How much weight did u loose? Im at 30 BMI and although I'm trying to eat MORE I think I'm stressed about organising this surgery and the scale isn't going up - worried ill get to Mexico and after 3 days of liquids ill go under and they won't do it ...

Bigfrank that's not your problem. You have provided appropriate warning. This will be for her and her family to face going forward. Sometimes we have the blessing of making a connection in someone's life where you can make an impression from the other side of the world. This is clearly not opportunity for you.

It's very nice for people to have concerns for strangers over other people's health & well being .... In no way did I feel this from his words of wisdom

Why can't the subject be dropped already?!?!

Nothing is being accomplished. Nothing at all.

Call me stupid but at one point it seemed to be making some headway towards making sense and at least accomplishing a civil dialogue

I'm done, but I disagree with you Amanda Rae, something HAS been accomplished. There's a 30 BMI'er reading this that is having second thoughts if they ate a rational minded person.

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Wouldn't that be nice lol

Im not really ... Deposit has been paid & so have flights... All systems go, but I appreciate your "insight" even if it was a little "attacky"

Rollagirl' date=' I don't know what your intellect level is but you need to READ what people are writing. You keep saying that I and a couple others here are on you about your weight. YES WE ARE!!! But not for the reason your mind is calculating it as, we are saying that you are to THIN to get sleeved!!! Read that again....YOU ARE TO THIN TO GET SLEEVED. Also, you are spending valuable time on a website filled with people that have serious weight problems with BMI's that are 40-70, or even higher. These people have tried everything and some are near death. You were obviously smart enough to recognize that you have a problem. You want to do something about it right? How much weight do you want to lose, 30-40 lbs? Then deal with the issues in your mind and go do it! Hell, 30-40 lbs is nothing compared to some of the weight numbers that people here, including myself need to lose. You are better then me because you realized that you had a problem when you hit a BMI of 30, I didn't realize it until my BMI was over 50! Do you think that this surgery is going to cure whatever you have going on in your head? I am here to tell you it's NOT. Over come that FIRST then consider surgery AFTER. But I think you won't need surgery if you fix what's going on in your head first.[/quote']

Wow Frank, why didn't you take your own advice ?

You had a 27-28 BMI when you were 19. She sees herself headed down a similar path you took. The difference is she looking to seize her weight gain now before it gets so out of hand that she has caused irreversible damage to her body.

As for those of us who are supporting her decision, I don't for a second believe I am being disingenuous. I simply am not being so arrogant to believe that my opinion is the end all be all of who should or shouldn't pursue WLS.

Really, if she & her surgeon both agree that she is a good candidate, then your & my opinion really don't matter

Im not really ... Deposit has been paid & so have flights... All systems go' date=' but I appreciate your "insight" even if it was a little "attacky"[/quote']

Cant wait for updates and sexy bikini after pics minus all the loose skin that the over 40 BMI'ers that dont have age on their side have to deal with!!

I think big frank is at the end of the day concerned about you.. Men really communicate differently and some of his remarks where a little

Ummm strong..I THINK he was a little bent out of shape at the remarks that other woman made. actually those two women said a couple of really cruel things...I tell you that other girl is lucky she didn't make some of those remarks about me. Because I'm not above getting crazy!

Anyway what I wanted to say is I've NEVER seen frank react so strongly.. And I really have to believe it was out of concern.

Roller,

I know this is what you have your heart set on. And will do. Does it make me a bit sad? Yes, I don't know why, maybe because someone so "small" in my eyes feels so judged and bad about themselves.. Some of us would consider your weight goal... It's a sad world.

Good luck to you.. And I will be canceling my trip to New Zealand after reading about the harshness against bigger people!

Cant wait for updates and sexy bikini after pics minus all the loose skin that the over 40 BMI'ers that dont have age on their side have to deal with!!

That my dear is so far from right.. Is it really a New Zealand thing? Do you people really find it that necessary to be cruel to bigger people?

You are doing the same thing that you guys are complaining about that happens to you there!

Twisted really

And OTR nice moderating.. What a laugh.

And rollergirl if you ever want to talk you can PM we are worlds apart but have some of the same issues I see..

That my dear is so far from right.. Is it really a New Zealand thing? Do you people really find it that necessary to be cruel to bigger people?

You are doing the same thing that you guys are complaining about that happens to you there!

Twisted really

Who am I being cruel to? I was talking about my personal experience with a BMI over 40. When you have over 100lbs to lose of course you will some degree of loose skin. I guess I just wish I had dealt with my weight sooner.

Who am I being cruel to? I was talking about my personal experience with a BMI over 40. When you have over 100lbs to lose of course you will some degree of loose skin. I guess I just wish I had dealt with my weight sooner.

Haha sorry I didn't think any of you New Zealanders where over 30 bmi!! Or at least the ones on this thread! Haha my bad. Well good luck to you and I don't think 40 bmi necessarily means saggy baggy skin