Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I am at a point where I honestly don't know what to do. I am so disapointed in the way I look. Everyone says I look great, but they are the people who don't see me naked. I hate looking at myself naked. I want to cry. I am 28 years old and feel from my breast to my knees I have the body of an 80+ year old. I have "bat wings" under my arms and my excess skin as been known to make "noises" when I move a certain way.

I expected excess skin, but never like this. I have a baby that is almost 2 years old and I work 45+ hours per week and I'm starting back in college on Saturday (yeah Saturday is the only time I have to go to school!) I don't have time to take off for another elective surgery not to mention the $$ involved. :mad:

I honestly don't know if I was happier with my body at 300lbs than I am now.

Anyone else in the same boat?

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I spoke with someone today about it, they told me to find a surgeon that is in network and have them submit a benefit advisory. So they didn't say no.

My problem is I just started a new job a few months ago in the medical field (a field that is not too understanding of time off from work) and I don't have time to heal from another surgery with school, work, housework and a little one. :mad:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I am excess skin city..I still have 77 lbs to loose..And it ain't going to get any better..I have Bat wings bigger then BATMAN..I have loose skin on my inner thighs, My boobs sag (i am 23) and i look like a 90 year old...My stomach is getting flappy (where most of the weight is)..My doc says my TT should be covered underneath Insurance..But i still want everything else done but i am not sure i can afford it. I have been trying to pay off bills now so that if it comes down to it..I might be able to get another loan but i don't see that happening either..

:mad:

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I hear you girl !!!! When people tell me how good look, I tell them "NOT NAKED". I am going this Friday for a PS consult. I hate the new me, sorry to say

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This is depressing ladies. I know I will also have loose skin somewhere down the road, but aren't you happy about where you have come health wise? There has got to be something positive enough to outweigh the skin issues. Please tell me there is.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I' Feel Your Pain .and Can Relate To What Your Saying! I Have Tightened My Bat Wings.and Im Smoking Hot With My Cloth On But When I Take Them Off....... I Feel Fat! My Only Spot Is The Stomach Area.

One Good Thing We May Have Excess Skin, But We Are More Healthyer. Take Care.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Yeah, I've got some. I'd be happy to provide...

Wait a minute, this isn't a request line, is it?

oops.

Seriously, same thing here, would love to get rid of the excess in my stomach, but the $$$ is too much.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Carrie,

Congrats on your weight loss! How wonderful...I understand the not wanting to take work off. Maybe, down the road when your daughter is a bit older and you're more established at your job.

For now, you are healthier and have probably extended your life by many years. You also can shop and buy clothes in the normal-sized departments. Also, getting around and doing things doesn't require the amount of effort that it used to.

Maybe, down the road. Be kind to yourself...you deserve it!!!

Take care, Shawn

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Carrie I deffinatly know were your coming from... I too am 28 and have way to much saggy everything. I also know that having this band done was the best thing I could have ever done for my self and my family. I will one day get PS done but it will take time,planning and saving to do it...in the mean time I am just trying to focus on eating right and excersing and hoping that will help me be a better person over all ..at least healthier anyway!!! I need to lose about 20 more pounds and my next Dr. viist for my band is in about a month... I will start asking questions about it and start planning from there. I do know of one PS group locally that lets you pay monthy payments on your PS and they don't charge a consult fee...so I will probably check with them first ...then at least I will know what I'm up against money wise. As far as my job I'm deffinatly worried about how I will ever get to take off enough time to have this PS done with out getting into trouble with boss, money ect.. for know I have to wait,.... so we wait together.... but we wait looking and feeling lots better than before.... What an acomplishment and a long road ...we all have come so far!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

This is one of my biggest fears I am 26 and do not want to have to have plastic surgery to remove excess skin I've met a few people that have had no problem with excess skin they said drinking lots of Water and excercise helped alot I would love to hear any suggestions I'm wondering if cocoa butter will help at all. Anything that might work is worth a shot I would love to hear any suggestions Did anyone lose a lot of weight and not need plastic surgery and if so how did you do it??????

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

There's no limit on when you can have the PS though. If you cant afford the time or money right now, you can always do it in a few years time.

My boobs are a disaster, they're really bad and I really think for my own comfort and running performance (I'm so addicted to running now) I need a breast reduction and lift. But it wont be happening whilst I'm a lowly university student and whilst we need to buy a bigger house. I figure five years time, I'll be out working, I can then afford the operation.

I dont have hanging skin though, as I was lucky enough to nip my weight problem in the bud before it got that serious. So I cant really imagine how hard it will have to be to wait for that. But it will happen for you one day if not immediately.

Till then, I"m wonderfully fit, active and so much slimmer than I was. I look great dressed, I do not care that I look like an almost 40 year old women who has birthed and fed three children when I'm naked because that's what I am!

