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OK!!!!......IT IS OFFICIAL!!!!! I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE ELSE ABOUT MY UPCOMING SURGERY. UUHHHGG ....IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYONE IN MY LIFE IS JUST NEGATIVE AS HELL, I TOLD MY MOM AND BROTHER TODAY THEY PISSED ME OFF SO BAD THAT I JUST GOT UP AND WALKED OUT AND SPED OFF...I DIDN'T ASK FOR THEIR OPINIONS I JUST NEED SOME POST -OP SUPPORT DAMN!!

you got us hun

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OK!!!!......IT IS OFFICIAL!!!!! I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE ELSE ABOUT MY UPCOMING SURGERY. UUHHHGG ....IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYONE IN MY LIFE IS JUST NEGATIVE AS HELL, I TOLD MY MOM AND BROTHER TODAY THEY PISSED ME OFF SO BAD THAT I JUST GOT UP AND WALKED OUT AND SPED OFF...I DIDN'T ASK FOR THEIR OPINIONS I JUST NEED SOME POST -OP SUPPORT DAMN!!

I feel ya! That's exactly why I chose to keep this entire process and my experience to myself. Well, I told my husband and HE told my adult children. That's it. They all know not to breathe a word to anyone else. I don't want to deal with the criticism, judgement and scrutiny of NON-well-wishers and nosy people. So. . .I totally understand your frustration. Hang in there. . .you've got all us to lean on.

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OK!!!!......IT IS OFFICIAL!!!!! I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE ELSE ABOUT MY UPCOMING SURGERY. UUHHHGG ....IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYONE IN MY LIFE IS JUST NEGATIVE AS HELL, I TOLD MY MOM AND BROTHER TODAY THEY PISSED ME OFF SO BAD THAT I JUST GOT UP AND WALKED OUT AND SPED OFF...I DIDN'T ASK FOR THEIR OPINIONS I JUST NEED SOME POST -OP SUPPORT DAMN!!

Relentless you have us! They are probably nervous. However, if they think this is the easy way out, they are sadly mistaken. This is definitely one of the hardest things I have done. Rentlentless, none of us have chosen wls as our first resort. This is definitely our last resort. We have tried diets, pills, exercise, both healthy and unhealthy. We have been hopeless, depressed and alone. Don't let anyone take your joy and determination from you

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OK!!!!......IT IS OFFICIAL!!!!! I AM NOT TELLING ANYONE ELSE ABOUT MY UPCOMING SURGERY. UUHHHGG ....IT SEEMS LIKE EVERYONE IN MY LIFE IS JUST NEGATIVE AS HELL, I TOLD MY MOM AND BROTHER TODAY THEY PISSED ME OFF SO BAD THAT I JUST GOT UP AND WALKED OUT AND SPED OFF...I DIDN'T ASK FOR THEIR OPINIONS I JUST NEED SOME POST -OP SUPPORT DAMN!!

Relentless302, I get it! My mom and sister still don't know, because I can't take the chance of any negative or teasing comments. Only my husband knows. This journey is for you, and only you know what is best for you. Like everyone says, we are here anytime you need us. Try and surround yourself with positivity because some days it is the positivity that will get you through the day. Try not to worry about it, okay. DO YOU GIRL! :D

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Thank all of u guys so much for the feedback.....every comment is just what I needed to hear...Today my cousin said "they don't have to live in ur body...so stop worrying about what anyone negative has to say"... again....THANK U ALL SO MUCH!!!

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Looking to revision from band to rny

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Hi Flygirl, I am a revision from band to RNY and although it has been a huge learning curve with regards to what foods I can/can't tolerate and a few starts and stops, I REALLY LOVE my new tool. I think you will love it too! I should have done the RNY to begin with. Good luck and feel free to ask me anything!

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Hi Flygirl, I am a revision from band to RNY and although it has been a huge learning curve with regards to what foods I can/can't tolerate and a few starts and stops, I REALLY LOVE my new tool. I think you will love it too! I should have done the RNY to begin with. Good luck and feel free to ask me anything!

I am a revision too from the lapband.

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Hey ladies,

I just found this thread and thought I would introduce myself. My name is Willa and I am 2 weeks post op RNY today. I had surgery April 22, 2014. I feel great! I had a two week pre op diet where I lost 14 pounds and as of today I have lost another 14. That's 28 pounds!! And I am super excited.

I am glad I found this group because the last month as been rough but so worth it! Glad to see a place of such great support! Hope all are doing well. Happy Tuesday!!

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OK SO NO ONE REPLIED TO MY POST THE OTHER DAY... :huh: I WANTED HELP WITH CREATING A POST-KIT, IT WILL CONTAIN EVERYTHING THAT I WILL NEED POST- OP...I JUST WANT TO START GETTING PREPARED...ONLY THING I HAVE SO FAR IS BIOTIN...THANKS IN ADVANCE GUYS!!! OH AND HAPPY TUESDAY!! :P

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OK SO NO ONE REPLIED TO MY POST THE OTHER DAY... :huh: I WANTED HELP WITH CREATING A POST-KIT, IT WILL CONTAIN EVERYTHING THAT I WILL NEED POST- OP...I JUST WANT TO START GETTING PREPARED...ONLY THING I HAVE SO FAR IS BIOTIN...THANKS IN ADVANCE GUYS!!! OH AND HAPPY TUESDAY!! :P

