How to avoid "FOOD questioning" at parties?!

[IndieAllie 36]

I just went to my first birthday party after being sleeved and since I haven't been completely outspoken about my choice to have surgery (only close friends, family and you all know) I had some really funny looks. People were like, you're losing weight, are you just starving yourself???

I ended up carrying a plate of food around with me and just moving the items around with my fork in an attempt to "look normal" and avoid questioning!

How have you been able to socially avoid ALL the details? It just gets annoying and I'm only in the first leg of my journey!

Edited November 1, 2013 by IndieAllie

[RJ'S/beginning 5,357]

I just went to my first birthday party after being sleeved and since I haven't been completely outspoken about my choice to have surgery (only close friends, family and you all know) I had some really funny looks. People were like, you're losing weight, are you just starving yourself???

I ended up carrying a plate of food around with me and just moving the items around with my fork in an attempt to "look normal" and avoid questioning!

How have you been able to socially avoid ALL the details? It just gets annoying and I'm only in the first leg of my journey!

I think you did a fabulous job carrying around that plate of food...i think I will use that one myself...

For me everyone knows I almost died a few months ago so no one think that I am dieting or eating funny...They think that it is the results of not eating for 5 1/2 months...So no one has asked me! YET!!!

[BellaItaliana 57]

I also make a plate and carry it around, etc. If I really get persistent questioning, then I say that I am dieting so I drank a Protein Shake right before I came to the party so I wouldn't be tempted to eat a bunch of bad stuff.

[Beach Lover 1,084]

I think you did a great job and I will take your idea and use it myself!

[Aaliyanah 50]

I just went to my first birthday party after being sleeved and since I haven't been completely outspoken about my choice to have surgery (only close friends' date=' family and you all know) I had some really funny looks. People were like, you're losing weight, are you just starving yourself???

I ended up carrying a plate of food around with me and just moving the items around with my fork in an attempt to "look normal" and avoid questioning!

How have you been able to socially avoid ALL the details? It just gets annoying and I'm only in the first leg of my journey![/quote']

Lol... I can't take you with that plate of food... I could only imagine.... Why can't people just be ok with you looking great and getting healthy?

[Carole 4]

I told everyone I was having the sleeve. It was medically necessary for me so I was happy about it.

When I first went out to dinner: I was on my fast; I chewed my bar in a restaurant while family ate delicious looking food but stuck to it.

Since mine was in April... I have tried a sliver of cake and nuts at parties. Realized the cake didn't make any sense as I didn't crave it as much as I wanted to see how I tollerated it. But No sodas, had a little wine for my birthday but not many sips shared it.

So, depending on how far out you are; you could say: We just came from eating a late lunch and I am not that hungry but thank you; may I take a plate home? Then, give it to someone else to eat:)

If people ask questions: I have decided to give up sugars and carbs for a while and boost my metabolism?

[cindymg 629]

Is it just me, or is anyone else thinking, "what kind of people care if someone is or is not eating?"

Unless it is the host/hostess who slaved over a hot stove all day making special dishes and wants to know what you think of them, what business is it of anyone else's if you eat or don't eat?

I go to a cookie party every year before Christmas. Sometimes I even bake and enter the cookie contest. And I don't eat sugar! So I usually just walk around with a wine glass (sometimes just filled with water). If someone asks if I tried a particular cookie, I tell them I don't eat sugar and that usually stops that conversation. I always have a great time at the party talking with friends, meeting new people and seeing what everyone has made.

[shondaj 14]

I have worked at the same place with the same boss for the past 8 year and not once has he ever offered to take me out for lunch well this past week he asked me to have lunch with him since im only 21/2 months out and 60lbs down i don't feel comfortable going to lunch with him without him expecting i have a eating disorder and i don't want to tell him I've had the surgery just don't know what to do......i kinda want to tell him just because i don't want him thinking im sick but on the other hand this is my personal business and i don't want him to know what should i do?????

[HR Pro 2]

I have worked at the same place with the same boss for the past 8 year and not once has he ever offered to take me out for lunch well this past week he asked me to have lunch with him since im only 21/2 months out and 60lbs down i don't feel comfortable going to lunch with him without him expecting i have a eating disorder and i don't want to tell him I've had the surgery just don't know what to do......i kinda want to tell him just because i don't want him thinking im sick but on the other hand this is my personal business and i don't want him to know what should i do?????

He is probably concerned about your weight loss and whether you are ill. 60 lbs in 2.5 months is incredible.

You can either go to lunch if you are allowed to eat some solids now, and move food around your plate/get a box to go for later.

Or you can give him limited information so he is not worrying about you? Ask him if you can meet in the office instead of out at lunch because you are on a strict diet and not eating out so you can control your diet. If he presses, tell him it is a medically monitored diet. If he still insists you go to lunch, go and have hot tea or something you *can* eat.