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4 wks ago we drove down to Ca to help out with my MIL. I knew she had Parkinsons right away. The following 2 weeks, we took care of her. My FIL asked us to move in to help with her, him (he's 90) and the house. We agreed. We'll move our whole lives 16 hrs away and move into hubbys old bedroom. Then MIL was in the hospital with a colon infection. Afer a week, we drove home to pack and move.

She seemed to be getting better. She was talking and asking to go home. We spent a week at home (Oregon) and left yesterday, 4 days before we were scheduled to leave. Hubby had a feeling we should go early. Stopped 1/2 way there for the nite. Got a call this am that she had died. Hubbys dad was with her. Hubbys upset cuz we didn't make it in time.

And I already had 1/2 donut wirh coffee this am. I'm sure there's gunna food galore for the next week. Not even gunna worry about what I eat this week. Since I can eat so little I don't think it'll make much of a difference in the long run.

Hubbys never ever lost anyone. My dad died when I was 20 and my husband died when I was 40. I'm a pro at this now. I know what FIL is feeling right now. But being on the other side, I don't know what to say to him...

Just wanted to vent. Riding in a 22 ft truck with our car on the back. Gives me something to do...

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So sorry to hear your sad loss! It is never easy to know what to say but just being by your hubbies side and supporting him will make it so much better for him. Don't forget to look after you as well though.

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I am so sorry for your loss. What a wonderful, loving, selfless person you are to be willing to move away from home to help care for your husbands family.

I just want to say that since you can eat so little, it matters even MORE what you eat. You need to eat properly so that you can feel well and be there for your hubby. If you eat sugar and carbs instead of Protein and plenty of Water, you are going to feel like crap. Please do take care of yourself so that you can be there for husband & FIL.

Best of luck to you. You will be in my prayers.

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You and your family will be in my prayers.

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So sorry for your loss, will pray for you and your family.

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I'm so sorry to hear this. You and yours will be in my prayers.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Watch your Protein and fluids. You'll feel better if you aren't sick. I will be thinking of you.

Lynda

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Sorry for your loss.

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I am sorry for the lost of your mil!

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so sorry to hear. Be sure to take care of yourself so you can be there for all the others who will be leaning on you.

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My Prayers go out to you and your family but remember to take care of yourself and eat healthy , this is an emotional time and you need to be strong and healthy for your family as well as yourself.

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I am so sorry for your loss. Praying for you and your family.

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I'm so sorry for your loss. Keeping you and you're family in prayers!

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