Call me <evil> but...

[AmandaRaeLeo 2,145]

My SIL only ever asked about my weight loos when it was fairly obvious I'd lost nothing, or gained. She never asks when I'm showing progress. She's not once commented on my loss this time. The closest she came was asking how my Mx WLS experience was.

[MichiganChic 3,262]

I can soooo totally relate. I have sister in law who sounds similar. So, I saw her this past weekend, and I loved, loved, loved it. I've always been so much heavier, and now I'm not! I just got into size 12s, and it felt great. I didn't have to say a word or do anything, but i still felt a little guilty for gloating inside, lol! Funny, she made a point of telling me she lost 10 pounds and her pants were a size 12. Um, maybe they were, but her shirt had to a 1-2x. Mine was a medium I didn't bother to tell her the size of my clothes. I figure I didn't tell people what size they were when I was in a 26 pants, so why now? (Except for you guys, of course.) I also never told them about my surgery.

Yes, you will greatly enjoy that moment. Savor it

[piercedqt78 658]

I have a sister that anytime I post on Facebook an update, she has to reply that she has also lost weight. It's funny that in my drop from a size 22-24 to a 10 and at every size change she has always made comments about her weight loss, yet she is in the same clothes as when I had surgery and they still fit her normally. I had surgery in may and didn't see her until Sept, and she lived a mile from me. Every time I tried to get together with her she had a reason not to get together. She cancelled family game night when I was able to be there. When we finally got together, and my uncle and cousin started complimenting my weight loss, my sister claimed to have an emergency text and had to leave. (her kids are all grown, and once she went home she never left, my family lives on the same block) even my family has said she is avoiding me. I have gone as far as making my status updates private to her on facebook, and when we rarely talk I don't mention my weight at all. The last time she saw me I was still in a loose 16, she may faint on Thanksgiving when I walk in AT GOAL. I am only 3 pounds from my goal as of my weekend weigh-in.

[tigermom12 34]

Oh that is going to be so awesome! You HAVE to come back and update us for sure on her reaction! And congratulations on your loss. That is so great!

[Healthier2day1227 326]

None of my in laws know of my surgery and they never will. <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />

Lipstick Lady I think we have the same sister in law! Mine has made weight comments about me multiple times, such as "I know what it's like, I used to be huge too" and "even though you are big you are pretty."

None of them know I had the sleeve. While she still hasn't acknowledged my 75 pound loss, there will come a point where I am no longer the big one that she can always compare herself too favorably.

[notmeanymore 629]

I too am looking forward to seeing the SIL during the holidays. The last time I saw her and my BIL I was 70 pounds lighter and her jaw almost hit the ground (the BIL was very happy for me). Now that Im 98 pounds lighter, things should be even more fun (insert evil giggle here).

[Fluffnomore 1,235]

Ugh. My husband who is planning to be sleeved in December had to go visit his family this weekend. I got a text last night that they're all making numerous comments about his weight and he's "really taking a beating." Considering this comes from a group who are or have all been a) overweight, diabetic, and c) suffering from their own damned health problems it really makes me see red. I hope for him that he will be able to tell them all to kiss off the next time we see them.

Angry? Yes. Because I'm the one who has to deal with the fallout from every visit. I do not understand families…even my own.

[caroline2 89]

Funny. My brothers have often given me a hard time....up until a few years ago, they called my little piggy. I remember them calling me that since early childhood. I don't see them often, but when I do, I will probably ask where is little piggy. I hope they have put on a few pounds!

Also, my ex and his wife...for obvious reasons.

[CowgirlJane 14,259]

I don't have this sort.of unsupportive family. A close friend was a big cheerleader for me getting sleeved but moved away a few months.later. she got really upset when I got smaller then her which surprised me. I chalk it up to her own frustration and don't hold it against her. After all, she was a key person in me getting sleeved so I owe her for that!

[Fluffnomore 1,235]

My husband's father is 90, and this has always been what he does. He refers to a very overweight, dear friend of the family as "the large detective." That man's wife has lost 100 pounds in the last year with diet and exercise changes, and although he used to talk to her about his concerns about her weight, now he keeps telling her she's lost too much. (She's still slightly overweight.) She says she can't win with him.

When I see him and he starts, I say flat out, "I'm not going to talk nicely to you if you speak to me that way." And he generally stops. My husband will then make private jokes to me about my brass balls clanking away. But he's not my dad, and he doesn't have the right to speak to me that way.

Of course, his dad is also suffering from diabetes complications, never makes diet changes, is simultaneously a food-pusher and loves to comment on how fattening things are…from a health standpoint he is quite active for his age and that saves him. But it's very frustrating to watch him alienate and criticize while knowing that every time we see him it might be the last time, given his age and health.

[McButterpants 2,846]

I think you should wear a helmet cam to capture the look on her face when she sees you! I'm guessing some slack-jawed expression followed up with a question about how you could possibly lose so much weight. I love it!

There are a couple of people that I can't wait to see in a few months - most are mom's that I know from my son's activities. They know I have struggled for years and years and give me such a sad look when I see them. One mom in particular has been treating me very poorly lately (I have no idea what evil deed I did to make her so mad at me she can't wave at me when I see her), but I can't wait to see how fast her gossipy-ass makes it's way over to me to start asking questions.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Y'all are a hoot! Bet she won't take seconds and thirds this year in front of me...

[Aaliyanah 50]

Lol!!

[NtvTxn 1,262]

I cannot wait to see my SIL on turkey day. We have not spoken nor have we seen each other since January. At the time, she was about 35 pounds lighter than me and LOVED to gloat about it in a not so subtle manner.

She would give me her clothing rejects with a casual, "These may be too small for you, but you are dieting, right?". She loved to commiserate with me about our mutual attempts to follow whatever diet we were on but loved to point out that her points/calories/units were lower than mine because she was lighter.

Our last conversation was her snickering about another overweight acquaintance's failed weigh-in, laughing that she did SO MUCH better and me asking if she talked about me as nastily as she did everyone else.

She didn't like that. My bad...

Fast forward to Thanksgiving and me being at least 90 pounds down from our last visit. I would bet any amount of money she is up at least 10 or 20.

I can't wait!!!!!

Who do you look forward to seeing during this journey?

does she KNOW you've had surgery??!!! I have a couple of family member, both who should ask for my doctor's name and phone number......who don't even acknowledge that I have lost 85 lbs. ONE of them has never said a word, the other did at first, then stopped. I FELT bigger than either of them, but I suspect, even though we are all built a little different, we were all three about the same size. I don't care, but I find it amusing!

Have fun!!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

Nope. None of my in laws know.