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Myself and the guy that I am currently seeing had sex last night and for some reason didn't think of it until went the bathroom later, that we were both covered in blood. It was the 2nd time that he and I had had sex and prior to that I had only been with one other guy, he was quite small to say the least. I technically lost my virginity when I was about 400 lbs+, but there was really no blood then. So here's my question, seeing as I am now around 220 is it possible that minus that 200+ pds, that my hymen just would now rupture or is there something else going on that I may need to have checked?

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Are you having a period? That would be my first thought.

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Period? Maybe you need to get checked for fibroids, endometriosis or cysts? When you were 400, did you feel "it?" In other words, did your weight keep him from going all the way in? If so, it could be the hymen issue but the thing is that when I lost my virginity, there was blood but not so much that it came out on its own. I only saw it when I wiped and it was one time.

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About a year ago right after I changed birth control pills I bleed very heavy during intercourse. Are you on any new medication?

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Your hymen most likely wouldn't bleed that much. If your on your period, that could be the cause. How far out are you? Could you have ruptured something? Were you well lubricated? This is probably a good time to call the surgeon to be safe. :)

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I found that arousal coupled with my pcos could bring on my period unexpectedly....

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From a physical perspective, you will get smaller -- your vaginal canal will shrink but not enough to do that unless there was not enough lubrication. I would go to a gyno and get checked out!

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I do not necessarily believe it to be weight-related but if you felt more "aroused" in the last few days and more "lubricated" during sex then it was very likely a period. If you felt a little more dry, and even a little sore then it may have been your hymen. Dome girls hymens will break long before intercourse, but some girls also have a more durable hymen which can cause problems during intercourse. Since you are sexually active I would recommend a trip to a gynocologist for regular pap-smear and STI test regardless of whether you use protection, and you can ask their opinion then.

P.s one thing I know for sure is it will take time for your period to regulate as you lose/lost weight. This is normal, but in this case obviously a little awkward. Also, good news if you have a boy-toy mature enough to handle these sort of things that just happen :)

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My period was over last week. I've been taking sveyda ( generic ocella) and everything was ok when I went to the gyno last fall.

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The thing is STI can occur even with hormonal contraceptive and bleeding during sex if it is not your time of the month can be a big indicator of an STI. So in my opinion a full work up would probably be recommended by your gyno if you see them, so best advice is book an appt. There's absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about, but the best I can do is refer you again to a health care provider. *peace*

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Have you been getting a regular period? Is there a chance you could have been pregnant?

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Seriously doubt it, we just had sex for the first time a week ago, during my period. I think maybe tissue got torn or something, because it stung for a little while.

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I've been torn and had had bleeding stingy that's big possibility depending on how much blood there was and even color but to be safe id go to dr

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I would go to the doctor. Unexplained bleeding can be a sign of different problems or it could be nothing. I don't think it was your hymen though, since you had already had sex a couple times before.

I hope everything turns out ok. Take care. :-)

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