All right. So I'm due back at work next week and I'm definitely ready to get out of the house!

My question is, what did you guys tell people when you didn't want to reveal the real surgery?

I'm at a loss. Some coworkers can be inquisitive. I won't say "nosey" because they're all very nice, but I'm sure they'll ask where I've been for 3 weeks and notice the ~15 lbs lost!

My thoughts were to say something about stomach ulcers. Or maybe something about my PCOS. I DO have PCOS and that's a major cause of my weight gain, so it's not a huge lie.

And then part of me wants to just tell the truth... Worded in a way like "my PCOS was bad and my insulin was skyrocketing (all true!) so I had this surgery to help me lose weight and fix the issues."

I'm sure I'm worrying over nothing but was just interested in what you guys told others. I'm a "lightweight" so I feel like this may confuse some of them or even insult some of the ladies who are larger than me.

Any tips?

To the OP.. I apologize for the nay sayers demanding that they should be put on a pedestal .. Yanno.. Waaaay above us human failures? What they have to say has nothing to do with your question and contributes very little other than trying to make others feel less than them.

You asked what others tell people in regards to their surgery without going into the wls details. Responding answer should have been kept to that subject alone. My apologies .. For their disrespect to you

People never cease to amaze me.

They advocate lying then attack people who simply say "honesty is the best policy".

One simple question. Why attack someone for recommending the exact thing that we were all taught as children?

Damn straight.

I am ashamed of myself for scanning as much of this thread as I have. It makes IQ points drain right out of your ear.

People never cease to amaze me.

They advocate lying then attack people who simply say "honesty is the best policy".

One simple question. Why attack someone for recommending the exact thing that we were all taught as children?

We feel attacked also! We're being told that we're liars, dishonest, and lack integrity because we choose to keep our medical history private! If anything us people who choose to keep our surgery quiet, we've mostly said "to each their own" or "do what's right for you. How hard is it to respect that?

But see you yourself keep putting it into only two categories.

It's really not that black and white? is it?

I tell some people and I don't tell some people' date='

What does that make me?

Can't put me into those boxes! I don't "fit"

Oh and on a side note this argument is as old as the hills and it goes this way every time.. Nowhere

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This.

I am not ashamed or embarrassed about making this decision - I'm much more embarrassed for letting myself get to this point. There are several people in my life that know I've made this choice, and I'm very comfortable talking about it when I decide to. However, there are some more who don't know yet, and many more who may never hear about it. Why? Because I am somewhat private about this sort of thing.

Example: I had corrective surgery on my nose a few years ago. I did let my family and some friends know, but it wasn't something I shared generally. However, when I heard that a coworker was having sinus issues and was looking at options, I volunteered info about my surgery, why I chose to do it and the results with her.

The point is I'm not hiding. I just don't choose to share with everyone I know. I'm hanging out in the gray area with Laura

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Omg, no one cares if you all keep it a secret. It's all the cover stories and lying about how you are losing the weight.

Omg, no one cares if you all keep it a secret. It's all the cover stories and lying about how you are losing the weight.

Why do you "care" about that? Does it affect you in some kind of way? Live and let live, maybe?

We feel attacked also! We're being told that we're liars' date=' dishonest, and lack integrity because we choose to keep our medical history private! If anything us people who choose to keep our surgery quiet, we've mostly said "to each their own" or "do what's right for you. How hard is it to respect that?[/quote']

No. You are being told you are a liar and dishonest for lying. No one has said that keeping your medical history private is lying. But lying about it? That IS lying. You can dress that lie up all you want but it is still a lie. This includes lies of omission by deliberately misleading people as to how you are losing weight.

Tell lies and you are a liar. It really is that simple. I am laughing at the craziness of telling people you lie, recommend to others that they lie and then get all shades of upset when you are called a liar as a consequence. Can you not see the obvious here?

My response was that I just needed some time off. And if they ask about the weight loss I say I have been eating less and working out more...... all truths lol

Oh but if they flat out asked if I got surgery, I said yes....

Subject of this thread:- IDEAS OF WHAT TO TELL PEOPLE??? NOT. IS IT OK TO LIE OR NOT!??? ????

No. You are being told you are a liar and dishonest for lying. No one has said that keeping your medical history private is lying. But lying about it? That IS lying. You can dress that lie up all you want but it is still a lie. This includes lies of omission by deliberately misleading people as to how you are losing weight.

Tell lies and you are a liar. It really is that simple. I am laughing at the craziness of telling people you lie, recommend to others that they lie and then get all shades of upset when you are called a liar as a consequence. Can you not see the obvious here?

That is YOUR OPINION! It is not a lie to say that I am watching what I eat and exercising. I never recommended for anyone to say what I say. I'm not upset, I said I felt like I was being attacked also. You're reading way too much into things if you think that some randoms persons opinion over the internet is affecting my life. I'm having a discussion with you and you are taking part in it. If you want to call me a liar, that's fine. Are you happy now? How does it feel up on that high horse?

Why do you "care" about that? Does it affect you in some kind of way? Live and let live' date=' maybe?[/quote']

I care because I care about humanity. I care about society and I don't like to see people hurting. As I said earlier, I remember what it was like to be obese and feel like a total failure at losing weight or maintaining weight loss. Every time someone told me they lost with diet and exercise my own sense of failure was pretty real and not pleasant. If I tell someone now that I lost the weight through portion control and exercise then technically those statements are truth, however it misses out a really important part, that I have had the surgery which makes portion control and food choices so much easier.

I don't want to leave someone else who may be struggling with their own sense of failure with a half truth about how I have achieved what I have achieved. Because I care how others feel.

LIAR LIAR PANTS ON FIRE! LOL.