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I went out to dinner with my boyfriend today (this is not the frustrating part, lol). He ordered half a dozen garlic rolls smothered in butter, rib rolls, full rack of ribs, and a brownie sundae. Oh, and 4 refills of his coke.

I had half of a mahi sandwich without the bread and maybe a tablespoon of black Beans.

Since I was done much earlier than him, I sat there and essentially watched him eat. At one point, just as a morsel of BBQ Sauce started dripping down the side of his mouth, I felt a really strong urge to smack the ribs out of his hand and yell SSSTOOOOPPPPP EATINGGGGGG!!!! I mean, seriously. He INHALES his food. I could swear that sometimes he doesn't even chew it. It's really unattractive to see him eat so much. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I a horrible girlfriend? Lol

Oh, and as I write this, he just went to the kitchen for a "tiny snack". Smh

I know he doesn't order so much delicious food on purpose. He's a big guy (6'3" and maybe 220lbs) so I understand he won't be satisfied with a Caesar salad. But c'mon.

Let me say one more thing: I have no desire to eat any of the stuff that he ordered. I was perfectly happy with my sandwich. but ordering and eating all that food?? Does anybody else get frustrated/annoyed/disgusted when watching people eat unhealthy food? Is it just me?

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I went out to dinner with my boyfriend today (this is not the frustrating part' date=' lol). He ordered half a dozen garlic rolls smothered in butter, rib rolls, full rack of ribs, and a brownie sundae. Oh, and 4 refills of his coke.

I had half of a mahi sandwich without the bread and maybe a tablespoon of black Beans.

Since I was done much earlier than him, I sat there and essentially watched him eat. At one point, just as a morsel of BBQ Sauce started dripping down the side of his mouth, I felt a really strong urge to smack the ribs out of his hand and yell SSSTOOOOPPPPP EATINGGGGGG!!!! I mean, seriously. He INHALES his food. I could swear that sometimes he doesn't even chew it. It's really unattractive to see him eat so much. Does anyone else feel this way? Am I a horrible girlfriend? Lol

Oh, and as I write this, he just went to the kitchen for a "tiny snack". Smh

I know he doesn't order so much delicious food on purpose. He's a big guy (6'3" and maybe 220lbs) so I understand he won't be satisfied with a Caesar salad. But c'mon.

Let me say one more thing: I have no desire to eat any of the stuff that he ordered. I was perfectly happy with my sandwich. but ordering and eating all that food?? Does anybody else get frustrated/annoyed/disgusted when watching people eat unhealthy food? Is it just me?[/quote']

OMG I can so relate. The worst part is when I KNOW he's not still hungry. Sometimes I'll just pointedly look at him and ask him if he's hungry and he'll look guilty and put the plate down. I don't mean to be b****y, but the deal was that we were doing this together (me via VSG and him via ketosis) so I feel like if he can complain about what I eat, it's reasonable to point out he's eating way more than he needs to!!

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Yes!! Totally annoying... But the part that gets me is realizing I used to eat like that!!! I feel too guilty to call anyone out on it :/

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I know how you feel. I find myself being the food police. When I see someone in my family get a huge plate of food I'm grossed out and want to say something to them but I don't. I didn't like anyone saying stuff about my eating habits before the sleeve so I just keep my comments to myself. God it's hard though!

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We are the ones that decided to go thru this...not him. We have to try NOT to judge other people in how or how much they eat. Just take your time....eat over at least twenty minutes , put your fork down between bites and enjoy the food....not the scenery. :) It is amazing that we used to eat that much too.

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Wow.. Glad I'm not the only one my Huddy is the same way.. I think it's a man thing ...my brother's can eat and eat ..also and gain no weight :(

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We are the ones that decided to go thru this...not him. We have to try NOT to judge other people in how or how much they eat. Just take your time....eat over at least twenty minutes ' date=' put your fork down between bites and enjoy the food....not the scenery. :) It is amazing that we used to eat that much too.[/quote']

Very will said!!

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What is a rib roll?

Oh my goodness. It's like heaven on a plate. Its a deep fried homemade eggroll mized with onion and baby back rib meat, pulled pork, cheddar cheese and bbq sauce..

So so so good.

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I know my sleeve is working because that sounds horrific. Now if I had known about these two weeks ago, I'd be singing a different tune...

I started watching what other people ate when I started my pre op. It amazed me to see how my skinny friends ate vs. my fellow chubs. Never noticed before because I was so busy shoveling it in.

It really doesn't gross me out but it does make me feel sad for them. One wants the surgery and her insurance doesn't cover it. Another wants to want to do it but I not think she will. I hope they never feel as if I am judging them because I am not. I have no doubt I would be eating the same way if I had not had this surgery and that scares me. I feel very blessed to have insurance that would pay, a support group behind me and the courage to make the plunge.

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I had these feelings in the past when I'd focus on my own eating... this time around I'm much more relaxed about things. My BF is a little guy 5'6" 140 pounds... he eats like a horse doesn't bother me a bit. It does bother me sometimes when I see someone who is obese eating massive amounts of unhealthy food.. but in a sad way, not in a "want to slap the food out of their hands" way... Now when I watch an episode of Man-vs-Food.. I feel disgusted to watch people eat those massive quantities and see how miserable they are on the verge of vomiting...

The only time I've been on the verge of slapping food out of someone's hand was when I was two days preop and on my first second day of clears... I was on the train from phila to Massachusetts and the lady behind me was eating a family size bag of Doritos for the ENTIRE train ride.. I'd hear her put it away.. then 5 minutes later I'd hear the bag again.. then crunch crunch crunch then I'd smell the chips... wash-rinse-repeat for SIX HOURS

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Where do you even find rib rolls? I have never heard of that.

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Where do you even find rib rolls? I have never heard of that.

Haha, its at a restaurant here in Florida. If you're ever in the area and looking for a Rib Roll, let me know!

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Thank you for all of your replies! It definitely helps knowing that I'm not the only one frustrated! :)

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Haha' date=' its at a restaurant here in Florida. If you're ever in the area and looking for a Rib Roll, let me know![/quote']

What restaurant in what town? I'm in FL.

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