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I just want to be selfish for a minute and vent. I am 4 mths out and have reached my goal weight of 165. And guess what........nobody cares ! Not my friend that had a sleeve done a year ago yep that same one I supported from day one. Which included picking her up at 330am the day of her surgery. Most certainly not my pregnant Aunt who has had 2 children since her gastric bypass and is pregnant again. Yep the same Aunt I drove from Dallas to Houston to be with when she had surgery despite being 7 mths pregnant at the time. Then come two of my other friends who I love dearly . One I can always count on but she is struggling with her weight and trying to do it the "natural" way as she says so I keep my milestones to myself. The other has been hospitalized on and off the entire month since having the Duodenal switch done. I get it life goes on for them but guess what the same applies to me and I still manage to go above and beyond for my friends. It kind of hurts to get more compliments from my coworkers and patients in my office then those closest to me.

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That hurts a lot, I am glad you have somewhere to vent. The other good thing is you know what's bothering you, you expressed it, and you are not sitting there eating your feelings away. Your family and friends are very fortunate to have you in their lives. Keep paying attention to YOU, the hard part has arrived, the lifestyle of maintaining your goal weight, RIGHT ON!

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Congratulations on your success!! I'm so sorry you are not getting the support you deserve. Rose is spot on, I'm glad you vented, you have support and folks happy for you.. Right here.

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Thank you so much ! I hate to come across this way but I had to get it off my chest.I know they love me but Uggh. Lol

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congratulations to you! that is so amazing!!!! ignore the haters. thats exactly what they are :) cant wait to be where you are! sleeved in 7 days ahhhh!!

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You seem like you are an amazing person. Putting others before ourselves is a great thing...but sometimes we only end up neglecting ourselves. Maybe you need to reevaluate those in your life. I have read and heard many stories of people who have this weight loss surgery done that certain relationships change or become nonexistant. Stay positive and focus a little on yourself and Celebrate the victories! You deserve that!

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Don't worry about them girl. Keep up the good work and congrats on making your goal!

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I know the feeling..In my family I'm the to go girl u know what i mean but since I've told every one that i'm getting the WLS its nothing but criticizing Don't worry about them girl. Keep up the good work and congrats on making your goal!

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congratulations to you! that is so amazing!!!! ignore the haters. thats exactly what they are :) cant wait to be where you are! sleeved in 7 days ahhhh!!

Girl you will do great! Thank you everyone for your well wishes. I don't want to come across as the victim. I just don't want to have to pretend I'm not happy that my size 10 jeans are a lil baggy! I want to brag just a lil :)

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I know the feeling..In my family I'm the to go girl u know what i mean but since I've told every one that i'm getting the WLS its nothing but criticizing Don't worry about them girl. Keep up the good work and congrats on making your goal!

Yeah go to girl can be a blessing and curse. And excuse me ma'am what is up with this screen name?Too late you are already sexy!

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No one's selfishness can take away what you have done. I'm so happy for you! Congratulations!

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Congrats! If no one else cares, we do.

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I'm so proud for you doing all that wonderful weight loss so what your friends on saying thing trust and believe they are thinking it. Don't worry they will come around. But it is important for US to voice that we are disappointed. Let them know you need to hear it...

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@Mz.yournotbigenough Awe you are so kind! thank you :D

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