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2 more days until I get to really get started losing my 240 pounds! I so can't wait! I am getting pretty nervous/scared though.

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It's normal to be a little freaked out just before surgery! It will be fine, though. Hang in there and be prepared for a wild, thrilling ride! :)

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So EXCITING!! I would do it over and over and over again! Good Luck!!

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YAYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYYY! It is really common to become really fearful and anxious right up to the point of the surgery. We have all experienced that. You will be fine and love your sleeve and your new body! CONGRATS! It's almost here. ;)

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Everyone experiences that and then you look back and think wow... why was I so fearful. It is very natural. You will do wonderful. Congrats.!

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I know it is totally normal to feel that way....it's why I keep trying to focus on all the positives....and all the things that I will be happier doing...

This will sound retarded to most...but for those of us who are larger may understand...the thing that I am looking forward to the most is wearing some 6 inch heels and not feeling like I am going to break my neck...or an ankle...I may splurge and buy me a most awesome pair when I get to that stage!

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Don't be afraid, God will watch over you and your doctors and you will come through this like a champion. I am scheduled for surgery on March 15, and I don't allow myself time to be fearful, because I lean on my Faith, and I understand whom it is that I belong to. I really believe this, " If God brings you to it, He will see you through it!"

I to have a silly thing I am looking forward too, and that is to wear a belt with a cute blouse and really have a waist without wearing a waist reducting garment or spannx

under it for shape, because I'm sooooooo tired of the "Girdle Garments!"

P.S. I will put you in my prayers

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I'm so excited for you!!!!! Everything will turn out GREAT!!!

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I weighed a little under 400 lbs for a very long time. I was in my early 20s the last time I was at my goal weight. Girl, you got me beat on the 6" heels. I can go about 3.5" before they just hurt too much. Plus I'm a hair taller than 5'10 so can you say Amazon?

Anyway, with my lapband I got close to goal. Close enough that it seemed doable. Here are some of the other things I suspect you might enjoy, whether you're actually thinking about them or not. If you feel nervous, focus on these. Maybe it will just make you more nervous, but it's working for me. :)

Every hesitate going somewhere, or purposely avoid, or try and scope it out ahead of time, because you're afraid the chairs will have arms and you won't fit? That will become a thing of the past. And the first time you sit at that booth and realize not only is your stomach NOT being cut by the table, but you actually have room to spare, it's all gonna be sooo worth it.

Do you ever (like every day) beat yourself up because you know you should be doing something about your weight, but aren't? Imagine the first time you can stop yourself mid-thought and realize I'm freaking doing it.

Have you ever lost the weight, or part of it, before? Have you done it again and again? I can lose weight, no problem. I cannot maintain weightloss. I go from a state of losing, to a state of gaining. Stop thinking about the weight you're going to lose, and start thinking about the weight you're never going to have to lose again. See the difference?

One day, probably sooner than you think, you're going to be walking somewhere and pass in front of a window, and for a split second you're not going to know who's in your reflection. You might even think something kind of strange like, "Oh, weird, that girl has my same skirt on..." before your brain can process that it IS you.

You're going to feel very proud of yourself when you leave food on your plate. It's an odd sort of "atta boy" to your ego. Of course, your wait staff will just think the food was bad, or that you're trying to impress someone. F em.

You're going to find some happy discomforts. Like maybe the way you sit in your car, if you prop your left knee against the door, you're going to realize that knee bone is hitting in the door and it hurts. But around the same time, you're also going to realize you can get your seatbelt on, even if you're wearing a coat, and still be able to move.

One of these days you're going to have your hands crossed and it's just going to kapow hit you how slender your fingers are. And around that time, your shoes are going to start sliding off your feet. We forget about things like our fingers, feet, ankles...

Oh, and do you get cankles if you sit for too long? That tends to go away too, or at least really really lessen.

That bump in your chest that might freak you out? That's a bone. You're gonna have a lot of 'em. The first time I saw my collarbones casting a shadow on my chest? Hmm what did I do, actually... probably strutted around like I was a skinny minny.

Now, no nerves, only smiles. :)

I know it is totally normal to feel that way....it's why I keep trying to focus on all the positives....and all the things that I will be happier doing...

This will sound retarded to most...but for those of us who are larger may understand...the thing that I am looking forward to the most is wearing some 6 inch heels and not feeling like I am going to break my neck...or an ankle...I may splurge and buy me a most awesome pair when I get to that stage!

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I weighed a little under 400 lbs for a very long time. I was in my early 20s the last time I was at my goal weight. Girl, you got me beat on the 6" heels. I can go about 3.5" before they just hurt too much. Plus I'm a hair taller than 5'10 so can you say Amazon?

Anyway, with my lapband I got close to goal. Close enough that it seemed doable. Here are some of the other things I suspect you might enjoy, whether you're actually thinking about them or not. If you feel nervous, focus on these. Maybe it will just make you more nervous, but it's working for me. :)

Every hesitate going somewhere, or purposely avoid, or try and scope it out ahead of time, because you're afraid the chairs will have arms and you won't fit? That will become a thing of the past. And the first time you sit at that booth and realize not only is your stomach NOT being cut by the table, but you actually have room to spare, it's all gonna be sooo worth it.

Do you ever (like every day) beat yourself up because you know you should be doing something about your weight, but aren't? Imagine the first time you can stop yourself mid-thought and realize I'm freaking doing it.

Have you ever lost the weight, or part of it, before? Have you done it again and again? I can lose weight, no problem. I cannot maintain weightloss. I go from a state of losing, to a state of gaining. Stop thinking about the weight you're going to lose, and start thinking about the weight you're never going to have to lose again. See the difference?

One day, probably sooner than you think, you're going to be walking somewhere and pass in front of a window, and for a split second you're not going to know who's in your reflection. You might even think something kind of strange like, "Oh, weird, that girl has my same skirt on..." before your brain can process that it IS you.

You're going to feel very proud of yourself when you leave food on your plate. It's an odd sort of "atta boy" to your ego. Of course, your wait staff will just think the food was bad, or that you're trying to impress someone. F em.

You're going to find some happy discomforts. Like maybe the way you sit in your car, if you prop your left knee against the door, you're going to realize that knee bone is hitting in the door and it hurts. But around the same time, you're also going to realize you can get your seatbelt on, even if you're wearing a coat, and still be able to move.

One of these days you're going to have your hands crossed and it's just going to kapow hit you how slender your fingers are. And around that time, your shoes are going to start sliding off your feet. We forget about things like our fingers, feet, ankles...

Oh, and do you get cankles if you sit for too long? That tends to go away too, or at least really really lessen.

That bump in your chest that might freak you out? That's a bone. You're gonna have a lot of 'em. The first time I saw my collarbones casting a shadow on my chest? Hmm what did I do, actually... probably strutted around like I was a skinny minny.

Now, no nerves, only smiles. :)

You are making me So excited!!!! Thanks for putting things into real life experiences! It makes such a difference! :) I have noticed my stomach doesn't touch my steering wheel anymore! WOOHOO! I love having my jeans feel loose. Being able to tie my shoes w/o unzipping my pants! ;) LOL! This is Awesome!!!

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