~ I must ask, what is P Town?

Hi Eddie, first, thanks for the info on the hungries and fills, really helped! I can't pretend to give advise on the peace and war going on with your hubby, I just had my own blow out with my wife! that's why I didn't come back sooner. Been real tense around here, but I know from yrs of this that it will get back to normal and things will be all happy again. It's a process! But you need to let it go the doormat thing go. I'm the "sean " of our marrage, I get the calls about work and must take them, It's really hard to balance life sometimes , for me it's an over kill of responsibility and probably poor boundry issues, but it pays the bills!!! we get over it ! We've been together since 94, had a few rough spots, but last October, went to P Town and got hitched for real for life!! It's a good thing! Let me know how the fill went. hope I can keep up with you all, this is a fast moving thread!

We were going to go up and get married (legally) next spring, but after same-sex marriage was legalized, Mitt Romney (who could be our next president) dredged up a 1913 state law that states that if your marriage would not be legal in your home state that you can't get married in MA. You guessed it - FL is one of the states that enacted "Defense of

Marriage" legislation. Oh well, maybe one day...

I did talk to Sean last night. Things aren't perfect yet, but they're better. I'm going to call him later this morning and see if we can't close this ugly chapter once and for all...

Pamela-

I'm not Cheri but I'm going to P-town in August. It's Provincetown MA, the tip of Cap Cod. It's one of the gay meccas in the US.

The others that come to mind are:

Key West

Miami

San Fransicso

Provincetown

Can other people add to the list?

Juli

Don't forget Fire Island.

Somebody please shoot me if Mitt Romney gets elected...

The thing is, it's not really his fault or my fault. It just spun out of control because I was so upset. I'm still pissed (just in general, not at him) but I just want some peace at this point. Problem is, I don't know how to back out of it without feeling like a doormat. Any suggestions?

Tell him what you told us. That you want to make peace without feeling like a doormat. Be assertive about your feelings and hopefully he will respect them.

Thanks Juli~ P town...i get it now. I live in Palm Springs, which is the second gayest city in California (SF is number 1).

Eddie~ I am glad this problem is nearly over. I know it is hard...we have all been there.

Have a great day everyone! I was at the gym at 6am...and I have a busy afternoon planned. It was freakin 98 degrees at 9:30 this morning...:faint:! Gonna be 109 today. Stay cool everyone!

Pamela-

I'm not Cheri but I'm going to P-town in August. It's Provincetown MA, the tip of Cap Cod. It's one of the gay meccas in the US.

The others that come to mind are:

Key West

Miami

San Fransicso

Provincetown

Can other people add to the list?

Juli

:clap2: North Hampton, Ma!!! Big les town, if I were to move I would like to go there. My honey wants to go warmer, but I want to go where I'm welcome. "........*#!% Romney!!! other than Mit, Mass is really fairly gay friendly, especially the Vineyard, where I live. Maybe now that we just got the vote to "not vote" (on the news tonight!!!!) other states will follow! For now, Mass is safe till at least 2012 when the next opportunity will come up for the opposition.

Eddie, glad to hear things are better. thought about moving up here? you could do a summer/winter thing , and do your thing!

Believe it or not Columbus Ohio is very Lesbianie. When the Lesbian Connection does a grouping by zip code of their mailing address, my zip and the neighboring one are always in the top 5 nationally.

If you don't know the Lesbian Connection or LC or Elsie, is it's a grass roots lesbian magizine that's been aroung 30 years and still going strong. It's humble but great.

night ya'll. Stay cool.

Eddie

Where's your post? I got it in my email but it's not on here? LBT is something some times.

Your ADHD joke made me laugh out loud!

Not seeing the honey this weekend but flying into Chicago next Friday for their Pride weekend. Woo hoo.

The Newport Aquarium is pretty good, in Newport KY. But I'm not huge on watching fish swim. The kiddo loves it though.

Take care and squeeze that man. Kisses,

Hi juli and Eddie, just so you don't think it's your computer (I did!) I got Eddie's email too, but not here, But Juli's is, go figure! Like wise, loved the joke, I'm surrounded by ADHD. Some time I'm going to figure out this "ticker" thing!

playing with the ticker, this is just a test!!

hi, trying to edit , my last message didn't post, wish I knew what I was doing!

Cheri

Click on my ticker and it will take you to tickerfactory.com.

Follow the directions, pick a marker, pick a line, put in your info.

The it will give you different kinds of html laungage lines, the first one says for b.b. (for bulletin boards) copy that.

Come back to LBT and up top at CP User you can modify your signature. Paste it in there.

HTH