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Thank you all so much for the kind words, prayers, and healing thoughts. Live in gratitude for the blessings in your life, and never take them for granted. Life is far too short to waste a lot of precious energy focusing on what we don't have. Hold the ones you love closely, today and every day.

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I wish I could do or say something more than I am so sorry for your loss. I'm sending you all my wishes for peace, strength, and comfort.

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How are you doing today? You are in my thoughts and prayers!

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prayers and good vibes coming your way... to lose someone you love is tragic....to lose them so suddenly, like that, must be unbearable... it sounds like you are working thru it well...

(((HUGS)))

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Thank you for taking the time to share this in spite of your tremendous loss. I am so sorry for your loss.

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I'm so very sorry for your loss. Having lost my first husband to a sudden illness, I know how devasting it can be. Please take care of yourself.

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((HUGS))

My husband of almost 20 yrs died (at 46) 6 yrs ago unexpectedly. I know the emptiness ur feeling right now.

Please know that I am thinking of u right now as ur going thru the motions of "being a widow". It truly sucks. It's good that u have a handle on the emotional part of eating, I gained 70 lbs the 2 yrs following my husbands death.

U look young in ur pic. I was 40 when widowed and found http://www.ywbb.org/forums/ubbthreads.php very helpful.

I wish u the very best...

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I am deeply sorry for your loss. Prayers sent your way. Thank you for the encouraging words you passed along to us. May The Lord give you strength.

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Keeping you in my thoughts and prayers.

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Awful and tragic. Such a shock. Sorrow. ((((((((Hug))))))) I send you and yours warm thoughts for calm and peaceful hearts in a difficult time. I am so sorry.

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Southern. I can't imagine what you are going through neither do I know what to say. All I can do is pray and pray hard for you. Thank you for the reminder to love our love ones so much while they are here with us and not everything is about this sleeve.

Come here to vent. Whenever you need to. We are here.

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((HUGS))

My husband of almost 20 yrs died (at 46) 6 yrs ago unexpectedly. I know the emptiness ur feeling right now.

Please know that I am thinking of u right now as ur going thru the motions of "being a widow". It truly sucks. It's good that u have a handle on the emotional part of eating, I gained 70 lbs the 2 yrs following my husbands death.

U look young in ur pic. I was 40 when widowed and found http://www.ywbb.org/forums/ubbthreads.php very helpful.

I wish u the very best...

Thank you so much for the website suggestion. I had not heard of it, so I will definitely check it out. I hate the word "widow". I don't even know what that's supposed to be or feel like. It's an awful thing to have to come to terms with, so maybe engaging with other women who are facing the same thing will help. Engaging with everybody here for several months before my surgery was definitely helpful to me, so it stands to reason that finding online support for this will be helpful, too. And thank you for saying I look young. I'll be 50 in May, so that made me feel pretty good. :)

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So very sorry for your loss! I can't even imagine to know what you're going through. Sending healing energy and prayers your way.

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Sorry for your loss. As I always pray on - if God brings you to it, he will bring you through it.

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