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Hi, friends.

I had my sleeve done in June and I've lost almost 40 pounds - I'm about 15 pounds away from my goal weight.

But the time since my surgery has been one of major change, not just because of my sleeve; I discovered my husband was having an affair and we are since in the middle of a divorce. Since his affair ended (aka she kicked him to the curb), he has made things very difficult; he has refused to get a lawyer or sign documents, begged me for another chance, threatened suicide, etc. My little girl is not taking the split well at all and I've been taking her to see a counselor as well. Did I mention that work isn't going very well either?

I am not gaining weight, but the stress of everything has taken my focus off my sleeve. I'm still eating small portions for sure, but I'm not paying attention to WHAT I'm eating. And I haven't exercised in months.

I realize that part of my lack of focus is that I'm really happy with my current weight. I'm a size 12 pant and I can shop in any store I want. People are raving about how I look and I've even been on a few dates.

Still, I don't want to do this journey half-way. I want to make my goal weight, even if I'm only limping along right now.

Can anyone offer some advice on how to get back on track? Or some cheerleading? Or a wake-up call?

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Mince, hang in there. Focus your energy on your little girl and the food you eat, the exercise will come in time. Have you tried my fitness pal to help track your food. The my fitness pal kinda keeps me in check and keeps me on track w/ my calories, carbs & Protein. You are a beautiful person, so be beautiful to yourself. Take a ME day for you & do something nice for yourself. Hang in there. Btw I'am Mermaid Girl - sleeved on July 31 - 3 months out I've lost 50 pounds.

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So sorry about all the stress that you are under :( ! The end of marriage is never easy. Having a child makes this even harder to deal with. But you are right, you should still reach your goal. Go back to basics! measure your food, high Protein meals, low carb, plenty of Water. Also start taking your Vitamins and supplements. Keep your calories in check. With all that stress, exercise is your best bet right now. IT THE BEST STRESS RELIEVER!!!

I really wish you the best. Hope counseling will help you and your family move forward and find peace.

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