How much weight did u loose? Im at 30 BMI and although I'm trying to eat MORE I think I'm stressed about organising this surgery and the scale isn't going up - worried ill get to Mexico and after 3 days of liquids ill go under and they won't do it ...

Roller... It's ok that you didn't know what that is..

I'm not judging you on that. I'm glad you are learning more everyday... I am NOT AGAINST YOU doing this. But felt it important to let you know some facts... Someone 4 months out might have a slightly different perspective than someone 2 weeks out... There is good and bad to this surgery... For everyone I just feel that you don't want to hear truths unless they fit into what you want to hear.. That's not necessarily support!

I'm I glad I had this done?? Yes! Im losing weight! Do I feel like I've made some sacrifices for it yes! My hair is falling out' date=' I'm sick a lot with stomach issues (not very sexy some days)

And hungry (head and real) is still an issue.

I will work with these things, just as I'm sure you can work with them too. I'm not here to talk you out of it.. But I'm also not here to sell this procedure or a certain doctor..

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Yes I do see the people in the first few months struggling and wondering did they do the right thing .... I know there's a hard road ahead. But in the end like 6months to a year everyone seems happy they've done it? I would LOVE to not have surgery and do it on my own but 10 years of trying I can't even loose 2 kg on my own. In my early 20s I was able to but not anymore. Maybe in New Zealand they are more shallow, the last guy I met later referred to me as "that fat chick" I know I should care what a douchbag say about me but it HURT and was the straw that broke the camels back. Unfortunately I live here and so do my parents. So short of hanging out at the airport arrivals area to meet men from other country's I'm stuck with these dipshits.

Wow

Thank you' date=' there is a much better way of asking these questions. I felt so attacked ... I've felt with these issues since I first gained weight at 20 ... And everyone around me likes to comment when I'm in an "up" stage. A complete stranger on a plane told me to my face " you'd be more beautiful if you ate less" the world does see me as "fat" this was in LA. I know I'm not in desperate need of this now - my whole point was why wait till I'm older and larger to have drastic surgery. Isn't it a little safer to be smaller & younger?? I see the grandmothers on here and think its so brave. I would love to have this tool to eat a healthier amount of food. My dr told me I was a food addict and I was so angry ... Now I know she's right ~ it's only a matter of time before I'm 35/40 BMI[/quote']

You are right. When you read "what do you regret" threads, the only consistent regret is not doing this sooner, or waiting so long. I completely understand your rational on this one.

Oh, and by the way, most of the nation here think people in L.A. are mostly crazy anorexic. You kinda just ended up in one of the 2 places here where people are very weight conscience. The other being Manhattan island in NYC. It's the whole entertainment world thing.

Amanda Rae' date=' my initial reaction may have lacked some "tact," but I was just shocked. I literally read this site probably 95% less then most users and when I do I just stick to this one forum on the top of the page. There are way to many forums here with just so many people posting that it's all hard to follow. With that said, I had not yet encountered a thread with someone with such a low BMI getting sleeved. I remember someone a couple months ago saying that they were getting sleeved with a 35 BMI and I was thinking to myself WTF??? When I saw a 30 BMI'er saying they were getting sleeved I was like this is just NUTS. Hell, my ultimate goal is just a couple of points under 30 and I looked damn good when I was there at age 19. As far as their rude and cruel behavior, well to be VERY blunt, I think these few women have a screw loose. I'm not kidding. The three that attacked me were 30 BMI'ers that got sleeved for obvious mental issues surrounding their vanity. Hell, one is posting pictures of herself on the Internet in her underwear. Thankfully it doesn't bother me, it's just the Internet with people I don't know, will never meet, or would ever care to meet. Attached is a photo of me when I was at a 27.5 BMI, just a couple points under what these woman are having themselves cut up to be under.[/quote']

Great pic from b4 and your progress to date is amazing!

My only hope for all the Sleevers is that they're healthy and happy with their choices. To each their own, right?

There is way too much bad fattitude out there!

Amanda Rae

You are right. When you read "what do you regret" threads' date=' the only consistent regret is not doing this sooner, or waiting so long. I completely understand your rational on this one.

Oh, and by the way, most of the nation here think people in L.A. are mostly crazy anorexic. You kinda just ended up in one of the 2 places here where people are very weight conscience. The other being Manhattan island in NYC. It's the whole entertainment world thing.[/quote']

This lady was orig from Bangladesh - not sure if she currently lived there. But very hard to fight back tears on a crowded plane.

