Since Novemeber, I have been planning this surgery. I only told my husband and my friend who is picking me up from the airport. I intentionally left my parents out of the information loop because they are older and I was worried how they would receive the news. Well, last night they showed up on my front doorstep at 9pm. My husband, who unbeknownst to me was desperate to keep me from going (he couldn't tell me this?!), had called them and told them I was going to Mexico to have an organ removed. They were crying and begging me to reconsider. They said they would help me find an alternative and they would pay for health services my insurance wouldn't cover. For two hours I cried and tried to explain to them what I was doing and where I was going and how safe it actually was compared to other kinds of surgery...but to no avail. They even suggested that the people who had recommended my doctor to me were fake profiles of people creating fake blogs to trick me into a scam.

My plane ticket is booked. My arrangements are made. Everything is ready to go.

I'm lost. I have no idea what to do. My husband and parents are the most important people in my life. I told them the only promise I could make is to call my doctor and see if he would allow me to reschedule. If he consents, I have to find a way to exchange my plane ticket.

I cried so much last night that my eyes are almost swollen shut this morning.

Please advise.

Bee

They'll be fine once your back and see that you're ok.

I went to Mexico earlier this month! It was a great experience!!!! Drs and nurses were great. I went with dr Fernando Garcia at mi doctor. It's much more common then you guys think!!! You should still go!

Not nice on your husbands part btw!

Thank you so much. I have been reading the responses and all I can say is that you guys are wonderful. I have no new news, though

I'm sure it would. My overwhelming anxiety just thinking about the possibility of telling them makes me fully aware I need therapy.

Anxiety can be crippling. I know it too. I hope you are able defeat the anxiety.

Amanda Rae

I totally understand where you are coming from. I currently have the band and had it done here in the states. I told my parents and sister of course my husband and they were not quite understanding about it then how about me going to Mexico to be revisited to the sleeve! Uh heck no I'm not going to tell them!! Maybe one day I will and maybe not. They would rather me stay obese and develop my family genetic diabetes, high blood pressure, stokes and heart disease than get healthy from a surgery and definitely not one in Mexico! Just kidding but not really. They love you even your husband though he went about it in the most horrible way it was out of love and fear. Now he would for sure be in the dog house and deserve whatever you give him. We can't give you answers but you have to do what's best for you because no one else will. We are all here for you.

They just found out. You've known for a long time. They're trying to catch up. Give it a few days? When's your plane? Have more conversations. You'll find peace with this. Give them time to catch up and you time to rethink and recommit to your health. Your path. (((Hugs)))

They just found out. You've known for a long time. They're trying to catch up. Give it a few days? When's your plane? Have more conversations. You'll find peace with this. Give them time to catch up and you time to rethink and recommit to your health. Your path. (((Hugs)))

I fly out Sunday afternoon. I might ask them to go with me since they offered. Thank you for reminding me that THIS TOO SHALL PASS

I said..."MEXICO!" It was hilarious. He got online and booked a ticket and went with me.

I think is exactly what happened. I started to pack all of my things, round up my items, etc. and DH must have panicked. He knew I had the money, passport, plane ticket, but the crap on the table was his wake up call that I was serious. Until last night, all he said was, "I don't think it's a good idea, but you're going to do what you want anyway." I asked him point blank why he just couldn't show me how he felt? Telling me his opinion is not the same as showing me that he's worried about my health. Ah, men.

ask them to go - then they will feel less anxious when they see how it works

Yes ask them to go. I am so glad you decided to go ahead with it. I think you will be so happy in the long run. I hope to see you at the Marriott. Be strong!!!!

You are welcome to use me as a reference if they would feel comfortable talking to me. I went TJ last September for my VSG. If you need my number send me a private message.

You are welcome to use me as a reference if they would feel comfortable talking to me. I went TJ last September for my VSG. If you need my number send me a private message.

That's a great idea, that may help easy their minds! Perhaps your mum should also go with you ?

Mom just called me and started sobbing and begging when I told her I wanted to go ahead. I can't deal with this crap!

Mom just called me and started sobbing and begging when I told her I wanted to go ahead. I can't deal with this crap!

Just postpone it for a little bit, don't talk about it with them and they will forget about it. Then book again and don't tell anyone when your going lol that's what I would do. Just so you won't have to deal with all that.