I thought it might be a good idea to have a thread where we could discuss the different challenges/issues we face as being single and banded.

I'll start with introducing myself. My name is Chris, I am 32 and live in a suburb of Boston. About a year ago I got out of a 5 year relationship and have just casually dated (online dating) since then. I have decided to take a break from dating for a bit, so I can focus on myself and adjust to living life as a bandster. (I was just banded on 10/2). One of my biggest concerns when I start dating again is if/when to tell that I am banded. It's not that I don't want to tell people, it's just that my idea of great dinner conversation does not include discussing my weight. Overall I would say that I have a great life. I have a good job, a very supportive family, and lots of friends. I am happy to be taking control over my weight and issues with food, and am excited at the prospect of my future as a not-so-fat woman.

I look forward to meeting more single bandsters and hope this thread takes off!

Chris :cocktail:

Well i don't have to worry about my ex...he won't be attending the handgun safety course with me anymoree..He called to tell me he got too drunk and is too tired to go..Nice excuse..Im sure his NEW girlfriend didn't want him to see his OLD girlfriend..Well gotta get ready..TTYL

Kristen I think it's probably better off that way. Have fun at the class today!!

I am glad to hear that. No sense in putting yourself though that. Was this just a one day class?

Yeah it was a one day class. Its ok. Im going out tonight for Cinco De mayo :thumbs_up:..gonna get drunk (no not really)..Im going out wa guy friend :Banane43:....Hopefully i will meet someone nice tonight or at least have loads of fun..see ya all tommorow

Just found this thread...Looks like a good bunch of people here!

Welcome Suzie! It's nice to talk with other single people. I do enjoy it. It's amazing but we all have the same feelings, no matter how much difference we are in age.

Hi Suzzie - welcome!

Ok, I owe you guys a fill-in. I had a date this week with a 29 year old. He was HOT. lol. I don't think he's relationship material but I'd go out with him again just for fun. I figure I deserve some of that.

I have another date tomorrow night, and it's one I'm actually looking forward to if you believe that. lol. We'll see though. I've learned to go in with no expectations so I'm not dissapointed. Sad, huh? lol

Oh and I heard from tattoo boy today. I knew it was just a matter of time. lol. I'm all set there thank you.

So that's it with me really. How's everyone else doing? How are things with you Wootsie??

Hey there...My reply is--you should have some fun and don't expect anything. That is not a sad thing. Many of the Men are expecting the goodies. Make the evening an evening of fun. Thank God you're having fun. Myself--with a simple 25 pounds goine since March 28th banding date. I have a few more looks--flirts. I told myself--the same ones who looked at me side ways when I was at 270--will be the same ones who I ignore. I am going to be soon a 50 yr old single dad of 2 boys. I may start my way back to the dating world. I have a goal--lose 40 more pounds by summers end. I am told that it's impossible. Then again...I was told that I would only achieve 2 pounds a week too---when I clicked off 5.2 per week. How I did it--walking on the treadmill 1 hours when the weather stopped me from riding my bike. Then some crazy workouts--2 times a day--3 days a week---then the next 3 days--single rides--at 3 to 5 miles a day....Love will be there...don't you worry..LL

Hi Suzzie - welcome!

I have another date tomorrow night, and it's one I'm actually looking forward to if you believe that. lol. We'll see though. I've learned to go in with no expectations so I'm not dissapointed. Sad, huh? lol

So that's it with me really. How's everyone else doing? How are things with you Wootsie??

That's exciting, Crispy! Have you talked to him before, or only emails?

I still haven't posted a profile yet. I'd like to lose 20 more lbs before I get started with that. I lost 5 this week after such a long plateau. I hope it

doesn't take me another 2 months to drop again.

Denise - I think you are beautiful at the size you are so no need to wait! But you do what makes you comfortable. As far as tonight, we only spoke over emails, but they were pretty lengthy and I could tell he was a really nice guy. I just got home and he was very, very nice. I had a lot of fun, and I think we're going to go out again.

I heard from the 29 year old as well. I didn't really think I'd hear back because he's really cute and out of my league a bit I think. lol. My friends hate it when I say things like that. lol But anyway, he wanted to go out tomorrow night but I have wedding so we're going to meet up afterwards for a drink. Should be fun.

Thanks for the reply Lee! I'm all about the fun these days. Sounds like you're doing well with the band!

Chrispygal..

I am so happy that you had fun..How do you meet all these guys..I can't find anyone..I have my profile on Match and Yahoo But i don't subscribe so i can't do much..I was thinking about paying for it but its not my first priority..

Thanks much

~Kristen

Chrispygal..

I am so happy that you had fun..How do you meet all these guys..I can't find anyone..I have my profile on Match and Yahoo But i don't subscribe so i can't do much..I was thinking about paying for it but its not my first priority..

Thanks much

~Kristen

I have a friend that uses plentyoffish.com. he says its free. you might check that out?

Thanks Crispy, That picture that you saw is old. I still have about 10 lbs to go down and I'll be at where that was taken. I am not in any real hurry. I look on match and yahoo and there isn't one picture on there that even sparks my interest.

There is another place called singlesnet.com. I paid for a month and they said they had a money back guartentee. So after a month I said I wanted my money back because hardly any men from my area were listed on there.

They ended up giving me a year for the price of a month instead. I may try that again.

Happy mothers day to our single moms!!!

Hi Suzzie - welcome!

Ok, I owe you guys a fill-in. I had a date this week with a 29 year old. He was HOT. lol. I don't think he's relationship material but I'd go out with him again just for fun. I figure I deserve some of that.

I have another date tomorrow night, and it's one I'm actually looking forward to if you believe that. lol. We'll see though. I've learned to go in with no expectations so I'm not dissapointed. Sad, huh? lol

Oh and I heard from tattoo boy today. I knew it was just a matter of time. lol. I'm all set there thank you.

So that's it with me really. How's everyone else doing? How are things with you Wootsie??

Hi Chrispy,

I envy you that you can go in without expecting anything.Im not able to do that I dont know how to turn off my expectation mode. I think I would be much much happier if I didnt expect anything but I dont know how to do that.

If I meet a nice guy who I like and he likes me I expect that we start dating....

I guess Im pushing it to hard but I have been without love for at least an year (Im not counting sex, but love) and I miss it so much...I want to be able to take a romantic walk, to go to the movies or just hang out with someone who loves me and who is able to accept my love. Is it that much to ask? Probably too much to ask at the begining...lol...

I need to do something about it but cant help it.

Do you have any advice?:help:

Dont tell me just to not expect anything I know that far to well, I need help on how to turn the expectation mode off Thank you all