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You know even those of us that have "no regrets" have down days too.

Not everyday is sunshine and rainbows as a sleever :)

How long have u been sleeved?

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How long have u been sleeved?

I'm almost 7 months.. And not everyday is easy.

I have days that I wish I could eat like I used to.

But I know that's why I did it, because the way I used to eat was bad, really bad.

Even though my stomach can't, my head sometimes still wants to binge.

At seven months though I am able to eat much more "normally" compared to you.. My diet looks quite normal as a matter of fact.

But see, I was a closet binger and I still miss it sometimes.

At the end of the day, would I do it again?

Yes, I most definitely would,

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I'm almost 7 months.. And not everyday is easy.

I have days that I wish I could eat like I used to.

But I know that's why I did it because the way I used to eat was bad' date=' really bad.

Even though my stomach can't, my head sometimes still wants to binge.

At seven months though I am able to eat much more "normally" compared to you.. My diet looks quite normal as a matter of fact.

But see, I was a closet binger and I still miss it sometimes.

At the end of the day, would I do it again?

Yes, I most definitely would,[/quote']

Did u have Hair loss

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Did u have Hair loss

As you can see I have really long hair and at one point I thought about cutting it short because I started losing a lot at 4 months out, it was falling out everywhere! Handfuls in the shower!

Scary stuff. But it stopped about a month ago and even though it drove my family crazy, my hair was everywhere (I. told them I could stop cooking dinner if they hated it that much :P)

Now one notices it like I do. It's livable.

I did tell myself if it got that bad I would buy some Xfusion hair fibers to camouflage my scalp.

But it never got that serious :)

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Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).

Please, those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.

For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.

Wishing happiness to all those struggling,

Daydra

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As you can see I have really long hair and at one point I thought about cutting it short because I started losing a lot at 4 months out' date=' it was falling out everywhere! Handfuls in the shower!

Scary stuff. But it stopped about a month ago and even though it drove my family crazy, my hair was everywhere (I. told them I could stop cooking dinner if they hated it that much :P)

Now one notices it like I do. It's livable.

I did tell myself if it got that bad I would buy some Xfusion hair fibers to camouflage my scalp.

But it never got that serious :)[/quote']

Thanks 4 the info I hope I don't loose a lot my hair is already thin

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Please forgive me for double posting if someone else has specifically mentioned this (I quit reading at page 4...).

Please' date=' those of you that are experiencing feelings of loneliness, feeling down, feeling regret, can't figure out how you are going to live your life with these enormous changes that you are making, find a therapist that you feel comfortable with. There is nothing "wrong" with you, you are simply making a huge life change and there are going to be an unimaginable number of emotions (both good and uncomfortable) that are going to go along with that. Sometimes family and friends won't understand. Forums like this one can't substitute for a professional therapist. Having a full range of really strong emotions is completely normal with this big of a life change, and you will need to learn what they are trying to tell you and how to deal with them. A trained therapist can help with that. Maybe you are experiencing situational depression, or maybe you are simply overwhelmed right now by all the changes.

For many of us, our issues with weight is a result of other underlying emotional issues. That may not be the case for you, but there is a lot of emotion wrapped up in being overweight or obese. I expect that you will get hit with emotions periodically that you have no idea where they came from. After making such an enormous change to better ourselves, we deserve happiness and contentment with our new lives and our new bodies. Don't forget that "we" includes "you". That's going take some work and support for our mind, as well. I hope that this post is taken in the love and support that it's offered.

Wishing happiness to all those struggling,

Daydra[/quote']

Thanks 4 being so caring and supportive

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I was sleeved April 3 this year & keep having these feelings what did I do 2 myself ' date='y didn't I try harder & needing a nap everyday with low energy makes it worst plus count this do that my doc & nut made it seem so easy its not its very hard & a lot of work please keep me & my FAM in our prayers I know I did this 4 a good reason it just don't feel like it I'm tired of taking all these Vitamins giving myself B12 shots &feeling lonely everything change after this my friends,sex drive ,my attitude & most of all my body I keep having break outs & no 1 knows y[/quote']

I was just wondering if you were feeling any better?

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me too. Are things getter better physically and emotionally???

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It was nice knowing you! <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/tongue.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt=':P' />

I love crossing posts where you both have been! You gals are brutally honest and it's very refreshing. Keep up the food work ;)

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I was just wondering if you were feeling any better?

I am feeling a lil better still having breakouts & still needing naps but hanging in there also the sex drive is still low but trying things 2 help that out most of all I'm just happy & thankful I didn't have leaks and complications like some others

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