Been Lurking...getting Sleeve On Monday

[keyvocal 4]

Been pursuing the idea for quite some time. Originally discussed the band, but my surgeon persuaded me to go with the sleeve. I'm certain it's a better choice, especially after reading the statistics and failure rates of the band.

I'm not really telling people about the surgery (those that I had to tell *something* to get the hernia repair line). I made this decision to keep it quiet for many reasons; I really don't want to have to hear about everybody's third cousin's neighbor who gained it all back/went insane/died from weight loss surgery. I don't want the people around me to feel like they have to modify their behavior in my presence... I don't want anyone feeling guilty about eating in front of me, or wanting to meet at a restaurant or any of the hundreds of food-centric social invitations I would likely be left out of.

My weight has never been a topic of conversation among friends (at least not to my face). Most of them would be shocked to learn that at my highest, I was basically 150 pounds overweight. My surgeon actually commented that I hide it extremely well.

I have not yet decided how to explain the upcoming weight loss. One thing for certain is that I don't want to become one of those people who obsessively talk about their weight loss or new workout routines or lists of acceptable foods. I can certainly understand wanting to share those successes with others, but frankly, I don't want to hear all the stories about your new 6 month old baby, either!

I realize that probably makes me a terrible person. I'm ok with that.

My partner has been on the liquid diet these past two weeks, which I'm sure he thinks is being really supportive. And I recognize that it is really sweet of him, but it's frustrating to me the big deal he's making of wanting to eat "bad food" (which for him and his 23BMI includes Subway) when I'm constantly starving. He "cheated" last night with an almond butter sandwich on whole grain bread.

Seriously? Talk to me when you find yourself shoveling pizza flavored Combos in your mouth as fast as you can move your hands. My car smells like potato chips and shame!

I understand the need of the prep diet, but it's borderline torture when you don't have the physical barrier to eating (the sleeve) in place. A half cup of cottage chees in my normal sized stomach is a joke, right?

At any rate, I appreciate this board. I've read nearly everything over the past several weeks and found there is a huge difference in every single person's experience, and doctor's instructions. The one thing I've seen in common is that the people here are overwhelmingly supportive and no one regrets their decision to do the surgery.

I'm not really nervous. I trust my surgeon and feel like I'm well informed. Education and knowledge are the antidote to fear, right?

Anyway, thanks for reading my novel here... I thought it was time to introduce myself finally.

So, um... Hi!

[mrsteacher 7]

Hi back....Good luck with your surgery on Monday. Mine is next week.

[RettaB 0]

Hi! I'm new too and lurk alot. I am not yet scheduled for surgery. I will be self pay in Mexico. Finally decided on a surgeon. Good luck to you with your surgery.

[mnbsleeve 87]

Wanted to wish you both the best of luck with the upcomming surgery! For me this has been an incredible journey!!! It's an adjustment, but well worth it! Keep us posted!

[Joni 94]

Hi - Good luck to you. I'm set for 4/23 surgery. I too have struggled with who/who not to tell, especially some in my family who will try to talk me out of it and think I've lost my mind. And I've been told by some medical professionals that I carry my weight well and don't look like what I weigh. Um, thanks? My joints know. I'm so glad to have found this site and all the support here.

[chitowngirl 884]

Hello, I am schedules for 3/27. I understand exactly what your going through. I also have not really told anyone with the exception of my husband, my best friend, and my aunt. I also don't want the sympathy comments or to plane be judged. As far as I'm concerned it's my struggle, and my decision. Best of luck. Please keep us updated post surgery.

[RettaB 0]

Thanks. I love this site and the support here. Everyone is so eager to help. Want to wish everyone luck and much success with your upcoming surgeries.

[CindyGo1313 13]

Yeah I know what you mean about telling people. The only reason my Co-workers found out about my surgery was because it says leave of absence next to my name on the work schedule.everyone that I have told (including family) has tried to talk me out of it. "you're too young" "you're not even that big" "why don't you try good ol'fashion diet and exercise". .... Well because its my own personal choice so don't worry your little head about it good luck and we will be healthy and fit soon

[CindyGo1313 13]

Yeah I know what you mean about telling people. The only reason my Co-workers found out about my surgery was because it says leave of absence next to my name on the work schedule.everyone that I have told (including family) has tried to talk me out of it. "you're too young" "you're not even that big" "why don't you try good ol'fashion diet and exercise". .... Well because its my own personal choice so don't worry your little head about it good luck and we will be healthy and fit soon

[Nursemichele613 7]

Hi - Good luck to you. I'm set for 4/23 surgery. I too have struggled with who/who not to tell' date=' especially some in my family who will try to talk me out of it and think I've lost my mind. And I've been told by some medical professionals that I carry my weight well and don't look like what I weigh. Um, thanks? My joints know. I'm so glad to have found this site and all the support here.[/quote']

Hey Joni... I am your "Sleeve Sister" I am being sleeved on April 23 rd as well. I am going to Mexico and Dr. Kelly will be doing my surgery. I am looking forward to my journey and am ready! Hope w an keep in touch and follow each others progress. God luck to you and your journey.

[Nomadgirl 37]

Been pursuing the idea for quite some time. Originally discussed the band, but my surgeon persuaded me to go with the sleeve. I'm certain it's a better choice, especially after reading the statistics and failure rates of the band.

I'm not really telling people about the surgery (those that I had to tell *something* to get the hernia repair line). I made this decision to keep it quiet for many reasons; I really don't want to have to hear about everybody's third cousin's neighbor who gained it all back/went insane/died from weight loss surgery. I don't want the people around me to feel like they have to modify their behavior in my presence... I don't want anyone feeling guilty about eating in front of me, or wanting to meet at a restaurant or any of the hundreds of food-centric social invitations I would likely be left out of.

My weight has never been a topic of conversation among friends (at least not to my face). Most of them would be shocked to learn that at my highest, I was basically 150 pounds overweight. My surgeon actually commented that I hide it extremely well.

I have not yet decided how to explain the upcoming weight loss. One thing for certain is that I don't want to become one of those people who obsessively talk about their weight loss or new workout routines or lists of acceptable foods. I can certainly understand wanting to share those successes with others, but frankly, I don't want to hear all the stories about your new 6 month old baby, either!

I realize that probably makes me a terrible person. I'm ok with that.

My partner has been on the liquid diet these past two weeks, which I'm sure he thinks is being really supportive. And I recognize that it is really sweet of him, but it's frustrating to me the big deal he's making of wanting to eat "bad food" (which for him and his 23BMI includes Subway) when I'm constantly starving. He "cheated" last night with an almond butter sandwich on whole grain bread.

Seriously? Talk to me when you find yourself shoveling pizza flavored Combos in your mouth as fast as you can move your hands. My car smells like potato chips and shame!

I understand the need of the prep diet, but it's borderline torture when you don't have the physical barrier to eating (the sleeve) in place. A half cup of cottage chees in my normal sized stomach is a joke, right?

At any rate, I appreciate this board. I've read nearly everything over the past several weeks and found there is a huge difference in every single person's experience, and doctor's instructions. The one thing I've seen in common is that the people here are overwhelmingly supportive and no one regrets their decision to do the surgery.

I'm not really nervous. I trust my surgeon and feel like I'm well informed. Education and knowledge are the antidote to fear, right?

Anyway, thanks for reading my novel here... I thought it was time to introduce myself finally.

So, um... Hi!

Hello!! Best wishes!