You are right. When you read "what do you regret" threads' date=' the only consistent regret is not doing this sooner, or waiting so long. I completely understand your rational on this one.

Oh, and by the way, most of the nation here think people in L.A. are mostly crazy anorexic. You kinda just ended up in one of the 2 places here where people are very weight conscience. The other being Manhattan island in NYC. It's the whole entertainment world thing.[/quote']

OTR what the f*ck are you talking about??

Don't know if this matters but I am in fact canadian. I was born in Toronto an moved to Nz when I was 14. When ever I have gone home I always try and look slimmer (as everyone would) and I can't say when in Canada I've had any of my "fat comments" one time I went home for 4 weeks and gained 10 pounds ... Still I didn't feel judged as much as I would of here. Everyone knows I battle w food but maybe it's because they are my childhood friends and wouldn't want to be mean. I know walking around the malls there I would still be considered a "smaller" or "regual" size... Here I'm def bigger

While a BMI of 30 is low to us in America I know how much of a struggle losing weight can be. I know if I don't get help ill only slowly gain

^^^ to lighten the mood!

family friends still say wow look at how big you have gotten. While I know the last time they saw me I was a baby/child I still take it as look at how big and fat you have grown lol don't think they ever thought I'd be fat since as a child I struggled to eat anything at all..didn't like food till about 10 lol

Roller,

if you want this surgery FOR YOU. Then do it... Please don't do it because some a*****e knew the right thing to say to hurt your feelings.

It has to be about you and only about you... Not some b***h on a plane... I know what it feels like to be judged.. I live in a very well to do area where most women don't even look human anymore because of the amount if plastic surgery they've had... Yes being fat is a sin here, I've had people judge and treat me less than because of my weight, I had one woman ask me how my husband felt about me since my weight gain, I told her "he loves me" and she was like "oh what a saint he is not to care and still love you" 0_o

What the what??? Am I a leper ( no offense to lepers) but that man is LUCKY to have me and he knows it!

I had this for me! Not for the assholes that judged me.

Please make sure you are doing the same for yourself.. because at the end of the day you will be the only one that matters.

To be honest I'm thinking I should wait a year and reach 35 BMI ... I feel like I'm doing something that's wrong now. My parents don't want me going to Mexcio to have surgery and I felt this was a really good support group for me because people understand my feelings. I know I have a problem/addiction to food & I wanted to do this surgery before it got too out of hand... But now I feel that's "wrong" ... I know it will be very hard as I LOVE to eat ... In the last year or two its become a love/hate relationship w food tho... So confused

I'm not judging you because of your weight. I'm judging you because of your attitude and personality. You sound like a b*tch most of the time. And you do need mental help. Let me dumb it down for you even further' date=' since you seem incapable of rationale.

Sloth looks into the mirror and believes he needs plastic surgery= he's probably got a point.

Brad Pitt looks in the mirror and believes he needs plastic surgery= something isn't right.

Get it? Probably not.

To want this surgery when you are not YET in need of it is stupid, IMHO. Spending 6000 now to get most of your stomach removed is stupid when you can use that money to figure out why you believe you would eventually get big enough to have health issues in the future.

You think you deserve this surgery?? No one does. It's not a prize to be won. People deserve to not need this surgery. Get your head right.[/quote']

What a great point ... If brad Pitt wants surgery then he can do what he wants its his money & life . Did you go and seek professional help as the scales went up over the years? It obviously didn't help much as you have had the surgery. So why do you think it would help me? I have a large appetite. I wasn't abused as a child or depressed or been in an abusive relationship - I love food and don't seem to be able to control it. I want a tool to help me control it and be healthier. I don't think I deserve or am entitled to this surgery but I do meet the criteria and am choosing to have it.

Ok well please don't gain weight to do it!! That IS crazy talk!!

I can only tell you my experience as a food addict.. And yes I've been in therapy about it for quite awhile. My relationship with food is so screwed up I don't know if it will ever be fixed..

Hell I went home and binged one day a few years ago after a really cute man who was giving a lecture for the tide pool docents. Came up to me afterwards I was in a group of younger prettier girls that where drooling over him during his speech. And he talked to ME?? And asked me out!! (I'm married) but the important thing about that long story is....I went home and was flattered..

But I binged! It's then when I realized fat or skinny I have a problem...

I still have those issues and it is scary but I am a work in progress...

I can't tell you what to do.. But I know there are many different aspects to our "healing" our food addictions.