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It's funny. Before my surgery' date=' the vast majority of the comments I received about my plans was negative. "Why would you do that?" "I have a (friend/relative/etc) who had the surgery and (insert bad outcome)" "You don't look big enough to need it." "I could never do that to myself." etc.

Hence I decided not to tell anyone at work. Now that I'm back from my leave and visibly thinner, I have had nothing but positive feedback. "You look fantastic!" "It's not just your size, you just look happier!" "Can you tell me more about it? I've always been interested in getting it." etc.

Most of all, I've been a little overwhelmed by the kindness others have shown me, and by their support. And I honestly am surprised that I look happier and more confident. I can't tell you how often I get this.

Anyway, just had to share.[/quote']

I totally understand! I have told 2 friends and only my husband and sister know. Everyone else is sooo judgmental! It is always "you can lose the weight if you just tried!" Like I haven't tried everything under the sun. What is really bad is I know that my in-laws are going to be very disapproving, and some of them live in my home and still don't know what I am having done. They only know that I am having a "hormonal issue" fixed. I feel like it is none of their business, and it is not like they will help or do any of the work required to lose the weight. It is also sort of tough because my husband doesn't fully understand the whole change that it encompasses. I have made changes prior to surgery, and changed the eating habits of everyone in the house. The entire family is losing wright. It won't seem as out of place when I am dropping so much.

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Same thing here... I had so many negative comments and now that I've had no issues and my transformaton doesn't look like I use to be big everybody and their phat momma is asking me a ton of questions.

What makes me super self conscience is when I see someone that hasn't seen me since before surgery and the get ALL LOUD AND EXCITED... saying... "OH My Gosh Tish, you look SO AMAZING! I didn't even recognize you."

I'm super confident and always have been but that sure makes me want to cover myself up and be shy.

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~Leticia **HW: 259**PreOp: 216**SURG: 3/21/13 **Discharged @: 221** 3 mons post op. CW: 165.0 lbs. --- Only 15 lbs to my goal ---

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