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Today I was at a community party with lots of yummy food. I prepared my typical plate, you know, the plate with tablespoons of food dotted around it (90% plate and 10% food). As I started to eat, a very nice lady I knew sat down with me. Last time i saw her was November and she was considerably bigger then. Today she was heavy, but not really really heavy like before. She immediately commented on how thin i looked, and I responded in kind. She had lost 70 lbs since November, Hmmmm i'm thinking.....

So here is the interesting thing....her plate looked just like mine!

I did not want to ask her and be rude, but i was mighty curious!

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No way could I have held myself back from asking the obvious! You have way more self control than I! Maybe the next time you see her (she'll be even thinner next time, of course!) you could ask her what program she's following. She's probably dying to talk with you about it, too! I have to say I love to talk about my great experience with my sleeve, especially with folks who have some type of connection to it...

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Yes me too I know I would have asked. I just bet she was itching to ask you the same thing. :-)

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I think to ask would have been extremely rude. If she wanted to talk about it, she would have. I would suggest you talk first and you will find out fast if she wants to talk.

While everyone is different, some people are just very private and don't want to discuss personal things. She may be one of them.

Congrats on you success! Your stats are wonderful! The sleeved life is a great life, isn't it? :D

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Actually, I'm hoping she didn't have WLS and was just eating less. It would make my response to others sound less like I'm lying when I say I'm watching what I eat while not mentioning the WLS aspect.

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Actually, I'm hoping she didn't have WLS and was just eating less. It would make my response to others sound less like I'm lying when I say I'm watching what I eat while not mentioning the WLS aspect.

What makes for a minute you think you are lying. You are eating less, you are exercising. You don't have to go into detail if you don't wish to It's not lying. Its just private. Remember you don't owe anyone an explanation for anything.

My rule for the questions? Them: How much weight have you lost? Me: a bunch. Them: how are you doing it? Me: one pound at a time. Questions stop by then. If you want to keep your medical information to yourself, you have every right. This is your journey and you can keep it wherever is right for you!

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She could be taking a prescribed appetite suppressant as well. It's hard to know for sure.

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Actually, I'm hoping she didn't have WLS and was just eating less. It would make my response to others sound less like I'm lying when I say I'm watching what I eat while not mentioning the WLS aspect.

You are no more lying than when someone says 'how are you' and you say 'fine' without telling them all the details of your life. I say I'm eating right, eating less, and exercising - all true! The surgery part I share on a need to know basis. If I know someone well, or if I'm talking to someone who may really want to consider the surgery option (you can usually hear the desperation and frustration in their comments) I will tell them. Busybodies and gossips don't need to know all my personal medical info. :-)

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