Since Novemeber, I have been planning this surgery. I only told my husband and my friend who is picking me up from the airport. I intentionally left my parents out of the information loop because they are older and I was worried how they would receive the news. Well, last night they showed up on my front doorstep at 9pm. My husband, who unbeknownst to me was desperate to keep me from going (he couldn't tell me this?!), had called them and told them I was going to Mexico to have an organ removed. They were crying and begging me to reconsider. They said they would help me find an alternative and they would pay for health services my insurance wouldn't cover. For two hours I cried and tried to explain to them what I was doing and where I was going and how safe it actually was compared to other kinds of surgery...but to no avail. They even suggested that the people who had recommended my doctor to me were fake profiles of people creating fake blogs to trick me into a scam.

My plane ticket is booked. My arrangements are made. Everything is ready to go.

I'm lost. I have no idea what to do. My husband and parents are the most important people in my life. I told them the only promise I could make is to call my doctor and see if he would allow me to reschedule. If he consents, I have to find a way to exchange my plane ticket.

I cried so much last night that my eyes are almost swollen shut this morning.

Please advise.

Bee

Just postpone it for a little bit' date=' don't talk about it with them and they will forget about it. Then book again and don't tell anyone when your going lol that's what I would do. Just so you won't have to deal with all that.[/quote']

I hate to be all sneaky like that, but sometimes no matter what you tell someone, they won't change their minds. We have done the research, they haven't. We know it's safe to go, but they think it's a death sentence. I'm kind of in the same situation you're in, but I've made it clear to all my family that I'm doing it. Nothing will change my mind.

Mom just called me and started sobbing and begging when I told her I wanted to go ahead. I can't deal with this crap!

I know this is coming from their concern but this almost seems like emotional blackmail. It seems like its decision making time. Poo or get off the pot. Then you live with your choice.

Just so you know, I have the utmost sympathy for what you're going through and I hope whatever call you make brings you peace.

Amanda Rae

Will you regret if you don't go?

^^^^^^ Really good question. How will you feel if you don't go?

She asked if I would consider delaying the surgery and seeing a specialist group. She wants me to be throughly evaluated before I get on a plane. I think also, she believes that through diet and exercise I will succeed. I want to compromise but I can't deal with the theatrics.

Will you regret if you don't go?

Yes, I will. However, it is not easy to go against the three most important people in my life. I can always do the surgery later, like over the summer. They want me to exhaust other avenues first and I think I can compromise. I am feeling better about the entire thing actually. It's not a perfect situation, but it is a workable one

She asked if I would consider delaying the surgery and seeing a specialist group. She wants me to be throughly evaluated before I get on a plane. I think also, she believes that through diet and exercise I will succeed. I want to compromise but I can't deal with the theatrics.

We all know we can succeed with diets. We all have done it a gazillion times... But what happens after that? We end up fatter and even unhealthier than before. It's a non ending cycle that will eventually kill us or come close to it by making us useless humans.

I know. I am just so emotionally drained. It's hard to see and hear your mother cry like that. I appreciate everyone taking the time to respond. I'm just going to have to put my plans off for a short while. I'll try it her way and when it doesn't work, she can go with me to MX.

Bee, I'm glad you are feeling a little better. It sounds like you know what you need to do. I just hope you don't get the same storm when you plan to go later. I would suggest that you find a buddy who is going at the same time you are, just in case you need some moral support. Your mom might not come around to being supportive until after you do the deed and prove her fears wrong. Hang in there.

BEE. I have followed this all day. The only response I think is worthy of repeating is WAiT and get some balance. Will it be so bad to wait a little. This is causing so much stress for you.

Show them the videos on YouTube of people that have gone to Mexico and the drs there. You just need to educate them all. They just don't understand. However if you change your mind. My dr only charged $9800 total.

Bee, my heart goes out to you, but this thread is disturbing to me. You are getting pressure from your family AND the chat line. I hope you find peace in whatever your decision is. For me, it would be a HUGE red flag if my total support system was pressuring me to WAIT.

If you want to borrow my line, feel free. Here it is: "Oh, don't worry! I picked the dr. with the nicest chickens running around the shack!"

You only have this one life. That's it. I hope you can find the strength to do what makes YOU happy. It's your decision. Everyone else will get over it. You deserve happiness. And if this surgery will help with that, then you deserve it. Big hugs to you.

So sorry for your dilemma. I also am a real person....not a madeup story. I had my surgery done in Peoria' date=' IL and my insurance covered it but as we all know not everyone qualifies for insurance coverage and those people usually go to Mexico. Good luck to you....I am sure this is difficult for you after all the research, planning and anticipation that goes into this decision.[/quote']

Cbd you just shocked me...I'm from Galesburg Il and used to go to Peoria for everything...nice to know I have a neighbor on here!!