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When I was young I wasn't as confident as I am now..my hubby has help a lot with that !! And sex with a skinner man is a lot better for me anyways

LMAO!! Dude! TMI!!! :P

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Well, I happen 2 be a BBW and personally I'm just attracted to slim men...we fit. Seriously, I think about everything and if its 2 big ppl, we need a bigger car, bigger bed, more food possibly, clothes are more expensive and I worry about wht sex would be like and I can NOT have bad sex, he would loose my attention....its shallow but true

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Well, I happen 2 be a BBW and personally I'm just attracted to slim men...we fit. Seriously, I think about everything and if its 2 big ppl, we need a bigger car, bigger bed, more food possibly, clothes are more expensive and I worry about wht sex would be like and I can NOT have bad sex, he would loose my attention....its shallow but true

AGAIN with the Sex! You bunch of HORNDOGS!!! Bahahahahahahahahahahahahahaha

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Yeah sex is not the most important thing in the world people lol

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Maybe .. And I mean MAYBE' date=' it could be that the majority of BBW are sincerely not happy being BBW and being with a BBM is just a reminder of what they dont like about themselves. It's like looking in the mirror all the time. In general, Women are way more sensitive to things that, for a variety of reasons, don't bother men. Just a thought.[/quote']

That was exactly what it was for me! I have never dated a big guy! Never... 2 big sweaty folks in the bed was not my idea of fun! I have always been most attracted to regular sized men and want to be regular sized...

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Lets keep it real, like real real...if u get in a relationship with a person and the sex is bad, u are not going 2 stay for long. Seriously, u will try 2 and u will probably try 2 teach them what u like but if it doesnt get better, you WILL leave. Be honest with urself

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Not really for me it's about being happy for the past year my bf and I have had sex maybe once not cause the sex is bad but because it doesn't make our relationship. He's just happy to be with me.

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I am very curious as to why BBWs don't like to date larger men? One time in my search for an answer I came across a woman who told me that 2 big people don't seem right. Whatever the hell that means. So now that I am on this site I thought I'd ask. I really am wanting to get a serious answer. This just isn't a couple of women I've met or just something that has happened to me but I've noticed a trend of this everywhere. Hell a lot of dating sites have lots of bbws wanting tall slender men or something of the sort. I've always loved larger women yet I've never dated one. Makes no sense to me. Thanks in advance.

Personally- it was not that I purposely avoided big guys. It's just that my own attraction and sense of what is appealing went toward tall skinny guys. The skinnier the better. I had no use for muscle men either. I even married a tall skinny guy. We 'work' (physically speaking) because he likes a girl with a little meat on the bones. I don't know if you'll get a clear answer on this. Everyone likes what they like.

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Maybe .. And I mean MAYBE, it could be that the majority of BBW are sincerely not happy being BBW and being with a BBM is just a reminder of what they dont like about themselves. It's like looking in the mirror all the time. In general, Women are way more sensitive to things that, for a variety of reasons, don't bother men. Just a thought.

you know that makes complete sense!! never saw it that way. thanks

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Let me tell you a little "secret" - self confidence is probably the most important attractiveness factor when women are evaluating men. Do not discount the power of a friendly smile, eye contact and a genuine interest in a nice woman.

oh I am confident! it's just that women terrify me sometimes haha. thanks

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I appreciate all the answers. I see for some of you it's sexual and some it's just personal preference. It is what it is. Good day to you all. :)

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Yeah sex is not the most important thing in the world people lol

But it DOESNT HURT!! Crap, now Im on the Horndog team!! Lol

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Okay, I'm NOT single but I realize I'm posting in the single's forum, I just wanted to say that when I was plus-sized I was never comfortable being with someone who WEIGHED LESS than me. So I guess that would put me in the camp of looking for a larger man. My hubby and I were both overweight when we met, and then together climbed into morbid obesity. We have both been sleeved and are healthier now in our 40's than we ever were in our 20's and 30's.

But yeah, to date/marry I was always interested in a bigger guy. So I think whoever said that people like who they like is probably the best answer to this question.

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I have to agree with the sex aspect. My husband is 160 pounds and 6 feet tall.

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