Driving home. As soon as I get in I'll pull out my list and share what info I have. *thumbs up*

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<p>OK SO NO ONE REPLIED TO MY POST THE OTHER DAY... :huh: I WANTED HELP WITH CREATING A POST-KIT, IT WILL CONTAIN EVERYTHING THAT I WILL NEED POST- OP...I JUST WANT TO START GETTING PREPARED...ONLY THING I HAVE SO FAR IS BIOTIN...THANKS IN ADVANCE GUYS!!! OH AND HAPPY TUESDAY!! :P</p>

Gas X strips - so easy to take, they just melt right on your tongue

2oz Dipping cups (Walmart) - used these to store my food for after surgery (yogurt, applesauce, eggs, etc) they are the perfect size for your little pouch and you can just grab and go

Unflavored Protein powder- mixed a tablespoon in everything I ate for a way to get added protein. Also made my own protein Popsicles with a Zoku mini pop maker

Jello & pudding - sugar free of course just took a box of these in my favorite flavors plus a scoop of protein and mixed up a batch for the week - just follow directions on the box

Sugar free Popsicles - a good go to snack

Water Enhancer of Choice - you will get tired of Water so I brought so many to keep myself from getting bored

Sugar free mints - to keep your mouth from getting dry. The first few days home my month was do dry and I liked to use the mint to also help get rid of the protein and Vitamin after taste

Waterproof bandages - the hospital provided me with some but I am one that changed mine daily no matter what. I brought the kind that were just a size up from a band aid and they were the perfect size

Protein Shakes and blender bottles - I got 2 of the small size Blender Bottle and pre made my shakes for the day. As you can see I had everything in the fridge ready

Mederma for your scars - once they completely heal rub on daily

Miralax or Smooth Move just in case you are constipated

Imodium for diarrhea - which I needed and didn't have because people only tell you about the Constipation ( I know TMI)

All your Bariatric Vitamins - Multivitamin, Iron, Vit. D, B-12, and Biotin

Small bowls, plates, and baby silverware to help you eat small bites and slowly

Comfortable place to sleep - I used a recliner but you can do a large sofa chair, couch, or even a toddler bed. (my friend did this, Lol) just so you will not accidentally roll over on your stomach.

I also purchased a food mill for about 10 bucks off Amazon to purée my meat but I have not got to the stage yet so not sure if it will be useful. I am only 2 weeks post op.

Hope this helps!! If I think of anything else I will let you know

Willa

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THANK U!!!! MRS_JOHNSON ......I'M AT WORK RIGHT NOW IM GOING TO LOOK OVER EVERYTHING U SAID WHEN I GET OFF. ...HOW ARE U FEELING?

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THANK U!!!! MRS_JOHNSON ......I'M AT WORK RIGHT NOW IM GOING TO LOOK OVER EVERYTHING U SAID WHEN I GET OFF. ...HOW ARE U FEELING?

You are so welcome! I am feeling great! Almost back to normal, maybe about 80%. I went back to work yesterday and started exercise (walking on the treadmill) one week post op. It's was not bad at all. Only thing that gets me is gas pain. BE PREPARED!

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Ok Thank u wicked beauty! Drive safely

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    • Aunty Mamo

      Iʻm roughly 6 weeks post-op this morning and have begun to feel like a normal human, with a normal human body again. I started introducing solid foods and pill forms of medications/supplements a couple of weeks ago and it's really amazing to eat meals with my family again, despite the fact that my portions are so much smaller than theirs. 
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      I'm down 31 pounds since the day of surgery and 47 since my pre-op diet began, with that typical week long stall occurring at three weeks. I'm really starting to see some changes lately- some of my clothing is too big, some fits again. The most drastic changes I notice however are in my face. I've also noticed my endurance and flexibility increasing. I was really starting to be held up physically, and I'm so grateful that I'm seeing that turn around in such short order. 
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    • BeanitoDiego

      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
      Surgery was in August of 2023. A bill shows up for over $7,000 in January. WTF? I asks myself. I know that I jumped through all of the insurance hoops and verified this and triple checked that, as did the surgeon's office. All was set, and I paid all of the known costs before surgery.
      A looong story short, is that an assistant surgeon that was in the process of accepting money from my insurance company touched me while I was under anesthesia. That is what the bill was for. But hey, guess what? Some federal legislation was enacted last year to help patients out when they cannot consent to being touched by someone out of their insurance network. These types of bills fall under something called, "surprise billing," and you don't have to put up with it.
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      I had to make a lot of phone calls to both the surgeon's office and the insurance company and explain my rights and what the maximum out of pocket costs were that I could be liable for. Also had to remind them that it isn't my place to be taking care of all of this and that I was going to escalate things if they could not play nice with one another.
      Quick ending is that I don't have to pay that $7,000+. Advocate, advocate, advocate for yourself no matter how long it takes and learn more about this law if you are ever hit with a surprise bill.
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      I haven't been able to advance my diet past purees. Everything I eat other than tofu makes me choke and feels like trying to swallow rocks. They warned me it would get worse before it gets better, so lets hope this is all normal. I have my follow up on Monday so we'll see. Living on shakes and soup again is not fun. I had enough of them the first time!! LOL 
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    • BeanitoDiego

      Still purging all of the larger clothing. This morning, a shirt that I ADORED wearing ended up on top. Hard to let it go, but it was also hard to let go of those habits that also no longer serve my highest good. Onward and upward!
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