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I was sleeved on 1/17. Some of my family and friends seem way too interested in my weight loss. Sometimes it is hard to tell whether they are excited for me or are waiting to see me fail. I have a couple of family members and one friend in particular that call almost everyday and what do they want to know- How much weight have you lost? I have lost 20 lbs in the month since surgery which I think is fantastic but for some reason I think they think it is not enough. I don't think they understand this is not magic I am not going to lose 10 lbs a week (wouldn't that be great?) in fact, I didn't lose anything for over a week. Did I tell them that? No. I think they might take that as a reason to say then why did you have surgery? I finally told them not to ask all the time, that I am only going to weigh in once a month and that I will call them with the results. Have any of you had the same problem?

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Lisa 1st n foremost u DON'T HAVE TO ANSWER ANYTHING sounds like u have some HATERS!!!!!!! U take care of yourself dont worry about them honey. People talk if u r dead or alive so I suggest u do u. People r like that n we don't get to pick our FAMILY but I know some of us wish we could.lol U r in a stall we all have been there n we will support u so let the HATERS HATE n u do this pray for them thats what the Bible says.

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I had surgery on Feb 04 and have had the same problem. The question is always the same .How much weight have you lost? I've actually lost a friend over this. It's bad to have haters. If only they knew how hard this journeys been maybe they would be more understanding.

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I am three months out and I had a couple of friends and family members asks EVERYDAY

They weren't "haters" they were just stupid:p

But really I just told them that this is already such a hard process on its own, and they were only adding more pressure by asking everyday...

Now we talk about other things.

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Always remember and never forget: Just because someone asks a personal question, you are by no means required to answer it. Seems like we now live in a world where nothing is personal anymore. I always get that question whenever I would diet (which seemed like always) I never felt comfortable answering it. I would always say something like "oh, not as much as I would like", or lost "a nice healthy amount." If they ask again, I'll say the same thing. Third time around I am just blunt. " That is really personal for me and I don't want to discuss it"

You don't owe anyone any answer and don't have to explain anything. You will find your strength and what is best for YOU!

Best of luck! :)

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Tell them you are only weighing weekly now to avoid 'scale anxiety', also you will tell them when you achieve milestones. That might stop them asking.

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