Ok so I read this post and it just really bothered me!

"Wow. I don't think your size has anything to do with finding love. It's the love and respect for yourself that makes people love you. You could be a size 2 and if you don't know how to love and honor yourself, you'll still be alone."

This is not all that true! Let's Face it, most people are attracted first by the way you look! They don't know your personality by looking at you! They don't decide to give you their phone # after seeing your personality lol

I think this is true of a LTR but dating, etc I just think it has very little merit. Fat people have a much harder time dating PERIOD!

I' date=' on the other hand, am built like a piece of Laffy Taffy. Or Grimace.

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LoL!!! I say I'm built like a German hockey player.

Some people think that being thin is the key to happiness. And some people get mad when it is said that no matter how skinny, ugly personalities will always be ugly. Not saying it to anyone in particular. Just noting some people might get mad, offended, whatever. But when they do, I often wonder if there is a hint of truth that they see and it hits a nerve.

Again not saying you or people on this thread. But some posts on this site, you wonder if they are seeing this as their fix all for unhappiness and not looking to see if there might be underlying causes for some of the body issues. And some, I wonder, may be using the new body for validation that they are worth something and not what they thought others perceived them as, being worthless.

Human psyche is just very interesting to me... Should have been a psychiatrist, not accountant. LoL!!!!

Some people think that being thin is the key to happiness. And some people get mad when it is said that no matter how skinny, ugly personalities will always be ugly.

My ugly face will always be ugly, even if it only has 1 chin. So I guess I'm kinda screwed regardless of what my body looks like (which is going to be hella deformed)

Really good point in your 2nd paragraph. I've been a WLS patient for a long time, and been on the WLS boards even longer. A lot of people say "for my health" and mean "for my vanity". (Not a psychologist, but have an MS in psychology, so I'll nerdify this right along with you)

These people clearly didn't come to the Middle East as part of their fact finding. (I can hardly blame them... Souq explosives are hell on fat & skinny alike) 56% of the adults in this region are 'morbidly obese' date='' diabetes and its complications is the number one health problem, and 1 in 3 children are significantly overweight and underactive. I don't know what the average weight is here, but it's got to be at least 180... Sad, really.

Mind you, I've been to Houston... maybe it's a tie.. [/quote']

I live in the Middle East too, and I agree the obesity epidemic here is unbelievable. The predominance of chocolates and sweets in every supermarket or street is also amazing. They say expats usually put on a stone when they move here and I fell into that category.

Some people think that being thin is the key to happiness. And some people get mad when it is said that no matter how skinny, ugly personalities will always be ugly. Not saying it to anyone in particular. Just noting some people might get mad, offended, whatever. But when they do, I often wonder if there is a hint of truth that they see and it hits a nerve.

Again not saying you or people on this thread. But some posts on this site, you wonder if they are seeing this as their fix all for unhappiness and not looking to see if there might be underlying causes for some of the body issues. And some, I wonder, may be using the new body for validation that they are worth something and not what they thought others perceived them as, being worthless.

Human psyche is just very interesting to me... Should have been a psychiatrist, not accountant. LoL!!!!

Lol I'm sure you are very right!

Hey their is no time like the present! You can still be a psychiatrist!!!! Go back to school!

Well, Jlewis, I adore your face so much that your size wouldn't matter. You're cuter than a speckled pup!! I know you're young and gay, I'm old and straight, so I'm not hitting on ya... I just don't understand that other gay guys don't see your cuteness!

Well, Jlewis, I adore your face so much that your size wouldn't matter. You're cuter than a speckled pup!! I know you're young and gay, I'm old and straight, so I'm not hitting on ya... I just don't understand that other gay guys don't see your cuteness!

Aww Your so sweet! Thank you! They do and I'm not saying men don't find me attractive, I guess i can be a little picky too, maybe it's just not the right men. Idk but i do know weight has to do with it for sure!

These people clearly didn't come to the Middle East as part of their fact finding. (I can hardly blame them... Souq explosives are hell on fat & skinny alike) 56% of the adults in this region are 'morbidly obese' date='' diabetes and its complications is the number one health problem, and 1 in 3 children are significantly overweight and underactive. I don't know what the average weight is here, but it's got to be at least 180... Sad, really.

Mind you, I've been to Houston... maybe it's a tie.. [/quote']

Hey, don't knock Houston, we just like to eat. Can you blame us, we have the best food around and as we Texans always say "everything is bigger in Texas" including our portions and our people. Lol!

totally agree with you jlewis, i know there are guys that want to date me but not necessarily the ones i am attracted to. i know im a good person, funny, confident, smart but i'm also fat!! and i know when my weight comes off my options will broaden. i dont think its right but it is reality!

Hmmm....I wonder if the blind have these issues?

Just because it's the way it is doesn't make it right.

That's all I really have to say on the subject... except maybe that if someone were to want to get to know me simply based on how I look then that is definitely not someone I'd really want to get to know back.

Being beautiful from the inside out. That's how I want to live my life, and that's how I want to get to loving and respecting others.

Well said.