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Actually, I had several NSV's this weekend and thought I would post them.

  • My 13 year old daughter and I were getting ready to go on a road trip on Saturday when she looked at me and told me the jeans I had on were way to baggy and I needed to change. We went through 5 pairs of jeans before we found a pair we both agreed on, even though they were still a bit big. When I started back in April, I was wearing a 30-32. The jeans I settled on yesterday, which were given to me by a wonderful fellow LBT'er, were a size 22 and had plenty of extra room.
  • My husbands children have always hated me and blame me as the reason their parents are not together. Nevermind that they were divorced in 1991 due to her cheating, she was married to someone else by 1992 and my dh and I didn't even meet until 1996. Well, his son has gotten married and she has taken on the role of stepmom abuser. I have a myspace and she didn't like something I posted about people who curse a lot. So, on her myspace, she posted a very nasty blog entry about me, to include calling me fat and ugly. Now, normally, I would have been put to tears by this. But, my NSV was that my only thought was, "sure, I may be fat now, but I will soon be thin and when I am, you will still be a bitch." (sorry for the profanity).
  • Yesterday, we took the kids to the zoo. When we went two years ago, after one hour my feet were killing me, I was sweating profusely, was exhausted and generally miserable. Yesterday, we spent four hours there. My feet never hurt, I didn't get tired and was still full of energy at the end of the day. This was a huge NSV for me because it made the entire experience more enjoyable for everyone.

Thats it for now.

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Oh wow those are awesome Susan. A 32 to a 22 :) YEAHHHHH!!!!

Keep up the great work.:clap2: :clap2: :clap2: :clap2:

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Those are great NSV's!! But I will say that I hope your hubby says something to his kids if they constantly treat you bad...

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Blended families are really difficult. I'm sorry your stepchildren don't treat you with the love and respect you deserve.

Great NSVs though! I can't wait until my size 22 jeans fit. They go on (and even zip) now, but they're too obscenely tight to wear in public. Maybe in about 10 more lbs....

Your zoo day sounds GREAT.

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Fantastic NSV's!!!!!!!! Can't wait till I'm there....I'm wearing a 30/32 now, hoping for surgery before the end of the year?!?!?! You give me hope and ispiration! THANKS for sharing!

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Great NSV!!!! Way to so Susan.

Don't let the step-bitch-in-law bother you. Your husband loves and cares about you, your kids love and care about you, your friends love and care about you, and most important, you love and care about yourself. All the rest is just bunk.

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...But, my NSV was that my only thought was, "sure, I may be fat now, but I will soon be thin and when I am, you will still be a bitch." (sorry for the profanity).

Truer words were never spoken/thought! :clap2: :clap2:

You are in a very good place about your progress now and giving yourself the kind of positive feedback you desire and deserve. The best kind always comes from within....we're just your cheering gallery!

You go girl!! :croc:

Jo Ann

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That is SO awesome Susan!! I'm so proud of you...keep up the good work. As for your step DIL, don't sink to her level!! You're too good for that. Just remember that we all love you here!

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Thanks for the words of support and encouragement everyone, it really means a lot.

My hubby told his kids yesterday that this has gone on long enough. He left their mother back in 1991 and had no plans of ever going back to her. He told them that with him, there is me as we are a package deal. He said if they want to be a part of his life, and he wants them to, then they have to accept me as well and treat me respectfully. The step-daughter-in-law says she can't, but the son says he has never had a problem with me. The other two kids won't respond to us.

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Susan,

YOU ROCK!!! I love the way you are struggling with a difficult situation (the kids) and still keep the focus on yourself and what you can do to be healthy and happy!!! What an inspiration you are!!! Way to go.

I started out as a size 34/36 and am in size 20...size 18 jean if you buy Jones of New York...they seem to run a little larger! FUN, FUN to get into 18s and have them be a little baggy in the butt and legs!!! YAHOO!!!!

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rharriet62, wow, you have really gone down in sizes, that is awesome! One of my favorite new things to do is go shopping for clothes in my own closet. I am finding gifts that were given to me that I never wore because they were to small and I felt guilty giving them away, old favorites I haven't worn in years, etc.

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