Try to enjoy your newfound healthiness - your mental image of yourself and your self esteem is more important than the reality of the shape your skin is in. If its hidden pretty much by clothing and not causing you health problems, be glad of that and just save towards your goal of a fine tuning later on.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Chin up Carrie! Set yourself a reasonable goal to have PS. You are still losing weight, so you wouldn't be having it until you lose all you want. I have heard that it can take up to 2 years for your skin to shrink back on it's own. If you set your goal for 2 years after losing all your weight, you might not require as much PS. Less makes for faster recovery. I think a TT you need about 2 weeks to recover to go back to work. Someone correct me if I am wrong.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know Ive heard that there are some Dr's around me (chicago and indy)that will give you a big discount if you donate the skin to burn victims. My cousin works in Indy, and her coworker got everything done for free since she donated it all. I think that is what I will do when I finally reach that point. I think that would be so cool to help someone out. I work in the med field. I have had a gastric pt. RN argue with me that you cant reuse the skin blah blah, but I checked with more docs, and RN's and then my cousin, and there seems to be some people out there to do it.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Carrie, I'm with you girlie! Though I am at my goal of wearing a size 12, (keep in mind here, I'm 56 years old), I don't know that I really care if I lose any more weight or not. My goal was not by the pound, but for a healthier, HAPPIER ME. The only thing worse than looking at fat is looking at sagged skin, :omg: . I'm getting to a point where the skin is becoming an issuer and I really fear that much more of a loss and I'll be unhappy with the new happy me......does that make any sense?

I'm trying to muster up the nerve to do the reduction again, then I think I will be MUCH happier.

Good luck, lose for your health first, then your appearance...even naked.:D

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • KeeWee

      It's been 10 long years! Here is my VSG weight loss surgiversary update..
      https://www.ae1bmerchme.com/post/10-year-surgiversary-update-for-2024 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Aunty Mamo

      Iʻm roughly 6 weeks post-op this morning and have begun to feel like a normal human, with a normal human body again. I started introducing solid foods and pill forms of medications/supplements a couple of weeks ago and it's really amazing to eat meals with my family again, despite the fact that my portions are so much smaller than theirs. 
      I live on the island of Oʻahu and spend a lot of time in the water- for exercise, for play,  and for spiritual & mental health. The day I had my month out appointment with my surgeon, I packed all my gear in my truck, anticipating his permission to get back in the ocean. The minute I walked out of that hospital I drove straight to the shore and got in that water. Hallelujah! My appointment was at 10 am. I didn't get home until after 5 pm. 
      I'm down 31 pounds since the day of surgery and 47 since my pre-op diet began, with that typical week long stall occurring at three weeks. I'm really starting to see some changes lately- some of my clothing is too big, some fits again. The most drastic changes I notice however are in my face. I've also noticed my endurance and flexibility increasing. I was really starting to be held up physically, and I'm so grateful that I'm seeing that turn around in such short order. 
      My general disposition lately is hopeful and motivated. The only thing that bugs me on a daily basis still is the way those supplements make my house smell. So stink! But I just bought a smell proof bag online that other people use to put their pot in. My house doesn't stink anymore. 
       
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Oh yeah, something I wanted to rant about, a billing dispute that cropped up 3 months ago.
      Surgery was in August of 2023. A bill shows up for over $7,000 in January. WTF? I asks myself. I know that I jumped through all of the insurance hoops and verified this and triple checked that, as did the surgeon's office. All was set, and I paid all of the known costs before surgery.
      A looong story short, is that an assistant surgeon that was in the process of accepting money from my insurance company touched me while I was under anesthesia. That is what the bill was for. But hey, guess what? Some federal legislation was enacted last year to help patients out when they cannot consent to being touched by someone out of their insurance network. These types of bills fall under something called, "surprise billing," and you don't have to put up with it.
      https://www.cms.gov/nosurprises
      I had to make a lot of phone calls to both the surgeon's office and the insurance company and explain my rights and what the maximum out of pocket costs were that I could be liable for. Also had to remind them that it isn't my place to be taking care of all of this and that I was going to escalate things if they could not play nice with one another.
      Quick ending is that I don't have to pay that $7,000+. Advocate, advocate, advocate for yourself no matter how long it takes and learn more about this law if you are ever hit with a surprise bill.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • BeanitoDiego

      Some days I feel like an infiltrator... I'm participating in society as a "thin" person. They have no idea that I haven't always been one of them! 🤣
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • ChunkCat

      Thank you everyone for your well wishes! I totally forgot I wrote an update here... I'm one week post op today. I gained 15 lbs in water weight overnight because they had to give me tons of fluids to bring my BP up after surgery! I stayed one night in the hospital. Everything has been fine except I seem to have picked up a bug while I was there and I've been running a low grade fever, coughing, and a sore throat. So I've been hydrating well and sleeping a ton. So far the Covid tests are negative.
      I haven't been able to advance my diet past purees. Everything I eat other than tofu makes me choke and feels like trying to swallow rocks. They warned me it would get worse before it gets better, so lets hope this is all normal. I have my follow up on Monday so we'll see. Living on shakes and soup again is not fun. I had enough of them the first time!! LOL 
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×