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I've never had sex...I'm a 23 year old female...Hoping to get approved for surgery soon and want to start dating after my surgery. Hopping it will boost my confidence around men! If anyone has any sex tips for a beginner I would appreciate it. Haha

Girl.. You just didn't post all that in the mans room! :o

Get ready for the private messages to start! :P

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Girl.. You just didn't post all that in the mans room! :o

Get ready for the private messages to start! :P

HA! she's safe from me, no worries! I am 63 and happily married!

And I think the segregation of the Men's and Ladies is silly. We talk about EVERYTHING here on these boards!

So not I'll get reprimanded (again)

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Maybe after your hubby sees how successful and happy you are after you're sleeved, he'll change his mind.

That's my hope too.

Just remind him that for every 35 pounds he lose about an inch of penis length reappears. I was originally skeptical, but after losing almost 70 pounds, that estimate is pretty much spot on, not to mention the fact that everything just works better too. My only regret is that I didn't get my surgery done sooner.

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Figured I'd post my brag on this thread as well since I'm feeling so good about it. I'm down 175 lbs so far, and have just started dating a 23 year old, I'm 38. She is amazed about how long and often I can go and can't get enough. Talk about a confidence builder, now I just need to get rid of this loose skin so I can take my shirt off during. Also have to say it's amazing cardio as well, after two or three hour session I feel like I spent a whole day at the gym. Hope the testosterone boost lasts, she even accused me of taking Viagra.

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lets keep this thread going, I am about 2 months till sleeved, sometimes I ring the bell other times I dont. BUt we have wicked oral skills, our biggest problem is my wife is starting mentalpause so her libido is gone so it takes some serious fore play to get her running. I hope afr sleeve she will see the man she fell in love with and we can start banging like teenagers again,

right know my belly is too big to 69 but after sleeve we will try it again.

She also said she will decide if I gained in penis size using her gag reflex.

I will keep you all posted...

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Damn, And I though I was so good at sex my wife stayed satisfied for 6 months at a time. Guess I need to be shopping for a girl friend.

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Well....let's keep party started!!! I can't wait to get farther out. I am 17 days out..down 20 lbs since 9/16 surgery and down 37 lbs since liquid diet started on 9/2.

At 394..sex was a chore. Erections were what they were. Mostly on, but not extra strength, and sometimes on light duty.

After 2 weeks I'm already seeing the future and I love it!!!! Our sex life just woke up. Have been having sex all week! Yesterday was my 38th birthday and I definitely celebrated last night!! The bell was rang for sure! This morning the wood shed was stacked today, and for me to have sex twice within 8 hours doesn't happen! We were lucky to not wake kids up because I had to burn wood! Definitely no erection problems and my wife hasn't had back to back "Big O" forever. I laughed at her and told her I had forewarned her that she was getting a upgrade with this surgery! Husband now has a Hemi starting to rev under the hood. Full toon up in progress..and once it's done..we will be taking a LONG SEXCATION to a secluded island!!!!!!

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lol Awesome thread. I though about everything else I can go back to doing like skiing, hockey and hiking. I have always had a high sex drive even at my highest of 220 but I guess it will take it to another level. My poor boyfriend. :)

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So I was wondering if desire would come back. Thanks for giving me hope.

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wow, just finished the entire thread.... lots of posts... all fun. I ALWAYS find it funny that these threads in the MENS ROOM are about 80% women replies. I have never posted in the women's room. If OP wanted women comments, he would post in the general areas. Anyway, I still like reading them.... men and women. Lotta horndogs around here. I am one myself. I am down 42 lbs so far. feel great. 8 month preggo wifey is too uncomfortable at the moment so I will settle with other means of release..... but after baby (+ 6 week recovery....)??? watch out!!!

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Double Congrats! Baby+Weight Loss! Wifey had a tubal after last child (which was a surprise child 4 us). Otherwise, she would definitely be pregnant by now with my post-op benefit package kicking in!!!!

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This ought to be mandatory reading for anyone considering the surgery. No better sales pitch needed. My divorce attorney told me, the best revenge was to have a happy life. I'm looking forward to it. Let's see, ditched the CPAP, blood pressure meds cut in half, thank goodness I have my new blood work done next week, or I may be overdosing on testosterone.

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I don't know why they don't mention this in the brochures:

Out of the blue last night I met a nice lady and had one of those mutual lust moments. For the first time in 6 months I had sex. I didn't know just how big the physical changes I have been making would change this aspect of my life. In the last two years I quit smoking and in the last few months, I am down 80 pounds, no drinking, exercise an hour a day, eating really high quality food because I can’t eat that much. I knew that it should make things better, but not epic game changing better, but it’s bigger than epic.

It was very spontaneous so didn't have Viagra, but it didn't even dawn on me until later that it wasn't needed. I can get into positions and places without my gut getting in the way. Instead of sputtering for breath and being a sweaty mess, I felt great when each round was over. I had always been “one and done” but she had to quit after round three. So as a 51 year old guy who knows what he is doing, who has a sense of humor and adventure and now give him new physical tools with an adequate blood supply, and I realize ‘holy crap this is going to be a great year.’

And that was without the emotional/spiritual bond that makes sex really great. I don’t like meaningless sex. I wasn't looking for it. But I didn't know what this would do to my interest in finding a new relationship nor what it would do to my confidence level. The implications for my next relationship are incredible. In my last relationship, I had to worry if the plumbing would work. I would run out of gas and she would worry if she was satisfying me. Now I’m sitting here realizing “sex without worry” might even open areas of even deeper connection.

I don’t know about you, but the best most meaningful conversations have always occurred after making love. I just have this feeling that it will be even better without performance anxiety issues.

Part of some reflection on a past relationship has been on the ups and downs. The sex was always the glue that held us together – because we were able to engage in intimate conversations and talk through problems after great sex. And if I had the ability to do what I did last night, I think this could move the next relationship to a whole new level.

Just when you think this journey could not get any better, and then things get better ;-)

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Im 40 and 300lbs pre surgery (in 2 weeks) and my wife already has to beat me off her with a stick as it is, and I can go pretty good, she usually taps out..I really feel bad for her in the future.. oh boy!!!!

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